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my dog passed away, How do i cope with it?
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My dog passed away yesterday because of an accident. She struggled in my arms for 10 seconds then died. Right now I can't even deal with this and my head hurts and it just repeats in my head and I can't cope with this at all. I had a panic attack for 2 hours straight yesterday and now I can't stop crying.

Edit: Thank you for all the condolences and I'm sorry about your loses with your pets. This one was too much for me to handle because she was disabled and it happened so fast. She died on my arms. She was struggling for at least 10 seconds then died. That's what bothers me. She died struggling. she couldn't even bark and she was shaking. then she died. It was to hard for me to handle that she died that way. I just miss her and I miss seeing her. I try to think about the memories I had with her. Anyways thank you guys for your comments. It means a lot to me and condolences to your pets as well.
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My condolences.

The best thing I can think of is consult any friends or family for comfort and support.
One of our cats died a couple years back, but I'm the kind of person who shuts his emotions inside, so I don't really know how to relate to your case.
My mother cried a lot, though. And from what I could tell, she just had to cry it out. Beyond that, I don't know.
Posted 9/20/13 , edited 9/20/13
I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a beloved pet is one of the hardest things anyone can go though.

My dog passed away two weeks ago; she was 10, almost 11. Healthy as always, she suddenly got so sick one night it was shocking. The next day, she just had to be put to sleep. I thought I wouldn't be able to go on.

But you do. The world is going to keep turning, the sun rising. Life will go on.

For each person, coping is different. For me, I cried and cried and looked at old photographs, and all her things.

However you cope and deal with it remember: your dog loved you so much. Would they really want you to grieve for them constantly? Would they want to see someone they love so much so sad?

The pain does ease up in time. Eventually, you'll move on. You're going to wake up one day and it won't hurt so much. You might even think of getting a new pet. But you're never going to forget your dog no matter what. Sometimes there will be moments where you stop and think, and it'll hurt a bit and then some.

Dogs leave pawprints on our hearts, marking them for life.

Don't be sad that your dog isn't here anymore; be thankful for the time spent together.

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My condolences.

The best thing I can think of is consult any friends or family for comfort and support.
One of our cats died a couple years back, but I'm the kind of person who shuts his emotions inside, so I don't really know how to relate to your case.
My mother cried a lot, though. And from what I could tell, she just had to cry it out. Beyond that, I don't know.


Sorry to hear about your cats.

I'm trying my best to block out most of my memories about her and try to think of something positive and it just comes back to me and it hurts my head and I can't breathe afterwards. I can't stop crying either
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You man up and think of the good times get a pic framed or something and drive on forgive me if it comes off rude but ive been there myself sorry about your loss.
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My dog passed away two weeks ago.


Sorry to hear about your dog. :\
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You man up and think of the good times get a pic framed or something and drive on forgive me if it comes off rude but ive been there myself sorry about your loss.


I try too, but I'm a weak guy. I couldn't even look at my dog when my brother took her away. You're not being rude at all. This is just too much for me to handle considering this is the first time.
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Syndicaidramon wrote:

My condolences.

The best thing I can think of is consult any friends or family for comfort and support.
One of our cats died a couple years back, but I'm the kind of person who shuts his emotions inside, so I don't really know how to relate to your case.
My mother cried a lot, though. And from what I could tell, she just had to cry it out. Beyond that, I don't know.


Sorry to hear about your cats.

I'm trying my best to block out most of my memories about her and try to think of something positive and it just comes back to me and it hurts my head and I can't breathe afterwards. I can't stop crying either


My advice: don't block out the memories. Cherish them.
Once you get over this initial intense sadness, you will want to have them to look back upon.
If you one day realize that you have forgotten the good times you had with someone you used to love, you will be really depressed.

I speak from experience.
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Yea I shut my emotions inside. Then when I do cry I let loose in my bed. I don't let anyone see me cry because I'm a guy of course.
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Syndicaidramon wrote:


AnthonyJustin wrote:


Syndicaidramon wrote:

My condolences.

The best thing I can think of is consult any friends or family for comfort and support.
One of our cats died a couple years back, but I'm the kind of person who shuts his emotions inside, so I don't really know how to relate to your case.
My mother cried a lot, though. And from what I could tell, she just had to cry it out. Beyond that, I don't know.


Sorry to hear about your cats.

I'm trying my best to block out most of my memories about her and try to think of something positive and it just comes back to me and it hurts my head and I can't breathe afterwards. I can't stop crying either


My advice: don't block out the memories. Cherish them.
Once you get over this initial intense sadness, you will want to have them to look back upon.
If you one day realize that you have forgotten the good times you had with someone you used to love, you will be really depressed.

I speak from experience.


You have a point. It made me smile when I thought of my dog barking at my other dogs to get away from the food. I don't wanna block out the memories for good I just don't wanna think about them as of right now because I'll start crying. My dog will always be in my heart no matter what. Thank you for the advice it means a lot to me
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Not a complete answer, however.

For me, Loss/Grief hits in wave's. Very frequent at first, then less frequent over time.
As it becomes less frequent over time, life start moving forward again.
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You have two options: learn how to grieve, or convince yourself that your dog is playing fetch with Jesus.

I suggest avoiding delusional thoughts, but whatever works best for you, go with it. Life is short, but even if it's long, why make yourself suffer any more than you have to? Your dog loved your face off, and you felt the same way, it was a pure love that didn't wither. That such an experience was even possible makes this a universe worth living in. Consider yourself lucky, smile and rejoice, and cry at the same time, without shame. Cry without even wiping away the tears.
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Stay Strong mentally and emotionally
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For now, just focus on crying and letting it all out, because that's an extremely important step in the grieving process. In fact, by crying, you are coping. Your behavior is completely normal. Everything will sort out in time.

When my dog died when I was 12, I made the mistake of trying to hold in alot of my feelings... I've gotten much better with facing my emotions, but I'm still recovering.
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You could bury it or burning the bodies is a popular thing to do these days.
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