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How do you get over a break-up?
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25 / M / California
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Posted 9/19/13
I think it's most important to truly accept the break up and why it happened, whether you broke up with them or got broken up with. This can take awhile and a lot of understanding of yourself but once I did I felt a lot better about it. Also don't have break up sex, it makes things worse. Whenever I felt down I just did what I loved to do to get my mind off of things.
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21 / M / Indiana
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Posted 9/19/13
you cant get over it its impossible..but try going under it ive never heard of anyone doing that before
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Posted 9/19/13 , edited 9/19/13
Workout (gym) + Friends + Hobbies = Success

Not doing any of the above didn't do jack squat for me. (and I was a loner for months)
You just have to come to terms with that fact that you don't have to live under depression. Make the choice to exceed and excel. Then work to make that possible.

Plus, that's given me greater success in getting back together than just moping around life wishing it didn't turn out this way.
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31 / M / Twins City
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Posted 9/20/13
How I handled it (Not recommended):
I drank my brains out, stayed in my room all day, and reminded myself how it was all my fault we aren't together (and when it's your fault that you and your girl break up, that makes it feel 20x worse. Thus, all the drinking).

How to Handle it a healthy way:
Do some activities that'll take your mind off it (not drinking), have some buddies go out with you to have a good time somewhere (some drinking is okay, as long as you don't overdue it), and remember to try to stay relaxed, even when you're about to break down in tears. And don't do what I did. It'll just makes it worse. Believe me, I've been there.
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Posted 9/20/13
Never had to and I don't want to think about having to.
Posted 9/20/13 , edited 9/20/13
Psychosis, and lots of oxazepam. Spend the next 2-3 years like this:

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Posted 9/21/13
Um my first break up wasn't too bad, well, or so I thought at the time. Everytime I saw him it felt like being stabbed in the heart. Then he asked me to go on date cause he still had "feelings" for me, but by then I was over him. I think what helped me then was talking to my friend about it and they helped me through it.

Second break up was not great and in fact more worse than the first. I should have handled it more differently. After it happened it was hard not to forget what was said. At that time I didn't have anyone to talk to about it so I was kinda miserable in silence. I spent time by myself and listen to lots of music.
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Posted 9/21/13 , edited 9/21/13
I've had only one break-up lol. And it was kinda humiliating. Then again, she broke up with me AFTER I paid for an expensive dinner at an oyster house (and she didn't even want oysters after insisting on going to an oyster house). And she drove, so she was my ride home too. I went straight to the grocery store, bought me a bottle of Crown Reserve, invited my roomie to take a ride with me, and hung out at my other roommate's house in the next town over. I got drunk as hell. In fact, I drank 3/4 of the 750 mL bottle within a 4-5 hour period. Another friend came over, and I started telling everyone all the sex details that I held out on since I was in a relationship. Tons of laughs, but then they hid the bottle from me. I went to find it (it was just underneath the table), but I couldn't. So I started screaming "WHERE THE F-bomb IS MY ALCOHOL!" I think fell and hit my head on the corner of a side table, and cried. Then I stood up to leave with my roomie, and cried again on my friend's shoulder as he asked everyone to save him. It was pretty pathetic lol. It didn't help that she cheated with someone amongst our group. Really messed up a lot of friendships. But within a month I just got over it by focusing on school and stuff.
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29 / M / USA
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Posted 10/2/13
1. find someone else known as the rebound but you'll just be used mostly
2. enjoy doing something so fun you mind is kept busy
3. hang around your friends if you don't have none ask someone dont be shy ;)
4. Remember all the other people trying to date you so you dont feel like your worthless and there are other who want you.
5. Your single you should be happy now you have many other choices
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Posted 10/3/13
Be selfish (in a good way) and focus on making YOU better. Besides, its just like breaking a bad habit; takes two weeks to correct the mistake and replace it (her) with new, meaningful activity, not necessarily a new her (or him if you swing that way). Broken hearts only heal when you take positive action to heal them; not break-up sex, that hooker your friend knows, the bottle, pills, or any other destructive behavior you can think of. Even just smiling at yourself in the morning and say "today's a great day" will help.

Just remember, time alone makes things decay, time plus positive action makes things better.
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27 / M / Seattle
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Posted 10/3/13
Embrace reality and just move forward one day at a time. It sucks at first, but opportunity is around the corner go and meet it!
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Posted 10/3/13
one of the hardest things we have with this life thingy
basically i think we just need something to get our minds off it
if thats reading writting drawing watching playing all depends on what your interests are i think
time heals all wounds
the bleedy ones and the ones that really hurt
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26 / F / Arkansas
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Posted 10/3/13
Honestly, my relationship had gotten so bad that by the time we actually ended it, I didn't even care. To me, it had ended a long time before that. Afterwards, I didn't really feel sad or anything. Instead, I chose to think of it in a positive light:
"Look at all the hobbies I can finally get into now."
"I can go out and I don't have to check in with anyone."
"I don't have to move away somewhere new and scary."
"I can be who I really want to be instead of walking on eggshells."

I don't regret breaking up with him. I deserve better than feeling like garbage all the time. I deserve better than having basically negative self esteem. Not everything is my fault. He isn't always right. And after I realized all of that, and thought of how much better my life could be without him, everything was magical. Excitement! Self confidence! Time for myself! Time for pretty ladies and cute boys! Feminism! Arts and crafts! Outdoor activities! Car restoring! Social life! YAY!
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20 / M / Eng Land
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Posted 10/3/13
Very strong glue. Oh you mean that kind of break up. Thank god I've never experienced one.
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Posted 10/3/13 , edited 10/3/13
My first relationship, and break-up, went a little like this.
We met online. We were both part of an online gaming community. We would just go in a Teamspeak channel and talk all night. I told her a lot about me, my father who left, etc. She didn't tell me much about her. She kept saying that she couldn't go on the computer much because she did something bad, but she would never tell me what it was.
Anyway, one time I came back home from school, and started talking to her on skype. She told me that she loved me, and of course I felt the same thing for her. That was on November 24th 2011. She lived in Texas, and I'm in Quebec, so it's quite a trip from one place to another.
It lasted a month or so. However, it felt like 3-4 months. I was a happy teenager. I had a girlfriend, she made me smile, I would talk to her everyday and I would talk to her via voice chat on skype until we both fall asleep. I guess I loved her. I had a great time.

She didn't reply to my messages at Christmas, so I was a little worried. Then, she stopped talking to me for about 2 months. One night she messaged me on skype and talked on camera for about 2 hours or so. After that discussion, she sent me a message and told me that she still liked me, and she was happy that I was still there, that I didn't forget her.
A week after, one of the main leaders of my gaming clan posted a topic on our forums.
It was titled: ''Me and Ana(Her name) are now together''
I was shocked. The guy was 24 years old, and she was 16. The thing is, I guess she ''cheated'' on me in some way.
I don't remember what I did after I read that topic, but I probably went outside and got lost in the woods. I don't even know.
I know that I woke up outside of my house, like I slept outside.

It ended like this. I think Ana was the first people that I liked that much. I moved on after a little while, deleted her facebook messages & skype messages, removed her from my contact list, etc. It felt weird.

I guess this is my story, and I felt like sharing it.
EDIT: I don't know how I moved on. I think I put more effort when I played badminton, and I spent some quality time with my friends.

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