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Why is there such discrimination towards people that never dated?
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If it's about sex, Sheldon should have been shunned. But he's a delight to be shunned.
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I tried dating when I was younger and I do not particularly like it, and I am not really into casual sex so that's how it's been for the last ten years. As for people who think it's weird, I've learned to tune them out. Unfortunately when someone falls outside of what others consider normal the first reaction is often to avoid it or in the case of what I would consider less reasonable individuals, open hostility and mocking.
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BMAcorn wrote:

Well, I guess it's time to let you in on my background a bit - let me develop my character for you a little shall we?

There has been a few girls I have dated through my life; I've never had anything serious though, the closest I've ever come to a real relationship is a high school girlfriend that would sit with me on lunch breaks and would openly let me touch her chest. This was quite a while ago now, and this was during a time where I was seriously growing up, and that is the last girl I have ever had a sensual relationship with; if you would call two young teens testing their hormones a "sensual relationship".

I have not had sex, I've had multiple occasions where girls have given me signs of wanting to do stuff with me - this being after night long hang outs and parties. Even after any of the chances I've been given to court a lady, I've chosen not to; In my conscience, the relations I share with the person are more important then fulfilling my sexual desires.

A lot of my old friends would think this was a bad thing. many people think sex is one of the top three most important things; but among those old friends of mine with this mind set, drugs are also one of the top three most important things to them. There is nothing wrong with sex, it's supposed to be enjoyed between two people, but when it becomes an everyday eagerness, it can be lethal.


I agree with that. I understand that sex is better shared between two people that truly love and care for each other.
Not every guy wants to have sex with a free-for-all nor does every girl want to have sex with a hit-it-then-quit-it. Some people just need to relax a bit.

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Well the first two lines were my response to your overall view on this. The last bit was just my own experience and general view on this so... I'm not referring to anyone in particular.
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Posted 10/7/13

Mycow8me wrote:



Well the first two lines were my response to your overall view on this. The last bit was just my own experience and general view on this so... I'm not referring to anyone in particular.


Ah...thank you.
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pandrasb wrote:

"Because people form ideological standards and if you follow them your considered normal and if you don't, your a deviant and treated as such." - Mycow8me

23 years old deviant, never dated and still a virgin

Been made fun of and called gay by both women and men.

GM: God

I wanna reroll !!
My stats got eff'd up
Shy stat, too high / confidence too low...
WTB > Stat reset


This. This is great.
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A lot of people assume that it's NOT your choice, and that you've never dated because you're an unattractive loser or something like that. I personally believe that it's very normal to date in high school, and that people who don't try it out at least once are missing out on a great opportunity to discover what they want in a partner and how relationships work. You're not going to find THE ONE right away, but there's nothing wrong with dating before you find a person that you're truly in love with. That being said, I can also understand not wanting to date. It's your life and you can do whatever you want.
Posted 10/7/13
I'm critical and angry towards people who find themselves new partners once a month, or once a year. Because it takes me years to get over one partner. In fact, I'm never gonna get over them. So, to me, people who can just move on like that can't possibly have felt much love for their partner, if at all. And it's selfish and despicable the way some choose to just "get back on the saddle" to overcome what little sadness they feel, if it can even be called sadness, and then rationalize that they did them a favor by using them. I've been used for rebound so many times, and it's so painful, when I realize that I'm just seen as second best and a tool that can be disposed of. Like I'm not worth fuck all. But it's my fault, of course, you know, because I should've known that they were just out to use me. I should've known this, because that's what I should've done, they say. I should be optimistic, they say, and just go out there and take advantage of people, you know, like sweet, nice, good, sane, happy-go-lucky, normal people do.
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I don't think making fun of people for that reason actually happens because that's just low. I'm pretty sure many people too young to be responsible with sex and marriage only have problem relationships.

There is so much bull crap in the dating world.

Imo, a lot of things kids do at young ages are dumb and not worth it. You're gonna get worn out or develop problems with your ideology, morals, and your personality.

I'm not 100% clean though. If you ever get hooked on urges, sometimes you just feel like you have to fulfill them.

OP, if you got made fun of for not having dated yet, don't worry cause 22 is still young. A lot of people are too dumb to realize it. They spent their youths trying to grow up faster. They think they're older and more mature then they actually are.

Around 30 and 40 is when you should worry, cause that's when women start to lose their reproductive ability. Because that's what relationships and love are for right? You wanna find someone you love so you can do things with them, like spend time and raise a family.
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I'm 17 and I've never had a real relationship. I don't talk much, I'm not that great looking, and the only thing really going for me is my height (I'm 6'5"). I've liked a lot girls before but I just look in the mirror and think that it could never happen. I've never asked a girl out either. I've never had anyone make fun of me about though, so I guess I'm lucky in that aspect.
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There is??
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I don't care what people say. 1. There's 6 billion people on earth. I don't need to add to the population. 2. Dated and had sex before. I get the same satisfaction with my right hand with far less headaches. 3. It's my life. I'll do what I want with it. 4. At least I don't have herpes and some who shun do. So the jokes on them. 5. My life is much better than theirs will ever be.
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They're jealous they have to put up with a relationship while we're fine without it, perhaps?
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I want to focus on taking care of myself first before I date anyone because I refuse to go searching for love when I'm not fully prepared for it.



That sums up my stance perfectly. I want to get where I wanna be first before even thinking about dragging someone else along with me.
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Posted 10/7/13

GreatLordBalzak wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

I want to focus on taking care of myself first before I date anyone because I refuse to go searching for love when I'm not fully prepared for it.



That sums up my stance perfectly. I want to get where I wanna be first before even thinking about dragging someone else along with me.


Glad to have someone that understands.
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