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Love vs Obsession
Posted 10/11/13
When the boundaries blur and the lines disappear, you may be obsessing and not loving and what you think is love is calf love. I'm just saying, it's hard to distinguish. When we're young we don't know. We learn, dudes.

Discuss. Love can be obsessive. Bad!
Posted 10/11/13 , edited 10/11/13
Love should be gluttonous obsession, in a person I aspire, in a person whom inspires me, in a person whom all my hopes and dreams for a better future rests upon. Otherwise, it's just an obligation; another annoying person in my life that I don't really like being around, but just suffer with because it's more convenient.
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Posted 10/11/13
Hm. I don't think that 'love' can be obsessive but lust can be.
That's the line most people get confused with between love and lust.
As love doesn't or shouldn't allow the heart to control and contain another person or the person doing the loving.

Love should be unconditional. Obsession is a condition.
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Posted 10/11/13
Love is mutual. Obsession is not.
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Posted 10/11/13

vladsmom wrote:

Hm. I don't think that 'love' can be obsessive but lust can be.
That's the line most people get confused with between love and lust.
As love doesn't or shouldn't allow the heart to control and contain another person or the person doing the loving.

Love should be unconditional. Obsession is a condition.


Pretty much sums up what I would say. Obsession borders on the dangerous, to the point you stalk a person or feel the need to hurt them or yourself when they do not comply with your obsession/lust.


OutlawXII wrote:

Love is mutual. Obsession is not.



I wouldn't say love is strictly mutual, because you can love people for various reasons but they may never fully return it in kind (i.e. your drug addict friend or sibling). The point where it becomes unhealthy is when it becomes an obsession.
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Posted 10/11/13
Love is unconditional... again.. which means it doesn't have to be mutual. You can love and receive love without returning it.. hence it being unconditional. In an ideal relationship, of any level of intimacy, yes... love would be lovely if it was mutual.
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Posted 10/11/13 , edited 10/11/13
What is calf love?
Posted 10/11/13

CalifCat wrote:

What is calf love?


It is a term with the same meaning as puppy love.
Posted 10/12/13 , edited 10/12/13

OutlawXII wrote:

Love is mutual. Obsession is not.

Still not mutual if they're both mutually obsessive?


vladsmom wrote:

Love is unconditional... again.. which means it doesn't have to be mutual. You can love and receive love without returning it.. hence it being unconditional. In an ideal relationship, of any level of intimacy, yes... love would be lovely if it was mutual.

Unconditional love is apathy.
Posted 10/12/13
I feel that 9/10 I mess with the obsessing type of people :(. How do you avoid these types of people or what are the signs?
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Posted 10/12/13

-tion wrote:

I feel that 9/10 I mess with the obsessing type of people :(. How do you avoid these types of people or what are the signs?


You can see the cray in their eyes.
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-tion wrote:

How do you avoid these types of people

Through introspection, self-awareness, insight and general intelligence.
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Posted 10/12/13
What is this "love" you speak of?
Posted 10/13/13

dankuuwut wrote:


-tion wrote:

How do you avoid these types of people

Through introspection, self-awareness, insight and general intelligence.


Common sense.
Posted 10/13/13
Yep, there is something definitely wrong with me T_T lol
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