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How do you "let go"?
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KsideHb wrote:

There are times when we all get our feelings hurt and it's so easy for us to linger around those feelings. How do YOU handle those emotions and "let go"?

Personally I watch anime hehe


I WATCH ANIME TOO!!!!!!!!! OR I LISTEN TO MUSIC O_O
But mostly... I really suffer when that happens cause I just feel hollow inside and I try to talk myself into feeling better... @___@ Doesn't work that well.

I think main thing for me is time?


I totally know that feeling, I LOVE MUSIC AND ANIME when I'm feeling a certain way but the moments after doing whatever I'm doing are the worst when the feelings come back you know? :/

Time really is the best medicine, guess we all need to be strong and just endure it til its over huh?
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I take a very long walk or go on a very long bike ride or swim to try and clear my head.

Then I go treat myself to my favorite things in life.
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My school took a three day trip to Washington D.C. last year, and my roommate pissed me off the morning of the second day. I had a crush on a guy, and she knew it, but she was flirting with him anyway. It had been like that for a month, and it wasn't too bad because I wasn't too serious about the guy. She set me off at a museum, when we were in line to see a film. The guy and his group of friends wanted to cut the school behind us, and their teacher got really mad. My roommate did as well, and she yelled at them for trying to cut. After we were let in just to wait on another line, the teacher of the school behind us let forty of the other kids at her school cut everyone else on line. The guy I liked got pissed, and my roommate thought it was her fault and broke down in tears. She was all like, "Oh no, it's all my fault that they're upset! Should I go apologize? He looks so sad..." I was already annoyed, and she was the last straw. I told her off, saying that if she was going to make the decision to say something, she shouldn't regret it. Her twin sister tried to stop me, albeit halfheartedly because we were all thinking the same thing. I told the twin that I was going to speak my mind, and I wasn't going to regret when she ended up crying to herself. She was also really upset that the teacher was being a hypocrite, and she jokes about being one herself all the time.
I found out three weeks later that the guy and my roommate were dating from someone on my bus the guy was friends with. I was kinda over him by then, though. She's been asked if they were dating though, and she's always replied, "I wouldn't date this early! He is kinda cute, but he's more of just a guy friend. I'm not interested at all. I'm just going to focus on my studies. No boys for me until after high school." Yeah, and she got upset because someone else was a hypocrite. She and the guy were keeping it a secret for a reason, though, so I didn't spread the rumor. I was considering it for revenge, but I decided it wasn't worth it.

I don't seem like it, but I'm the type that cries easily when I get upset. Not angry-upset: when that happens, I scream at whoever got me mad. I couldn't exactly cry on the trip, so I ended up holding it in. When I got home, I went straight to bed, listened to my favorite sulking song, and had a good cry. I was fine the next morning.

It's actually still bothering me a bit, and she showed up in my English class today (my first day of high school). At least I got it all out, even if nobody knows who I am here.



I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through something like that at such a young age. But it's also a good thing that you handled it in a very mature way I guess venting is your sort of way to "let go" huh?
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Hmm well I try real hard to be cool like that and shake it off, but I just can't help but feel emotional at times you know? Of course everyone is made differently but I'm real envious that you can be so controlled that way, it's really cool

And yes, it IS a real pain in the a** :(


Hmm... I wonder if it's your age. Your brain and body keep developing until you're 25, so I bet that you'll be pretty even-keeled in a couple years. Until then, you might find mental discipline very soothing. When something freaks you out, try determining 1) what the problem is, and 2) what you can do to fix it. If you realize that it's someone else's problem, or you can't do anything to fix it, then there is no point in being freaked out about it. Have a couple drinks and play some first-person shooters, you know?
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Personally, being active is therapeutic to idle emotions.
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kuroneko1408 wrote:

My school took a three day trip to Washington D.C. last year, and my roommate pissed me off the morning of the second day. I had a crush on a guy, and she knew it, but she was flirting with him anyway. It had been like that for a month, and it wasn't too bad because I wasn't too serious about the guy. She set me off at a museum, when we were in line to see a film. The guy and his group of friends wanted to cut the school behind us, and their teacher got really mad. My roommate did as well, and she yelled at them for trying to cut. After we were let in just to wait on another line, the teacher of the school behind us let forty of the other kids at her school cut everyone else on line. The guy I liked got pissed, and my roommate thought it was her fault and broke down in tears. She was all like, "Oh no, it's all my fault that they're upset! Should I go apologize? He looks so sad..." I was already annoyed, and she was the last straw. I told her off, saying that if she was going to make the decision to say something, she shouldn't regret it. Her twin sister tried to stop me, albeit halfheartedly because we were all thinking the same thing. I told the twin that I was going to speak my mind, and I wasn't going to regret when she ended up crying to herself. She was also really upset that the teacher was being a hypocrite, and she jokes about being one herself all the time.
I found out three weeks later that the guy and my roommate were dating from someone on my bus the guy was friends with. I was kinda over him by then, though. She's been asked if they were dating though, and she's always replied, "I wouldn't date this early! He is kinda cute, but he's more of just a guy friend. I'm not interested at all. I'm just going to focus on my studies. No boys for me until after high school." Yeah, and she got upset because someone else was a hypocrite. She and the guy were keeping it a secret for a reason, though, so I didn't spread the rumor. I was considering it for revenge, but I decided it wasn't worth it.

I don't seem like it, but I'm the type that cries easily when I get upset. Not angry-upset: when that happens, I scream at whoever got me mad. I couldn't exactly cry on the trip, so I ended up holding it in. When I got home, I went straight to bed, listened to my favorite sulking song, and had a good cry. I was fine the next morning.

It's actually still bothering me a bit, and she showed up in my English class today (my first day of high school). At least I got it all out, even if nobody knows who I am here.



I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through something like that at such a young age. But it's also a good thing that you handled it in a very mature way I guess venting is your sort of way to "let go" huh?


Yeah, something like that. I actually broke down today too. I was already nervous enough about starting high school, and I was called out of sixth period biology because my schedule had to be changed because of "health/safety reasons". Too many people in one class, or something. My bio class, social studies, and math class were changed around. My teachers for bio and math changed, and I have a friend a year above me that had them. He said good things about them, so I was really upset. I also had a really good friend in bio before, and all of that combined with the anxiety from starting at a new school in the first place really got to me. I had a good cry in the guidance office, which isn't a very nice way to meet my new counselor, but oh well. Normally, I don't cry in front of other people, but better just in front of my guidance counselor than my whole class on the first day. I ended up missing math and social studies and had to sit through almost four periods of bio because of the way my classes were switched.
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you just have to find a way to make yourself feel better. find a distraction, sooner or later you'll forget about what you were upset about. In the end you'll come out stronger.
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Eh...it's just kind of easy. With things now I just don't get attached to people so even if things don't go well I just shrug and say oh well. For everything else...I just don't care. Things may bug me a bit and I will mention them to people to get different views if I am interested in an aspect of it but other than that I just stop thinking about it. If it happens to be something that gets to me a bit more I just sleep and by the time I wake up it has been forgotten.
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i just make myself busy with other things that makes me happy ^_^
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you grab a tub of vanilla flavoured ice cream *___*
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Years ago I always used to get butthurt from insults and offensive shit... but the internet has made me not care anymore. Now when I hear an insult/offensive word aimed towards me I usually just laugh or throw an insult back and still laugh.

When I do get ticked off though, I usually just played games with my friends, listen to music, or watch anime; usually feel better after that.
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I tend to mope around. I really hate crying especially in front of others so I try to avoid crying. If I have to cry I'll cry my self to sleep or in the shower. Listening to music that fits my mood helps too
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Well I just think.:

Am I going to give up because of the loss?
Give up on life? Give up on my goals?
The obvious answer is NO

I do this to remind myself that I was(and am) capable of the same strength to live on normally regardless of who or whatever was giving me the feeling of joy or admiration etc.I ask myself those questions because there was a time in life where not even my family was there in a life or death situation,and I had to learn to become a stronger person for the sake of living in this world myself.


There are alot of things that I regret doing or not doing(relationships,basic school etc.). But to dwell on that hoping it will change is useless. Something that only serves to slow me down.(although I do consciously recall those memories so I can learn from them)


The truth is:

I'm not really ready to rely on "crutches" .I had to learn reality very early on. And had to learn that if it comes to it. You will have to do everything yourself..If it's possible to do that. Why bother for help. Why rely on people or things to make myself happy..If I had a better life up to now though. I could probably guarantee that it'd be harder for me to cope with this realization now.

It really relies on the type of person you are,and your experience.. If you are a strong person mentally imo. It may be easier or less stressful to let go and move on.


My view is. "I'm not going to give up anyway.Not on my dreams,not on my goals, not on life.So why mope or let it hinder me?Why not use this experience of learn?The only thing left to do by becoming stronger as a person."I know people may laugh or think I got this off something(anime is probably the more common assumption).But really,Experience drove me to this in all honesty.It's part of a promise I made to myself. Because as much as I could complain or find someone who could care enough share their sympathy.The more I realize that may or may not ever happen.I'm unwilling to ride on chances that compromise myself when I could take a leap and find out for myself. I owe that much and more to myself to strive and become a better person.

I am not going to lie and say that there are some things I'd rather not have to let go of,and emotional feelings go away easy.But I quickly come to terms with the fact that whatever it is won't do me any good pondering over.If It's something I failed at.Then I strive to improve myself for future experiences And if it isn't resolved. Focus on finding the best way to resolve it whenever/if the time presents itself.
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This was vey insightful. That's true you should give up just because you can't do it. "To finish is to win"
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You gotta do the 21 days. For that period of time, don't answer her/his texts, calls, emails, FB posts or notes, DO NOT ANSWER ANYTHING! Delete pictures, or make someone else do it because it's pretty emotional. Oh, and try not to listen to music, why? Because it might remind you of things you both did and stuff like that :/


this one.


People gets into a habit after doing a routine for at least two weeks.
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