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What if women went up to guys they liked rather than waiting to get asked out?
Posted 9/20/13 , edited 9/20/13
I find that women who are interested in guys just kinda flirt and wait for the guy to make the move, but what if women just once in a while took a chance at it. Getting the guy she want's with out missing a possible love interest and settling for another guy other than the one she wants...just because he missed or had other things on his mind to see her very mild advances?



Ladies please don't think this is a way to bash you...I am asking a honest question and would really like to know the male and fe-male perspective about this topic I am all for understanding of the sexes, so please feel free to comment don't worry I don't bite and I'm nice in my responses to reply's.

Here's the original topic for perspective (It got locked) http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-769154/what-if-women-went-up-to-guys-they-liked-rather-than-waiting-to-get-asked-out?pg=0
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Posted 9/20/13
It happens all the time. This is very common place. I know many women who had asked guys out. Is this a big deal?
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Posted 9/20/13
That would be very interesting indeed. I've never had that to happen to me, but I would like it to. I don't see anything wrong with a women asking a guy out. It's a new world. Things changed. I'd prefer a honest woman anyway.
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Personally, I wouldn't know how to do it....
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Haha, we talked about this today in my sociology class. It's an emerging phenomenon but it's till not prevalent because it violates traditional gender rolls. That being said, it is starting to happen more and more as men and women become more equal. Speaking as a guy, A girl asking a guy out takes a load of pressure off of us because then we don't have to worry about rejection (now that's the girls potential problem) and we don't have to try and find all of those stupid hints that girls give guys and then get mad at them for not realizing that you flipped your hair or something.
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Posted 9/20/13
Happens to me all the time. I am sexy like Jet Jaguar!

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Posted 9/20/13
That is what it would be like.
Posted 9/20/13 , edited 9/20/13

bensonc120 wrote:

It happens all the time. This is very common place. I know many women who had asked guys out. Is this a big deal?


ummm... Does this happen a lot in L.A. ?? because I don't see it a lot where I'm at.
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Posted 9/20/13
I would like to make the first move to the guy I like but I can't, not because of my gender, but because I'm hella shy and quiet and I suck at making advances. I can't keep him interested talking to me since I always don't know what to say and talk about, I'll just talk about anime most of the times haha
Posted 9/20/13

cacofdz wrote:

Personally, I wouldn't know how to do it....


Well this one girl I went to school did it in a round about way. She simply said I look nice today and I replied thank you and thought nothing of it(shes just being nice I thought). She then said I looked nice the next day and the day after that....and I finally caught on to the fact that she just might like me, so I started paying more attention to her and realized that she watched pretty much my every move. I confronted her about if she was in to me or not and she was.

Its different for everyone, but it would have been easier for to just say "I've been watching you and I think your very handsome"(in a non creepy way) something like that or just asked me out on a date.
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oh if only that were the case. my freshman year in high school there was this girl who was in a few of my classes and she would flirt with me to get my attention. the problem was that i never thought she would want to be with someone normal like me when she was so perfect. she was smart, funny, athletic and absolutely beautiful like something out of a dream. she moved far away the following school year and i still regret not taking the chance to ask her out and stop wondering if we could of been together. but oh well what can you do just try to pick yourself up and move on, no matter how painful it is.
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Posted 9/20/13
that would be nice if it did happen to me. hahaha
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Posted 9/20/13
Plenty of ladies make the first move nowadays, so... -shrug-

That said, women are basically raised to let men take charge in relationships. Look at the media we all consume: 99% of the time, men take an active role and women a passive one; and this doesn't even just apply to relationships. Naturally, we absorb this media and partially shape ourselves based on it. So, it's really not such a simple thing as 'taking a chance', it's more along the lines of 'break beyond the confines of how you've been socially conditioned to act', which is obviously much more of a challenge.
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It would be kinda weird if the girl asked a guy out because how would it be said, "Hey wanna go out with me" and then the guy would be like wtf. If I ever wanted to ask a guy out I would wait till the right moment and say "wanna take me out for dinner" lol. It would just be weird. Hooking up maybe, but then you would be called a hoe for throwing your self out there like bait to take a chance lmao. In my opinion it would be odd. When I was in middle school I did ask a guy out once and he said yes but I also was the one that ended it...I wore the pants...it was weird lol.
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Posted 9/21/13
This is interesting, well if people consider you a hoe for throwing yourself out there then obviously you do not need those people or rather do not need to care what their closed ass mind thinks. Women have come a long way and now have control of their life, they do not need to ask for permission, wait on someone else to make choices available to them. Times changed, but one thing that has not is shyness, I would never approach a person to ask the m out, I would just die. With that said, I might even die alone because of that but oh well, it's life. I first get to know the person than after a while ask them out, sometimes that just feels like it takes too long. I would not mind if someone asked me out, that would be interesting.
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