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Posting questions like this on an anime website.
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meygaera wrote:

Posting questions like this on an anime website.


I dont give a damn........its a general discussion forum so we can talk about whatever the hell we want to.
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The biggest issue tends to be the guy who is too concerned about his wants to pay attention to the other person (especially the other person's needs!). Most people like to be respected as equals, so when this doesn't happen, it's a big turn-off. This plays out in a lot of ways, the most obvious being:
Doesn't pay attention to someone's boundaries because he wants something.
E.g. Touching without permission, making decisions for another person, stalking, emotional or verbal abuse, etc...
Doesn't pay attention to someone's feelings (which is commonly paired with demanding that his feelings be paid attention to at all times).
E.g. Dominating conversations (must always be the one talking; the other person's viewpoints or conversational topics are ignored or talked over), perpetual interruption, perpetual ranting, mocking beliefs or belief-systems, making decisions (even just for himself!) without input when it could affect another person, belittling, etc...

...so, I guess this could be summed up as "self-centeredness" or "lack of respect?"
The easiest way to defeat it is to try to keep the other person's viewpoint/feelings/life in mind when talking and making decisions. While some of the examples I've given are extreme and/or ones that might not really occur until actually in a relationship (especially longer-term relationships), not all of them are, and it's pretty easy to tell whether a person is particularly self-centered or not prior to any sort of romantic involvement.
This is not to say that he should have no wants or desires of his own, because he should have them! It's just that he should likewise respect the wants and desires of his partner (or intended partner), much as the partner/intended partner should respect his.

Horrid hygiene is another big turn-off. One doesn't need to be amazingly beautiful, but one should be possible to look at and breathe around.
(I also, personally, dislike large age differences, casual relationships, and open/poly relationships, and thus will be turned off by anyone who attempts these with me, but these are just my preferences; there are plenty of people who are fine with them.)
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I don't know women very well but they do seem to get pissed if you ask them to make you a sandwich after sex........kidding
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I hear being an asshole and manipulating women into fighting for your approval is very attractive to a lot of women.
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rule number one for trying to pick me up: I laugh, you live.
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ughh i really can't stand the pervert types
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Personally, it pisses me off when a guy tries to bully me with his size. A huge no-no is if a guy bully's my younger sister or talks smack about my big sis. Also, purposely pissing me off is the highest on my list of turn-offs. I was once a fairly happy-go-lucky girl, but having been picked on by guys one too many times during middle and high school has rendered me bad-tempered. Instead of first dates with men during my middle and high school years, I had borderline fights.
My middle and high schools were over-populated by assholes. I made a few good friends that are male, but the other douche-bags ruined it.

Also, slimy creeps. Some guy in my neighborhood who's probably in his fifties (and looks it) tried hitting on me while I was walking my dogs last year. He made my skin crawl.

Confusing me for my mother/thinking that I'm married to my step-dad/assuming that I'm older than 40/thinking that my younger sister is my daughter... NO. I'm 21, damn it! Not married, especially not to him! I'm not my mother! My "daughter" is four years younger than I! Sadly, all of those confusions have occurred several times.

Vulgar, know-it-all jerks like o3oBuddha, too.

My list can go on, but most go without saying, like pedophilia and whatnot.



EDIT:

There's a new question, so...

If I'm not romantically/sexually interested in a guy, that's all there is to it; however, I won't have a relationship with a man that I can't consider as a friend in some way, so being "friend-zoned" easily means that the guy has a decent shot. Also, "friend-zoning" may mean that I do want to know him intimately, but I'm just too shy. I may just not be ready for a relationship, too.

There's little to nothing a guy can do about my reasons for friend-zoning him, except for the case that involves me being shy. In that scenario, it'd be nice if he tries to make me comfortable enough to confess, such as subtly/lightly challenging me to make a move. I'd rise to the bait.
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Having a overly macho meat head type of personality/attitude (Or just acting liking like a plain deuce bag in general), bad hygiene, smoking, Swearing too much (Although I too can a sailors mouth often. Everyone has a little slip here and there, right?), Dressing like a so called "Fresh Kid." *Gag*. That's pretty much it......
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Arrogance - big turn off. However, confidence - big turn on. I know they sound similar, but they are really, really different.
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Anyhow OP. Don't be a vulgar know-it-all. It doesn't impress me, at the very least. Maybe others feel differently.

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umbreonlover wrote:

ughh i really can't stand the pervert types


"There are two types of men in this world. Open perverts who admit it, and the closet pervert who won't." - Naotsuga, Log Horizon
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Deathguitar wrote:


papagolfwhiskey wrote:

Anyhow OP. Don't be a vulgar know-it-all. It doesn't impress me, at the very least. Maybe others feel differently.



Yes, just maybe.
Everyone feels the same way, I mean how could anyone ever want a enthusiastic man?


Yes that's what he is. Enthusiastic. How could I have been so stupid? Dude, you just don't get it do you? that's fine. but there's really no point in continuing to respond. Have the last word if you wish.

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