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Post Reply Is it better to have an idealistic relationship or a realistic one?
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Explain in great detail.

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Why do you think some people are unlucky when it comes to finding love unlike others?
How do you feel about the thought of wanting to get married(Do you see in point in getting married)?



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Some people attract certain people not really by looks or interest and its rare that people meet the right person its not something you can just search for it, it just shows up one day people just keep tryna make it happen with the first cute face and smile thats why this world has such a high divorce rate these days. I personally don't believe in marriage a piece of paper shouldn't have to prove how much you love someone you can devote yourself to someone the rest of your life without that paper.
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Idealistic I recon is possible, but being realistic leaves one from feeling let down or disappointed.

That could be why so many *are* unlucky when it comes to love because their expectation are so high they reach to the end of the solar system (and almost no one can ever match).

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idealistic is good for the short term

realistic is good for the long term
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Posted 9/25/13 , edited 9/25/13
Keep it real tho!!!
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Hmm. An idealistic relationship may give one more hope for future possibilities than being completely realistic. On the other hand if there's too many ideals there is a possibility of driving the other person away or being depressed that you can't find "the one" due to super high ideals that no one can ever fulfill. (Unless you believe in summoning demon wives or stuff like that)

The whole idea of marriage these days is to be legally bonded to another individual that way any offspring that arise, or if perhaps one of the spouses dies, the remaining party legally has the right to money or other things. That's what marriage is for me in reality. The thoughts of it is that the two people deeply in love are solidifying their feelings with a business contract of sorts.
Posted 9/25/13
Just don't think about what's ideal or realistic..all bullshit.
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Posted 9/25/13

SamNavarro141 wrote:

Keep it real tho!!!


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Getting married. Dayum I haven't thought about that yet! I mean I fell for this guy who I knew since I was soo little and last year I started having feelings for him even though he had those feelings for me since like forever. I started waving to him at school and he would give me this rude looking face because that's how he showed his affection by being a rude, little, annoying, slightly caring at times, or by teasing me. Though I moved away now and my dreams are crushed~
At the moment I don't have any feelings for anyone :P
But marriage...I don't want that to happen from a long time now cuz I still want to live out my life before I settle down XD
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yungmaestro wrote:

Some people attract certain people not really by looks or interest and its rare that people meet the right person its not something you can just search for it, it just shows up one day people just keep tryna make it happen with the first cute face and smile thats why this world has such a high divorce rate these days. I personally don't believe in marriage a piece of paper shouldn't have to prove how much you love someone you can devote yourself to someone the rest of your life without that paper.


Its hard to please people when they're picky though.
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I dont really understand how a relationship can be solely idealistic. How I see it an idealistic relationship is solely based on your perception of what you want instead of what the relationship is. Which means the actual relationship is not particularly relevant, since you are just using it to fulfill some personal idea of what the ideal relationship is like, instead of actually having a relationship with another person. You are simply looking for an idyllic relationship, which is quite honestly impossible due to people having different expectations and perspectives on what a relationship is.

As for a realistic relationship, it depends on how you define a realistic relationship. Now i think all relationship need a little bit of idealism, it generates goals to move towards. Things like house with white picket fence type of things. At the same time, realism provides a good contrast to what you might actually achieve, but many people also confuse realism with not taking chances or risks, because there is a good chance they will fail. However, there is also a chance that they might succeed. It really depends on how much the possibility of success is worth.

Ohh, for the last part, i dont really see a point in getting married. I believe it to be an antiquated ritual. That being said, if it is a big deal for my significant other, i would probably consider it, and who knows what we would decide. There would not be a big extravagant wedding, or a big wedding proposal, since i have little interest in showing off to the world.
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Is this all people can come up with for topics now? Endless re-posts of the same questions about love and relationships? This is so disappointing.

Just have a real relationship where you act yourself and hope that your partner does too. If it goes tits-up, cést la vie, move on.
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Posted 9/25/13 , edited 9/25/13

Broshmosh wrote:

Is this all people can come up with for topics now? Endless re-posts of the same questions about love and relationships? This is so disappointing.

Just have a real relationship where you act yourself and hope that your partner does too. If it goes tits-up, cést la vie, move on.


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Your title is different from your first post, OP. I'd rather have an idealistic relationship... because I thought that's what ideal meant.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Explain in great detail.

Bonus questions:
Why do you think some people are unlucky when it comes to finding love unlike others?
How do you feel about the thought of wanting to get married(Do you see in point in getting married)?



Thanks a bunches.



Question 1: realistic... people are people, they're not flawless like your imaginations. (your used in a general way, not aimed at anyone)
idealistic should be saved for daydreams and fantasies, not brought into real life.

Question 2: "Why are some people unlucky when it comes to love?"

i'm an introvert, it's just hard for me to find love as i don't feel the need to socialize with anyone. i'm trying to change that...

even though i'm an introvert, i still have sexual needs and the primitive need to be with another human being. i do like the idea of monogamy.

Question 3: I don't really care about marriage or gay marriage.

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