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How do you "let go"?
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I make the nastiest dubstep bass I can to just let off steam and it gets my mind of whatever my problem may be too by doing work.
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Look forward and meditate; if you can't achieve happiness by yourself, you can't achieve happiness.

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Posted 9/3/13
Time and staying busy doing thing you like or just something to pass the time.
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*sigh* You and me both. Although Anime really does help me get my mind off of things... But the only donfall to that is if I'm going through a break-up or something like and I see relationships on anime and I'm like "why doesn't she act like this" then it starts over lol
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By looking the other way.
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jackodawhacko wrote:



Personally, being active is therapeutic to idle emotions.


LOL. Awesomeness written all over this truth.



ASVPGreen wrote:

*sigh* You and me both. Although Anime really does help me get my mind off of things... But the only donfall to that is if I'm going through a break-up or something like and I see relationships on anime and I'm like "why doesn't she act like this" then it starts over lol


LOL! I totally feel ya. If only life could be as easy going and beautifully ending like anime huh? Also the worst part too is watching anime to drown your thoughts, but after an episode finishes you kind of snap back into reality like "man ... " LOL!



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Well I just think.:

Am I going to give up because of the loss?
Give up on life? Give up on my goals?
The obvious answer is NO

I do this to remind myself that I was(and am) capable of the same strength to live on normally regardless of who or whatever was giving me the feeling of joy or admiration etc.I ask myself those questions because there was a time in life where not even my family was there in a life or death situation,and I had to learn to become a stronger person for the sake of living in this world myself.


There are alot of things that I regret doing or not doing(relationships,basic school etc.). But to dwell on that hoping it will change is useless. Something that only serves to slow me down.(although I do consciously recall those memories so I can learn from them)


The truth is:

I'm not really ready to rely on "crutches" .I had to learn reality very early on. And had to learn that if it comes to it. You will have to do everything yourself..If it's possible to do that. Why bother for help. Why rely on people or things to make myself happy..If I had a better life up to now though. I could probably guarantee that it'd be harder for me to cope with this realization now.

It really relies on the type of person you are,and your experience.. If you are a strong person mentally imo. It may be easier or less stressful to let go and move on.


My view is. "I'm not going to give up anyway.Not on my dreams,not on my goals, not on life.So why mope or let it hinder me?Why not use this experience of learn?The only thing left to do by becoming stronger as a person."I know people may laugh or think I got this off something(anime is probably the more common assumption).But really,Experience drove me to this in all honesty.It's part of a promise I made to myself. Because as much as I could complain or find someone who could care enough share their sympathy.The more I realize that may or may not ever happen.I'm unwilling to ride on chances that compromise myself when I could take a leap and find out for myself. I owe that much and more to myself to strive and become a better person.

I am not going to lie and say that there are some things I'd rather not have to let go of,and emotional feelings go away easy.But I quickly come to terms with the fact that whatever it is won't do me any good pondering over.If It's something I failed at.Then I strive to improve myself for future experiences And if it isn't resolved. Focus on finding the best way to resolve it whenever/if the time presents itself.


You are so right, thank you for an awesome-well-thought-out post I know the things I'm going through are minor details in my life that may stumble me momentarily but LUCKILY I've never been the type to give up on my dreams because of one thing. Certainly hope nobody else in the community feels like giving up. I admire your optimism!

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I just play video games and watch anime. ^-^
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When I'm miserable, the only thing I know of that always helps me feel a bit better, even if temporarily, is spending all my time making other people (mainly close friends) laugh/smile/in general happy. I'm the type that even when I'm furious or depressed, I'll shrug it off around friends and just focus on them the whole time. And if I can't be around friends during those times, I spend all my time making something (cooking, knitting, crocheting, drawing, writing, etc), crafting and stuff calms me and keeps my mind off things. I can pretty much just put all my focus into that and all my problems seem so far away.
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KsideHb wrote:


ASVPGreen wrote:

*sigh* You and me both. Although Anime really does help me get my mind off of things... But the only donfall to that is if I'm going through a break-up or something like and I see relationships on anime and I'm like "why doesn't she act like this" then it starts over lol


LOL! I totally feel ya. If only life could be as easy going and beautifully ending like anime huh? Also the worst part too is watching anime to drown your thoughts, but after an episode finishes you kind of snap back into reality like "man ... " LOL!


I think we've both been there and know these moments all too well lol
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Haven't gotten to the point of "letting go" honestly.
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KsideHb wrote:


CandyPopShop wrote:


KsideHb wrote:

There are times when we all get our feelings hurt and it's so easy for us to linger around those feelings. How do YOU handle those emotions and "let go"?

Personally I watch anime hehe


I WATCH ANIME TOO!!!!!!!!! OR I LISTEN TO MUSIC O_O
But mostly... I really suffer when that happens cause I just feel hollow inside and I try to talk myself into feeling better... @___@ Doesn't work that well.

I think main thing for me is time?


I totally know that feeling, I LOVE MUSIC AND ANIME when I'm feeling a certain way but the moments after doing whatever I'm doing are the worst when the feelings come back you know? :/

Time really is the best medicine, guess we all need to be strong and just endure it til its over huh?


YEAH! It comes back and like JUST STABS YOU IN THE GUTS RIGHT O_O And you go "OOMPH. that hurt D:

TIME IS THE BEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe if you think of all the good things that happened to you today and wrote it down and tried to ignore the bad things, you will remember the good things in the long run :)

I have a diary. And I write all the blessings that I have. And when I'm angry, I write what's GOOD, not what's BAD.
It turns out my memory doesn't stick to the bad so much because you wrote down the good things ;D

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As they say 'time is the greatest healer'. I'm usually the most hurt when a pet or a loved one dies, but you eventually get over it, or at the very least move on in a way you don't constantly feel down. Try and do things you want to do. For me I can watch anime or play games. Anything to take your mind off it is a good idea.
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It's a long and painful path. Some things, when you knew it was coming, helps soften the blow. Then there are times when it happens so suddenly & your mind can not begin to comprehend.

They say time heals all wounds, I personally think that isn't 100%, it just gets more numb as time goes. Sadly some things I watch bring about all those memories again. Yet I say to myself, what is better: having the memories despite the ache or not living those memories at all.

In the end, you come to a balance/equilibrium in remembering those experiences. That you will remember them forever, only as long as you want them to.

Keeping busy is one option that does work i.e. day out/treat to lighten mood/activities with loved ones, another is letting the tears come (usually better with a shoulder to cry on with) and the other is channelling that raw emotion. I.e. write/sculpting/paint/act etc. These help take that negative emotions and replace it with something wonderful.
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I just feel hollow. I mean, just a few hours ago a cousin of mine died... and I cant even feel a thing. He was an important part of our family and while everyone was there crying I just stand there. I don;t even know why I cant even get myself to react sadly to it.
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