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Your thoughts on sex and virginity
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Posted 9/6/13 , edited 9/6/13
Do it with someone you like and someone who likes you back. Don't let others tell you when you are ready, because only you will know that. If you are unsure, don't do it, because then you will regret it.

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Posted 9/6/13
I don't believe there's a single answer to this question. I mean, a quick scan of the posts here reveals all kinds of opinions:

Not until I'm married.

I lost my virginity when I was Thirteen.

I want to be in a relationship for a year before I lose my virginity. (Good luck with that!)

etc.

Here's the thing: Sexual relations mean different things to different people. Some want to wait until they find a person they have a special 'spark' with, some want to wait until after marriage, some people can't wait to experiment with sex and some people find the whole concept of sex ridiculous or disgusting or both.
The truth is, there are no wrong answers. Sex is like art (and, if done right, can actually be an art I guess!) in that the meaning and emotions that it invokes are purely subjective. Surely the best answer to this thread is just be safe, don't allow yourself to ever be pressured into anything and, this is worth emphasizing, do not judge others for their life choices.
Posted 9/9/13
I don't think it matters really.
Virginity is a stupid thing to get so worked up over. Sex is great, as long as it is consensual and you are safe you should have it and experiment!

Also, why do people get upset that others have a lot of sex? Are they hurting you? No, and unless they get a STD or some shit they're not hurting themselves. Let people do what they want as long as they aren't breaking any laws or hurting one another. Nothing wrong with sex.

It's fun and feels great, so why the fuck not?
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Posted 9/9/13
I'd like to save myself for marriage, but the chances of me getting a girlfriend decreases by the day.
Posted 9/10/13 , edited 9/10/13
I don't care about marriage. But I don't see the point in trying to have sex with everyone, either. Why do you need to sleep with EVERYBODY? Some if not most of these people you do it with are probably not going to be as good a partner to you as maybe ONE person was, and I would think you'd want the best for yourself? It's too late for me to keep mine, but if I could go back and save it for someone who was really right for me, I would. And them being the right one for me does not guarantee marriage. What it does most likely guarantee is that I will be with them and care for them for the rest of my life. Hope that's good enough without a bunch of papers, and me taking your last name or whatever else it includes.

Posted 9/10/13
I'd like to save myself for marriage
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Posted 9/10/13
I never saw it as a big deal. I lost mine a while ago and cant say that I regret it. Idk, to me its just sex, its nothing special. That doesn't mean that I don't respect her views on it though (if she's not down then she's not down, and I'm not going to try to change that) and I'm not the type of guy who goes for it on the first date, or even the first few.
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Posted 9/10/13

minatothegreatjiraiya wrote:

One's virginity is a very special thing, and most guys are terrible, so...


I unfortunately have to agree with this. While I was a virgin all through high school I wasn't in college and became a terrible person in regards to how I treated women.

To each their own as I say. As long as people don't force you to do something you don't want to do just enjoy life. I'm hoping karma doing come and bite me in the ass when my daughter gets older and starts dating.
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Tl;dr: genitalia is disgusting and I wouldn't touch it with a 10 foot pole.


Truth.
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Posted 9/10/13 , edited 9/10/13

anti-lambsacrifice wrote:

I don't care about marriage. But I don't see the point in trying to have sex with everyone, either. Why do you need to sleep with EVERYBODY? Some if not most of these people you do it with are probably not going to be as good a partner to you as maybe ONE person was, and I would think you'd want the best for yourself? It's too late for me to keep mine, but if I could go back and save it for someone who was really right for me, I would. And them being the right one for me does not guarantee marriage. What it does most likely guarantee is that I will be with them and care for them for the rest of my life. Hope that's good enough without a bunch of papers, and me taking your last name or whatever else it includes.



Next to no one one actually tries to "sleep with everybody," so what are you really talking about? Why do you care about the choices other people make that don't affect you?
Posted 9/11/13 , edited 9/11/13

justapersonwatchinganime wrote:


anti-lambsacrifice wrote:

I don't care about marriage. But I don't see the point in trying to have sex with everyone, either. Why do you need to sleep with EVERYBODY? Some if not most of these people you do it with are probably not going to be as good a partner to you as maybe ONE person was, and I would think you'd want the best for yourself? It's too late for me to keep mine, but if I could go back and save it for someone who was really right for me, I would. And them being the right one for me does not guarantee marriage. What it does most likely guarantee is that I will be with them and care for them for the rest of my life. Hope that's good enough without a bunch of papers, and me taking your last name or whatever else it includes.



Next to no one one actually tries to "sleep with everybody," so what are you really talking about? Why do you care about the choices other people make that don't affect you?


I'm glad "next" to no one does it. Hopefully that means the problem is mostly resolved.

If ever I see something that I don't believe is right (perhaps with good reason,) I think it helpful to address it.




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Posted 9/12/13
I can agree with you. Why would you sleep with someone if they dont really care about you, they just want pleasure. i pray for young girls and guys. I hope they use their heads when it comes to relationships. Why would you have sex with someone your not even suppose to be with? someting to think about.
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Posted 9/12/13
Who needs a GF/Waifu when you have Nendoroids...?
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Posted 9/20/13 , edited 9/21/13
I lost mine and I am not married, so I think that answers that question. I lost it to someone that I was in a monogamous and serious relationship with when I was 18 (almost 19) and I have no regrets about it. When I was a younger teenager I knew I would loose it when I was in a serious relationship with someone and probably before we got married. I did not want to loose it in a one night stand either.

I feel weird saying this, but I would like to try it before I buy it. Physical intimacy means a lot to me in my relationships because it is a special connection that the two of you share and if that does not feel right, then the overall relationship feels off. However, I know this is unique and different for everyone based on their ideals so to each their own as long as they are not breaking laws or killing things in the process.

I think it all boils down to is what feels right to you and making sure that the decision to loose your V card is your own.
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Posted 9/20/13
I was raised in a conservative Christian family, in Asian culture too. So it's only normal to wait after marriage.
But after living in the US for a while, I don't even care that much anymore. If I'm serious with someone I'll do it.
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