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How can I tell if a guy likes me?
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Posted 9/23/13

violetbow wrote:

Social interaction is a start, right? Like talking, that foreign thing that people do? /retreats back to illuminated computer screen in shadowed room/


D'awww.

Don't worry these foreign weird and awkward people also can chat with you through the computer.

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Posted 9/23/13 , edited 9/23/13

Most guys are blunt so just straight up ask.

You could try asking him if there's a girl he likes when you're alone.


Honestly, I get shy around girls that I'm interested in.

This is also a pretty common sign. It depends on waht kind of guy he is, some will be more up front about it, where as others would be more shy.
I myself are with the shy guys. I have a girl I like and we see each other nearly every day at class. If I finally talk with her I tend to give her a lot of attention aswell, while mostly I try to avoid talking to her because I'm simply too shy.
One thing is for sure though if I was asked by the girl about who I like or if she told me 'I like you'. you'd clearly be able to see how I feel aswell. So the best way would probably be to ask, like so many others has told you before me
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No, normally not. Friend zone is normally a one way street. As much as I hear decried, equal means means equal, but no one really wants it. That woudl make both side guilty. & its never both sides fault (just ask them). And refering to wikipedia for some factual is not normally a good idea (self/biased editing is quite common).
What is called the "friend zone" has always been there, different time, different terms. Rebranding it doesn't change the definition.

And you forget one of the most basic emotions, control/power. Once you have it, you will everything to keep it. And that is fact, not conjecture (5000+ years worth). That is why Dictators/Tyrants (Greek root)/socailists try so hard to stay in power. It also applies just as easily to the regular person.

Posted 9/23/13
~ o,..,o ~ He wants all of my attention, and wants to know all about me. He tries to impress me. And he feeds this weird vampy mmm. He also worries about me if i am sick or in need of something. Most of all, he makes himself available to me. When they are no longer interested it is the opposite. They make excuses not to be there anymore. But when they are interested in me they go out of there way to be there for me even if it means not getting enough sleep. Damn, i miss that.
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~ o,..,o ~ He wants all of my attention, and wants to know all about me. He tries to impress me. And he feeds this weird vampy mmm. He also worries about me if i am sick or in need of something. Most of all, he makes himself available to me. When they are no longer interested it is the opposite. They make excuses not to be there anymore. But when they are interested in me they go out of there way to be there for me even if it means not getting enough sleep. Damn, i miss that.


Honestly what you said makes sense. Hearing the truth is very refreshing . Also the drinks r on me for such a concise & elegant post.
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~ o,..,o ~ Oh thank you my dear, i just may take you up on that offer, i am always thirsty. *smiles sweetly*
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~ o,..,o ~ Oh thank you my dear, i just may take you up on that offer, i am always thirsty. *smiles sweetly*


My dear, always a pleasure. Just ask anytime. You made the most sense out of all the posts so far.
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~ o,..,o ~ I did? I haven't read any of the rest here yet. Okay i will ask you when i need a sweet drink Maybe i should add you so i wont forget your username. I can be forgetful at times. The life of a vampy like me is quite distracting.
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Well I think it would be pretty obvious if he liked you he would more than likely talk to you more than anybody else. I know my best friend would get protective around a girl he liked. Don't know if that helps any...
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Yowa29: Sorry, the "friend zone" isn't actually a thing. It's a term that some guys out there came up with to describe unrequited love. Because, really, that's what the "friend zone" is: unrequited love. The difference is that guys can slam girls with the "friend zone" while unrequited love is gender-blind.


You're correct, though there's a second definition that you don't seem to be aware of.


Thanks to modern confusion regarding the phrase, I’ve come to two very clear definitions. The “correct” definition is when someone believes themselves to be the perfect candidate for a partner. They think their sense of humour, confidence, fashion sense and interests are such that anyone would fall over themselves with the chance to date them. When this dating never occurs, the person feels down and can't begin to understand why people aren't attracted to them. They will decide now that they are in the “friend zone”, a pit of doom where they are destined to be alone because no one will give them a chance to show how great they are.

Taken from this article.

Obviously it's still just as dumb as the definition you brought up, I just thought I should make you aware that before "friend zone" became confused for unrequited love, it did actually have its own meaning and purpose.

Also I have seen girls claim to be in the friend zone before and blame guys for it. It's just as gender-blind as unrequited love, you just don't see it as often.
Posted 9/25/13

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How do I know if a guy is into me? If you can't speak for all guys, how do YOU act around the girl you fancy?


I remember you OP . I'm sure a lot of guys will like you. Do you want to confirm that they like you so you can take action or...?
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Latchan wrote:

Yowa29: Sorry, the "friend zone" isn't actually a thing. It's a term that some guys out there came up with to describe unrequited love. Because, really, that's what the "friend zone" is: unrequited love. The difference is that guys can slam girls with the "friend zone" while unrequited love is gender-blind.


You're correct, though there's a second definition that you don't seem to be aware of.


Thanks to modern confusion regarding the phrase, I’ve come to two very clear definitions. The “correct” definition is when someone believes themselves to be the perfect candidate for a partner. They think their sense of humour, confidence, fashion sense and interests are such that anyone would fall over themselves with the chance to date them. When this dating never occurs, the person feels down and can't begin to understand why people aren't attracted to them. They will decide now that they are in the “friend zone”, a pit of doom where they are destined to be alone because no one will give them a chance to show how great they are.

Taken from this article.

Obviously it's still just as dumb as the definition you brought up, I just thought I should make you aware that before "friend zone" became confused for unrequited love, it did actually have its own meaning and purpose.

Also I have seen girls claim to be in the friend zone before and blame guys for it. It's just as gender-blind as unrequited love, you just don't see it as often.


If you can show me some piece of pop culture where girls call guys out for "friendzoning" them, fine. Don't get me wrong; it probably happens, what with the billions and billions of people who live in the world. But I've never seen guys being outright accused of "friendzoning", like it is their fault, like they should be ashamed.

Also, that definition is not any different from the moronic definition that I initially tackled. The "friend zone" and "forever alone" are two different things. I'm so tired of them being mixed up. "Forever alone" is often confused with "nice guy", too. All of these things have nothing to do with each other, and they shouldn't even be things, okay? We are all humans of value. We do not need to be justified by the existence of another human being who finds us mate-able.

I'm sorry. I don't find the "friend zone" a thing. The only definition I have thus far found acceptable is when someone pointed out that two people who have been friends for a very long time may initially feel uncomfortable at the prospect of a romantic relationship, but how often does that ACTUALLY happen when people are talking about the "friend zone"?
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Posted 9/25/13
I usually treat everyone equally, I mess with everyone; in a polite way LOL ,but when I like someone I usually give them some sort of special treatment. No one notices though, kinda pisses me off.
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I'd like to add that I am NOT "confusing" the "friend zone" for unrequited love. (I'm using a lot of quotations. I promise I know how to use quotation marks.) The "friend zone" IS unrequited love. Nothing anyone has been able to say so far has been able to persuade me otherwise, aside from Richybabes's comments. You know what? I'll give you that. Richybabes has a point. But when his scenario occurs, no one would actually declare, "Egads, I've been FRIENDZONED. The horror!" You know why? Because both people in that scenario respect each other because they have been long-time friends.

But every single other definition that has been contested with me, including the one that you just posted, is ridiculous beyond all belief, and not a thing. I UNDERSTAND the feelings of the person who claims to have been "friendzoned". They are valid feelings. They are feelings that merit proper consolation from peers, but shaming the other party is not the way to go. Using the term "friend zone" demonstrates a lack of respect for the alleged love interest.

And that's what all of these other definitions are essentially doing. In fact, the latest definition, the one you just posted, promotes deprecating self-worth. None of these definitions of "friend zone" are healthy, and the more frequently it appears in TV shows, games, memes, the more it gets on my nerves. They shouldn't be things that people universally acknowledge because it validates those unhealthy mindsets which are, in fact, unrequited love.
Posted 9/25/13
o u will know makes an effort to talk to u..... buys u stuff .....try catching him looking at u ....gets annoyed when u talk to other guys...talks about the other guy behind their backs to u...the list can go on if u likem and hes single hit him up its a new age now girls are no less than guys....by golly
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