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Have you ever lost someone?
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Have you ever lost someone close to you if so who, what did it make you feel and what do think have become of them after death.

If there is an identical topic feel free to close it :D

I guess I can start.

When I was about 1 years old we moved from Norway to Qatar because my father had an engineering job down there. We lived there for about half a year until my father became ill and got a blood-clog. We had to get out of the country fast to as at that time Qatar wasn't very friendly towards women.

We flew back home to Norway with little of money, but we managed. I still feel very sad over the fact that I never really got to experience what it's like to have a father, a normal family. It has since been only me and my mom.

I envy friends that have their fathers, or just the whole family in general, every time I go visit one of them I start to think about how life would be if he was still alive. Maybe I would have had a brother or a sister, these are things I will never know. But even though all of this I still like the way my life is, I have a fantastic mom, good friends and there are only certain times that i get those moments where I get really depressed, and actually just angry at people who have their family ( I know it's silly but I still sometimes do)

And for the question of what i think has happened to him after he died I have to say i honestly don't know. I do not believe in Christianity or any other religion for that matter, but I don't know what happens. Does something that would constitute as a ''soul'' still live on or would there just be emptiness, I have to say I don't know.
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I've lost a cat before....

But I'm sorry to hear about your father dying.


In all serious though...
Out off all 5 of my dad's kids, I was the one that got abandoned. The last time I saw him was when I was 11. He was never a good dad to begin with though, I barely saw him.
I never felt the need to have a dad. I've never had a good family life, either.

I've never lost anything because I've never had much to lose.
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ikano1 wrote:


And for the question of what i think has happened to him after he died I have to say i honestly don't know. I do not believe in Christianity or any other religion for that matter, but I don't know what happens. Does something that would constitute as a ''soul'' still live on or would there just be emptiness, I have to say I don't know.


This might be little consolation, but there is a lot of you that is from your dad. Some of the way that you think, what you look like, some feelings, and how you are on the inside are partly from your parents. Also, the effect he had on your mom and you (before he died) are also from him. If you ever get to missing him, maybe a little self reflection might help. It's not as easy as buying hot dogs at a baseball game, but it's something. Keep smiling and try not to let the hatred take over.
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Catzombiez wrote:

I've lost a cat before....

But I'm sorry to hear about your father dying.


In all serious though...
Out off all 5 of my dad's kids, I was the one that got abandoned. The last time I saw him was when I was 11. He was never a good dad to begin with though, I barely saw him.
I never felt the need to have a dad. I've never had a good family life, either.

I've never lost anything because I've never had much to lose.




Well this is a sad thread. You got dealt a bad hand, but it's up to you to play the rest how you want. Cheering for you.
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I did not grow up with my parents. My grandma is pretty much my adoptive mother.

I lost my grandfather when I was in 6th grade. It was July 4.

I've also lost several dogs and pets, but that's not surprising. I always have dogs.
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Tragedy is pretty much the story of my life. It's gotten to the point where I don't even know the meaning of the words "empathy" or "sympathy". I usually just brush off people's sympathy when they give it because 9 times out of 10 they just want to feel good about it and be polite. I despise it, in fact. I never even tell people that it bothers me though. I usually just give a and drive on. I never give it in return.
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firefox39 wrote:

Tragedy is pretty much the story of my life. It's gotten to the point where I don't even know the meaning of the words "empathy" or "sympathy". I usually just brush off people's sympathy when they give it because 9 times out of 10 they just want to feel good about it and be polite. I despise it, in fact. I never even tell people that it bothers me though. I usually just give a and drive on. I never give it in return.


Yeah I kinda feel that way to sometimes when people are like "where's your dad?" And I say hes dead then they're like oh I'm sorry. Which is just become this formality to say to someone. So yes I also become kinda sick of stuff like that, though sometimes it makes me not really feel better, but just happier (which is a form for better so don't know what im rambling about :P) but comments like isisprinces do make me feel genuinly better. I just think it's the fact that people just need that special combination of words that makes them happy. For me tahts just listening to sad music, because I just like to get the "sadness" out of me XD.

But I don't know what I could say to make you feel better, I could say all the cliche stuff, like it' gonna get better or something along those lines.But I can't, and it's just up to the fact that I believe that you have to hear those specific lines that hiys you in "the feels"
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Honestly, nothing has happened since '08, and the rest hasn't died; I just moved away, and I'm about to move again.
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Catzombiez wrote:

I've lost a cat before....

But I'm sorry to hear about your father dying.
I'll tell my friend this the next time she pours her heart out
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FlyinDumpling wrote:


Catzombiez wrote:

I've lost a cat before....

But I'm sorry to hear about your father dying.
I'll tell my friend this the next time she pours her heart out



Is that serious or are you making fun of me? o.O
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As a soldier i have lost friends, colleagues, family, and parts of myself.

A Grandfather in Korea, and Uncle in Vietnam, my father to Gulf War Syndrome, a very close friend in 2009 in Iraq and another just a few weeks ago in Afghanistan. The use of my legs in 2012.

Not to be harsh or a downer but i learn that life is a very fleeting thing. Life to me is like walking through a very dense forest. At first you have a lot of people or maybe not so many. You pick and follow paths others have cut or you run off to forge your own way. You meet friends, enemies, rival and strangers in this great forest. When you ask what everyone else is looking for, they tell you different things. So you keep walking, running, sprinting or crawling. Maybe you meet someone who wants to walk the path with you. Maybe they are just on the other side of those bushes. Sometimes you trip and they help you up, or leave you behind. But you have to keep moving. Even when the forest trips you keep going. You are going to find it, that one thing you are in the forest to get.

I know that was a wall of text and i apologize for rambling. The short of it is, the only way i found to keep living after loss is to see what was lost, and make the changes that are needed (grieve when you need to, talk to who you need to talk to) and then get back to living. Keep walking that path, for you. For me. For everyone who has come before you, and those who will come after. You are the pathfinder, you are a leaf on the wind.

So hopefully Something, somewhere in my post is able to be useful to you.
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I lost my both my parents at a young age and was then took into foster care, since I didn't really know my parents I didn't have the feelings of losing someone close to me.
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This may sound lame for some, but many times I feel like I have lost myself. I do not give myself the respect I deserve and just settle for very little. I do not feel happy sometimes and it does not help that I am not getting what I deserve. I feel something big and good will come to me for this suffering, but I cannot help to be unhappy with myself and how I allowed myself to be.

I have lost good and old friends. Lots of aunts and uncles. Some closer than others, but that is about it and hopefully it will be it for a long time.
Posted 9/8/13
I've lost family and friends. That's a hard part of life. And others will lose us.
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My grandma just died on Saturday, but even though it was super sad I was happy afterwards because she had suffered from Alzheimer's for 10 years and now she became free.

She was laying there suffering and I thought "please take her, make her happy again" and she died soon after that. I think the spirits of past family members were there to greet her and keep her safe passing on. I have a strong belief in ghosts so I know she is always watching me and even though I can't physically talk to her I think I can talk through thought. I always feel happy after this too, like she is cheering me up.
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