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Kiss or Hug? -- on the first date.
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Posted 8/25/13
In my case, most likely neither. I've never been on a 'date' per se, though, so I'm not really sure. My first and only relationship started long-distance, so when we met up, we were pretty comfortable with each other already. In the case of a date, I'd be extremely uncomfortable letting someone into my personal space as early as the first date, so unless I'd known her beforehand, even a hug would not be happening.
Posted 8/25/13 , edited 8/25/13
I actually did kiss someone on a first date, but then again we'd known each other for months and talked a long time before actually meeting (every single day on top of that)...So it didn't feel odd whatsoever.

I guess it's personal choice, but I personally feel you should know someone pretty well before going for the kiss. I would not kiss someone I just met for a first date, or barely knew. I'm not even sure if I would hug them.
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Posted 8/25/13
Hug. Kiss is a bit too far.
Posted 8/25/13
Straight to the bedroom.


I don't follow rules in love books. Not calling myself a rebel either, I just have a different mentality from most people. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Who cares about playing by the rules and trying to make myself look good?
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Yeah, it really does just depend on the person and the circumstances, how we're getting along together in said moment.

Though, I like to tease girls with a kiss on the cheek after I hug them when walking them to their door after our night is up. :3
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27 / M / アビス
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Really depends on how long ive known the person. If its a first date and we have only known eachother for a short while, i doubt id kiss them, but if they were a friend for a while or i have known them for a while before the date then a kiss is valid.
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25 / M / Missouri
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Posted 8/25/13 , edited 8/25/13
Sex.
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29 / M / Germany
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I say hug XD
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23 / M / Towcester
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Posted 8/25/13

mhibicke wrote:

Breaking it down into a system like that is a bad idea. Fooling around shouldn't have a timetable, and everyone you date will be different. Better to just go with the flow. Also, never just grab a girl and start doing stuff to her. Get permission before you touch any part of her other than her hands and arms.


A lot of women also complain that men don't "just go for it". I've even heard of girls batting a guy's hands away, only to later complain that they didn't have sex, effectively saying they wanted the guy to just hold her down and rape her... Obviously, that's an extreme case, involving a rather idiotic woman, but it happens to lesser degrees all the time.

The difference between "Romantic and spontaneous" and "Rapey and aggressive" is a thin line, dictated by the often indeterminable whims of the woman.

I probably wouldn't kiss, just because I have next to no experience, and therefore it would probably leave her disappointed. If she made out like she wanted to kiss, I'd probably just go for a peck, since then the lack of experience wouldn't show.
I'd gesture for a hug. and If she refused, then I imagine there probably wouldn't be a second date (something is rather wrong if you won't hug someone you've just been on a date with). I'd take that to be a pretty clear sign that she had no intention of continuing.
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Posted 8/25/13 , edited 8/25/13

Richybabes wrote:
A lot of women also complain that men don't "just go for it". I've even heard of girls batting a guy's hands away, only to later complain that they didn't have sex, effectively saying they wanted the guy to just hold her down and rape her... Obviously, that's an extreme case, involving a rather idiotic woman, but it happens to lesser degrees all the time.

Uhh... I don't think it works like that. It's possible to be both sexually aggressive and respectfully aware. It's not even difficult - you just ask, "Can I touch you like this?" If she says yes, all systems are go. If she says no, you back off and drop her like a hot rock. If she says not right now, then you ask her when it would be okay.

Women don't complain when they're not raped; women complain when their date is an idiot who tries to put sexual encounters on a schedule rather than paying attention to when they want some sex.
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Posted 8/25/13
Just converse on the first date. Hug on the fifth date. Kiss on the 10th date, but only after you've met the parents.
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22 / M / Ireland
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Posted 8/25/13
Depends how well the date goes, if you do however get her back to your place and she dose not like it don't offer her a full refund.
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22 / F / Planet Earth
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Posted 8/25/13
If we really connected I dont see why we shouldnt kiss!
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30 / F
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Posted 8/25/13
I think it would really depend on how the date goes for me, and the chemistry between us.
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33 / M / Colorado Springs,...
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Posted 8/25/13
face hug,... with kissing.
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