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Love life or Friendship?
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Posted 10/13/13
Life isn't something where you have to sacrifice either. True friends will always be there, just as a true love will. There isn't a need to choose one over an other.
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I've never been able to love someone seriously. It was always a simple crush thus my relationships didn't last long. I'd choose love though. It's just fun doing intimate stuff, I guess.. I just hate the obligations that come with it.

Ahh I really don't know the more I think about it. I feel like I prefer friendship now
Posted 10/13/13
Love.

I have many friends with no romantic feelings...I have never fallen in love and because of my lack of love towards someone I want to it have it so bad! I always say that I don't believe in that kind of love that lasts forever but I love reading romantic stories because it's explained how that person feels, the way they get excited and feel utterly happy by just being next to that person they love...and if love is mutual you have it all. I hope I can experience it someday...then again, for me it doesn't exist.^^;;
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24 / M / A world of my own...
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I believe that it's important to have both friendship and love. I feel the best way to cultivate the feeling of love is to begin with friendship. Relationships (both intimate and non-intimate) are constantly changing; the relations with one person or a group of people can be cordial one day and hostel the next. This is one of the reasons why there are short term intimate relationships. A couple who is solely attracted to one another on a shallow basis (sexual attraction, public persona [i.e.. charming, intelligent, etc.]) will find it difficult to stay together as time progresses because the lust cools off or their personality is not what you expected. If you have a mutual friendship, then the relationship has a greater chance of success. In the event your relationship because tense, it is easier to make amends if their is a stronger underlying connection.

In my opinion, it is naïve to assume love will naturally blossom out of friendship. However, I believe that you can enter a romantic relationship with someone and develop both your intimate (physical, emotional) relations as well as become friends. A romantic relationship and friendship are both entities that require constant cultivation and attention. I further believe that having a friendship with someone, even if it's your best friend, does not mean you would make a good couple. Some of my closest friends, throughout my life, have been female. I cannot say that I was not attracted to some of them at one point but as our friendship grew, the attraction faded because I discovered I enjoyed her company but we were incompatible as a couple. Furthermore, I have grown to love two of my female friends but they are more like sisters then candidates for intimate relations and this feeling is mutual.

At the end of the day, I'm a romantic fool and I'm constantly assessing my evaluation of relationships and trying to find the answer to the question asked in this forum, amongst many others. The advise I shared with you was taught to me by my Grandmother and Great-Grandfather. I'm simple a young man who is trying to define what I want in a relationship and the qualities I want in a woman (beyond physical attraction). So, I will patiently (foolishly?) wait for the "right" moment, when I "know" I have meet the "right" person and I will do my best to answer the myriad of questions I have about relationships. Maybe I will learn my opinions are wrong or only partially correct; all I know is I look forward to the day when I can start looking for the answers with someone special, as I get to know her better.

Respectfully,

Jesse Alexander
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Posted 10/13/13 , edited 10/13/13
Since question is open-ended with no specifics.

I say both,

Love life and friendship are two great worlds to live in, no?
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23 / F / Texas
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Posted 10/13/13
I've had friendships for 19 years.. I think its about time I get a love life...
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20 / F
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Posted 10/13/13
friendship fuck yeah!
Posted 10/14/13
Friends with benefits
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20 / F / New zealand
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Posted 10/14/13 , edited 10/14/13
friendship!!!
Posted 10/14/13
Love.

Friends are worthless.
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Posted 10/14/13
"it must be love..."
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22 / F
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Posted 10/14/13
why not both
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F / NYC
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Posted 10/14/13

Midnight-Luna wrote:
why not both





I agree
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19 / M
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Posted 10/14/13
None.


I like lonliness
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17 / M / Soaked In Soul
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Posted 10/14/13
Love is all I need.
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