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Posted 8/17/13 , edited 8/19/13
So, as the topic states, that's kind of the question on my mind. I've been having to move to a new location every six months because I can't find work, and I'm fearing that its the reason I am now so far in debt for anything, but I wanted to know. Is moving around so much good, or is it actually hurting me in the long run?

I ask this because I can't seem to get past the interview at any job I get the interview for, and one of the chief questions they ask is what brings me to the city. And, since I'm very truthful, I always say because I didn't really have a choice. And soon I'm gonna have to move again for the same reason and then again in another six months and I honestly don't think its helping my depression all that much.

EDIT: So, this has caused some confusion. I'm unfortunately in a predicament when I say I have no choice I should have added constantly being kicked out. So, I really don't have the ability to implement a lot of the support I've been recieving here, but I thank everyone for it.
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I honestly think it does. Since you're constantly moving from one place to another, adjusting yourself to the place is really stressing.
Posted 8/17/13
Very True sometimes its just that hard to move place to place once you got settled in ^ ^
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Been in a similar situation before, except it was a job that was moving me around. Trouble with always moving is that you can't put down roots, build a network of friends for fun and crucially, support. That suits some people, other people can keep moving and wind up with a network of a few friends in every city they wind up in, but thats very very hard IMO - believe me I've tried it. If you are young and struggling, I'd suggest perhaps you might want to think about building up your network of peers. Makes finding roommates, even jobs far easier, and you've got people to destress and share problems with. It'll make the depression far easier to cope with.

As for that answer to the interview question, that is what they *don't* want to hear. If you're saying you've no choice but to be in that city then you come across as not being in that interview by will, i.e. you're forced into it rather than wanting the job. You don't have to lie, but you need to be saying something more positive - say you are in the city because you've seen good job opportunities. You can be truthful while always putting a positive spin on things. Hard if you aren't naturally positive or suffering from depression, yes, but you can easily fake it so start practising :P

Do not leave the depression untreated by the way - it can make things seem worse than they are and even get in the way of tackling the things making you depressed in the first place. Talk to a doctor. If Oregon is the place you are currently in, also try something like http://www.meetup.com/Portland-Anxiety-Depression-Group/ - I'm sure there are plenty of other resources and people who can point you towards things that will help.
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Thanks for the advise everyone.

And I have seen therapists in college for my depression. It has a lot to do with my family and issues that I shouldn't really discuss here. I'd be able to because I'm more on ease when on the Crunchyroll forums than other places. Unfortunately, what few friends I have are those that think I'm exaggerating the issue or have seen my family's thing first hand. I've been thrown out of my parents house, and have been having to move ever since, and if I don't find a job by the end of next month I'm gonna get thrown out of another home, but that's my problem and I think I"m just venting now so I'll stop.
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Posted 8/18/13
Don't give up...I think your willingness to move is courageous and an advantage. Have you tried any temp agencies? They're good for people who don't interview well...once you're in the temp agency's system they just send you to a job when one becomes available, and your work can do the talking for you. You can look for a full time job while temping, and you might have one of your temp employers take a liking to you and offer a full-time position. I got a job that way.

In any case, good luck! I know depression can't be dispelled with encouragement alone, but I'll be saying a prayer for you.
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I grew up with my pops in the military and moved around a ton because of it. When I was younger I hated it because it meant moving away from friends and new schools and such but looking back I'm kinda glad I did. It gave me a chance to meet a lot of people and experience things I never would have if I would have stayed in the same place. Though I know our situations are a bit different what it really comes down to is how you interpret it. If you can find the bright side of moving around a lot then it might make the move easier for you. I know its not something that is easily done as said though. Anyways, good luck on the job hunt
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Posted 8/18/13
moving often definitely hurts you in the long run. and not just financially but also emotionally cause one its very draining and two you never end up staying in a place long enough to make friends and set down roots you know? and most people dont think about it that much but we as human beings need stability. we need a place to call home, a place that will always be home or at least for a long period of time. some where we can feel safe. but if your always moving you never really get to have that feeling. sorry that finding a job has been so difficult and i know sometimes if there is just no work to be found you dont have much of a choice to move. but my advice would be to try and avoid moving unless you have a job waiting for you where your moving to. make sure you walking into something more secure then what you have so you know its worth the time money and emotions of moving.
Posted 8/18/13 , edited 8/21/13
I am actually really good at interviews because I know what management wants in an employee. Be it a interview with a management position or a entry position...you can ask me about either, and I am sure my input will help. Since I think your talking about an entry position I will go that route. I respect your honesty, but when management ask what brings you to their city-you can still be honest with a different answer(management wants a fresh new face who is optimistic, energetic, confident and happy to work for their company).
It is also truthful to say something like " I came to your city looking for oppertunity and I believe that one of the important steps is finding a job/career and decided on your company" , but don't end it there...next talk about some things about their city that you actually like. Before you go to the city Google some facts about it, also while answering the city question, tell them that you did a detailed research on the city before moving there(which would be truthful and it would score major points with the interviewer...trust me ).

I really understand about the stress that comes with moving, because I recently moved to a new location.
I hope I helped at least a little...you don't have to use my quote verbatim... you change it to your liking, but keep the main message.
Posted 8/18/13
Darn that sucks. Wish you luck.
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Posted 8/19/13
Thank you everyone. ^-^ You are so much more helpful than other forums I asked this question too. One actually just berated me about my interview skills. And, unfortunately, it wasn't very clear in my original post and I should edit it, but I actually have been moving because I've been being kicked out.
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Posted 8/21/13
Of course it's not good to move all the time, but I guess you have to. It's gotta be really rough, and the depression is understandable. Hopefully you can find something soon.
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Posted 8/22/13
Just keep looking and you'll find work. All you have to do is not stop looking. And moving around is good in my opinion. I wish i could move that much and expand my horizons. I wanna live in Seattle, Cleveland or Dallas someday.
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Posted 8/22/13 , edited 8/22/13

gameotaku101 wrote:

So, as the topic states, that's kind of the question on my mind. I've been having to move to a new location every six months because I can't find work, and I'm fearing that its the reason I am now so far in debt for anything, but I wanted to know. Is moving around so much good, or is it actually hurting me in the long run?

I ask this because I can't seem to get past the interview at any job I get the interview for, and one of the chief questions they ask is what brings me to the city. And, since I'm very truthful, I always say because I didn't really have a choice. And soon I'm gonna have to move again for the same reason and then again in another six months and I honestly don't think its helping my depression all that much.

EDIT: So, this has caused some confusion. I'm unfortunately in a predicament when I say I have no choice I should have added constantly being kicked out. So, I really don't have the ability to implement a lot of the support I've been recieving here, but I thank everyone for it.


you might want to go to a career counselor. your local unemployment office will be able to give you free help. they can help you write a marketable resume, as well as offer classes on interview techniques. don't be so honest. lie, lie lie. if they ask you why you came to that city, say something like "i moved here because the cost of living was low, the educational sytem is excellent, there are more oppertunities in my chosn profession, or to be closer to family". tailor your responses to meet that job. do some research on the company and position first. tell them why hiring you would be the best investment their company could make. and go to a doctor about your depression. look online for free clinics near you if you don't have insurance. never quit a job before you have another one in hand. constantly switching jobs makes you look unreliable. unless your in the military moving every 6 months is bad. try temporary work until you find what you are looking for. take 1 class at a community college, so you can lie and say you are here for school and that you work history is so sporadic because you are working part time while being a student. don't be too proud to work at mcdonalds. you don't work you don't eat. also you can do volunteer work to gain experience in different fields. also why are you always being kicked out? is it because you can't pay rent or because you are terrible room mate(messy,loud,steals,does drugs etc). if you can't pay rent and are staying with family or firends, try and work out an arrangement where you do chores or buy food. don't just freeload. i've been kicked out of my parents house for being unemployed before. i lived with my aunts and did all the cooking and cleaning to pay for my stay. also make sure you follow the house rules. if you live somewhere that doesn't allow smoking,drinking,overnight visits with your lover, then don't do those things. if you live on your own try getting a roommate to split the costs.if worst comes to worst go to a homeless shelter in the city you are at, so you can at least keep working
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Posted 8/22/13
Yeah, you have to lie.

I know it sucks, but it has to be done. It's supposed to make sense that you get rewarded for your truthfulness but this is often not the case. It's good that you have a sense of honesty, though. It's sort of like how people are raised to like creativity but in actuality very few jobs (comparatively) embrace it or encourage it. It's always just 'follow the rules and obey the system' with everything, the opposite of creativity and free thought.
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