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There are times when we all get our feelings hurt and it's so easy for us to linger around those feelings. How do YOU handle those emotions and "let go"?

Personally I watch anime hehe
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I don't really know how to describe it, I just kinda stop caring about it. I tend to go to parties a lot more when I'm single and meeting new people keeps me busy so I guess that helps.
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You gotta do the 21 days. For that period of time, don't answer her/his texts, calls, emails, FB posts or notes, DO NOT ANSWER ANYTHING! Delete pictures, or make someone else do it because it's pretty emotional. Oh, and try not to listen to music, why? Because it might remind you of things you both did and stuff like that :/
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Do things you enjoy. Also, I know this sounds cliche, but during your letting go phase, volunteer at a nonprofit organization that helps people. Not only will you be helping others, but your mind will also be focused on other things that are positive instead of negative, you will feel good about yourself because in a trivial or major way, you have contributed to the betterment of someone's life. This always helps me whenever I am "letting go" or start to feel depressed.
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I talked to a counsellor once. It helped A LOT! (I mean obviously they don't care about my life story, they got their own life, but the one I called genuinely sounded like she did care! lol and that's why it does help a lot to talk to somebody professional).
And she happened to be a Final Fantasy fan too... lol. Her name was Umi. I still remember her even though it's been 2 years already.



I don't want to go into much details, but when I was 22, I found this guy who I believed to be my soulmate! we went on one date together, and well he gave me the impression that he wanted a relationship with me. So I was very happy, because he looked like Andrew Garfield and very intelligent too!

Anyway, I found out later he didn't want to continue, so my world just collapsed on itself, because at that time, I believed he was the perfect soulmate for me... I didn't believe I could find somebody else who was as perfect... and it was just a really depressing train of thought that lead to deeper depression...


But after I called the counsellor, I felt a bit better, cried on the phone and stuff... lol... kind of embarrassing and like in the movies--when people break down in front of their psychologist.
Posted 9/3/13

KsideHb wrote:

There are times when we all get our feelings hurt and it's so easy for us to linger around those feelings. How do YOU handle those emotions and "let go"?

Personally I watch anime hehe


I WATCH ANIME TOO!!!!!!!!! OR I LISTEN TO MUSIC O_O
But mostly... I really suffer when that happens cause I just feel hollow inside and I try to talk myself into feeling better... @___@ Doesn't work that well.

I think main thing for me is time?
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I just seem to be so forgiving that those feeling just subside all on their own in a day or less and I just go on being my happy little self
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Enjoy the pain is basically my strategy. If you can think of yourself as a fictional character, then experiencing your own emotional damage can be cathartic. Whenever I'm in a terrible mood, I'm usually also in a pretty good mood because I can look at it from the perspective of the 'audience' too. Once it goes away you can look back and think "Wow. I can't believe I felt so hard. Pretty awesome."
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I just naturally turn it off and remember I have been through worse (seriously, what's worse than dying?)
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I just find a way to not care. It's actually pretty easy once you get the hang of it.
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My mom has always told me to think of everyone ells as if they are you and treat them accordingly. But i don't really do that i just let it go because i have had to forgive a lot of people in my life for a lot of bad things and believe me when you dont forgive your friends you loose them and no matter how bad of a thing he or she did its not bad enough to not forgive .Besides im one of those people who believe in the good of people
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KsideHb wrote:

There are times when we all get our feelings hurt and it's so easy for us to linger around those feelings. How do YOU handle those emotions and "let go"?

Personally I watch anime hehe


Go surfing... but if it was a serious situation, book a travel tip
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Is it really that hard to get over things? After a few minutes I'm usually done reacting to whatever kind of stressor/insult/offense set me off. If twenty minutes goes by and I'm not back to normal, then a drink or two takes the edge off.

Every once in a while I find something seriously disturbing and it takes me a few days to get my head right, but until then I tend to keep it to myself and try not to behave inappropriately. For example, a year ago a some friends drunkenly drove themselves off a cliff and only one survived. This bothered me so much that I was unreasonably impatient with the people around me for the rest of the day.

So I know that this story is pretty anticlimactic and boring, but I really just don't get how people can put so much energy into being emotional. Isn't it a huge pain in the ass?
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mhibicke wrote:

Is it really that hard to get over things? After a few minutes I'm usually done reacting to whatever kind of stressor/insult/offense set me off. If twenty minutes goes by and I'm not back to normal, then a drink or two takes the edge off.

Every once in a while I find something seriously disturbing and it takes me a few days to get my head right, but until then I tend to keep it to myself and try not to behave inappropriately. For example, a year ago a some friends drunkenly drove themselves off a cliff and only one survived. This bothered me so much that I was unreasonably impatient with the people around me for the rest of the day.

So I know that this story is pretty anticlimactic and boring, but I really just don't get how people can put so much energy into being emotional. Isn't it a huge pain in the ass?


Hmm well I try real hard to be cool like that and shake it off, but I just can't help but feel emotional at times you know? Of course everyone is made differently but I'm real envious that you can be so controlled that way, it's really cool

And yes, it IS a real pain in the a**
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My school took a three day trip to Washington D.C. last year, and my roommate pissed me off the morning of the second day. I had a crush on a guy, and she knew it, but she was flirting with him anyway. It had been like that for a month, and it wasn't too bad because I wasn't too serious about the guy. She set me off at a museum, when we were in line to see a film. The guy and his group of friends wanted to cut the school behind us, and their teacher got really mad. My roommate did as well, and she yelled at them for trying to cut. After we were let in just to wait on another line, the teacher of the school behind us let forty of the other kids at her school cut everyone else on line. The guy I liked got pissed, and my roommate thought it was her fault and broke down in tears. She was all like, "Oh no, it's all my fault that they're upset! Should I go apologize? He looks so sad..." I was already annoyed, and she was the last straw. I told her off, saying that if she was going to make the decision to say something, she shouldn't regret it. Her twin sister tried to stop me, albeit halfheartedly because we were all thinking the same thing. I told the twin that I was going to speak my mind, and I wasn't going to regret when she ended up crying to herself. She was also really upset that the teacher was being a hypocrite, and she jokes about being one herself all the time.
I found out three weeks later that the guy and my roommate were dating from someone on my bus the guy was friends with. I was kinda over him by then, though. She's been asked if they were dating though, and she's always replied, "I wouldn't date this early! He is kinda cute, but he's more of just a guy friend. I'm not interested at all. I'm just going to focus on my studies. No boys for me until after high school." Yeah, and she got upset because someone else was a hypocrite. She and the guy were keeping it a secret for a reason, though, so I didn't spread the rumor. I was considering it for revenge, but I decided it wasn't worth it.

I don't seem like it, but I'm the type that cries easily when I get upset. Not angry-upset: when that happens, I scream at whoever got me mad. I couldn't exactly cry on the trip, so I ended up holding it in. When I got home, I went straight to bed, listened to my favorite sulking song, and had a good cry. I was fine the next morning.

It's actually still bothering me a bit, and she showed up in my English class today (my first day of high school). At least I got it all out, even if nobody knows who I am here.

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