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Why is sex seen as indecent?
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Posted 10/23/13

Phersu wrote:

Now, now. We're the highest consumers of porn because unlike other countries who are open about it, we're all closet perverts.

And sex is viewed as indecent is because of men. If men were better at sex, women would start viewing sex as decent.


All jokes aside, its not really indecent as long as you're not doing anything wrong. Legally, that is. It's just something that should be private.


Now don't quote me on it, but men being perverted is a rather modern way of thinking. The classic "all women are lustful and can't control themselves" is the classic/old style of thinking. I remember reading that in our greek times "A man unable to control his primal urges was no better than a woman, and seen as weak". Or so the Romans saw it, or the Greeks....SOMEONE back then. It's changed towards the opposite nowadays but the same connotations are in it, sex (outside of the purity and love style) is considered wrong.

To continue. I don't believe it's such an indecent thing as it is an indecent subject.

Those who haven't had sex don't have much to talk about, and those who have probably have little to talk about as well. What are you going to tell them, about the person you just had sex with or the act itself? Do you even know about the act enough to talk about it? It's natural sure, you do the freudian thing, sure there's more to it, but do you really know?

Unless you ask someone for advice, it would rarely come up.

It's also extremely personal. What I do with someone else is nobody else's business. It will probably come up more often when I'm married, but wouldn't that conversation still be limited to two people?

Then we have how I learned everything I know about sex from a Manga. My parents and school taught me nothing. Family Guy taught me more about not getting pregnant than anything else ever has, and American Dad put the AIDS scare in me better than the government.


Those are my thoughts.
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I never really understood it either. I mean, sex is a regular part of life. I think people should be careful that they do not have kids until they are emotionally and financially stable enough to properly care for them but then again I was an accident myself. I don't know what that's like.

I've never had sex with anyone yet and I don't get any pleasure from touching myself. I guess I've stayed away from sex because of pregnancy but there are so many options available to stop that from happening.

I guess if sex was really no big deal, maybe society would be better. There woudn't be as many sex crimes, people would be healthier, happier and less stressed. Of course the oposite could happen, there could be more crimes and then people would just be doing anybody. Even if that was the case, not everyone would behave the same way. Hmm....I don't know. That's a tough question. :/
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Posted 10/24/13
Probably started with a big huddle of insecure men with wives screwing other dudes and dudettes ;-)



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Posted 10/27/13
All state courts agree that pornography is obscene. Besides, I think we are conditioned to see it as indecent. I feel like the porn industry has so much fuck up shit going on that sex is no longer just love, butterflies and rainbow farts. How can anyone say that a women being forcefully used to choke on some guy's dick not seen as being indecent? What is used to create can also be used to destroy, with rape. So that's another idea.

But it think the main reason is that erotica is mainly only for adults. I mean, wouldn't it be indecent if you let your toddler have sex with their school mates?
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Posted 10/27/13
Because we don't want the children seeing it, also it helps keep birth rates down which in turn keeps the population from growing too damn much.
Posted 10/27/13
The more you discuss sex, the more young people feel it's okay to go off and do because we make it sound like it doesn't have any responsibility behind it. I think it's something adults can discuss in small groups but not preaching it to the classroom.
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sex was originally intended as a private matter and a very intimate relationship activity between two people who love each other. now that our culture today throws the word "love" around as if it's nothing but don't know the real feeling and meaning behind it sex is being treated that was also. The taboo part comes from religions saying you shall not have sexual relations before you get married (Christianity), and there are probably other religions and cultures like that as well.

I had this discussion with a few of my psychology classmates a while back, we talked about when we lost each other's virginity. It appears that its more like a right of passage because they DID it, not really intimate as it's suppose to be. And yes, we do talk about our sex lives, but we don't go into details not because we are insecure about what we did, but because we acknowledge that it is a private matter between you and that partner.

Society today has relaxed on sex being indecent thanks to media. Songs talking about people sleeping around and being a player, girls being people's B*tches, etc etc etc. I no longer see Sweet 16 on MTV for it has been replaced with 16 and Pregnant. That too, pregnancy, has had the blessing and happiness that came with it be dulled by people getting pregnant more and more. I have seen girls who get pregnant, have the kid, and go back to partying and sleep with a lot of guys. It's horrible in my opinion, the morals of today's society has taken a turn to where things that were considered an intimate thing are now an everyday activity.
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Posted 11/14/13
ask the virgin teenagers here who always start threads attacking grown ups for having sex before marriage
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Posted 11/17/13
Read The History of Sexuality by Michel Foucault.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_History_of_Sexuality


Also, Brave New World is a dystopian novel. With how the books plot is based on psychological allocation, taking a part of it out-of-context won't help you examine a society where a system like that could be set up.
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Posted 11/18/13

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The way I was told was that if a key can open many locks its considered a good key or called a "master key"
A lock that can be opened by many keys is just called a shitty lock.


That's a stupendously idiotic comparison.
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I have be wondering this for a long time now. The stigma behind sex, especially around women and young people is very damaging. In American schools a lot of the time they teach abstinence only sex ed and it's proven to not work at all in making students abstinent or even to be safe when have sex. Comprehensive sex ed on the other hand generally led to less teenage pregnancies and stds. They knew that to do if they chose to have sex, rather than just being constantly told that it was bad. Also they always said that condoms and birth control were only 99% effective. I mean for starters it's more like 99.9% but also there are other things they teach us that have a lot higher perfect of ending badly. Like driving. 3 out of 4 people get in car accidents in their life but we aren't teaching people not to drive. Just to wear their seat belts.

I think a lot of it stems from Christianity and the idea that sex has to be this emotional, romantic thing when in reality sex and romance are two separate things that just often cross over with each other. It is possible to have romantic feelings for someone without sexual ones (this is very common for asexual people), and it is, of course, possible to feel sexual feelings for someone without romantic ones. The idea that the latter is bad and that you shouldn't act on it when both/all participants are of age and willing is ridiculous. Just be safe and use protection. I genuinely can't understand the people who hate people for having consensual sex. It just doesn't even make sense to me. Especially when they attack women for it more than men. That right there is pure sexism.

And don't get me started on the completely dumb lock/key metaphor. Just because you can make a metaphor that fits, doesn't mean it's logical or true. Like I could say "if a pencil has been in loads of pencil sharpeners, it’s probably a short pencil that wears out really quickly and should be thrown away! But if a pencil sharpener has sharpened lots of pencils, it must be a pretty good pencil sharpener." but that doesn't mean that it's a good metaphor for sex.
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Posted 11/18/13
I dont Know. I get the feeling when people hear the word "SEX" they automatically think porn which shouldnt be the case.
Posted 11/18/13 , edited 11/18/13

laviriot13 wrote:

sex was originally intended as a private matter and a very intimate relationship activity between two people who love each other. now that our culture today throws the word "love" around as if it's nothing but don't know the real feeling and meaning behind it sex is being treated that was also. The taboo part comes from religions saying you shall not have sexual relations before you get married (Christianity), and there are probably other religions and cultures like that as well.

I had this discussion with a few of my psychology classmates a while back, we talked about when we lost each other's virginity. It appears that its more like a right of passage because they DID it, not really intimate as it's suppose to be. And yes, we do talk about our sex lives, but we don't go into details not because we are insecure about what we did, but because we acknowledge that it is a private matter between you and that partner.

Society today has relaxed on sex being indecent thanks to media. Songs talking about people sleeping around and being a player, girls being people's B*tches, etc etc etc. I no longer see Sweet 16 on MTV for it has been replaced with 16 and Pregnant. That too, pregnancy, has had the blessing and happiness that came with it be dulled by people getting pregnant more and more. I have seen girls who get pregnant, have the kid, and go back to partying and sleep with a lot of guys. It's horrible in my opinion, the morals of today's society has taken a turn to where things that were considered an intimate thing are now an everyday activity.


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I wholeheartedly agree with all that and I think is the best answer so far.

To add my 2 cents: Sex is a part of life, sure but it should be performed by people who are old enough to be responsible of their own actions. Not many kids have the capacity AND the maturity to fully understand what sex really is and the responsibilities that come with it. That's why parents regard it as "bad" for their children, as a way to protect them. It's not the best course of action but I understand why they do it.

(Btw, I actually think that America is very open when it comes to sexuality, try visiting other continents and you'll see they're not as "open minded" as us).

As for casual sex, we are not animals to be sleeping around with anyone and everyone. We have a mind to think and feelings so it should be important to us who we are having sex with. Of course not everyone thinks this way and those who like casual sex...good for them, as long as they're responsible, I don't mind..... but I get very disappointed in people nowadays when the girl gets pregnant and the kid is an unwanted child who comes to this world without a father or when someone gets infected. That's why it's not alright to teach just sex but also the consequences of it.

Teach the children the morals and values of a family and what it means to be a 'partner', it is not just about sex and feeling good. It is because we have lost the meaning of morality and values that many girls are getting pregnant at age 10-13 and adults are raping little kids.

I don't think adults see sex as bad but it is something that should be kept behind closed doors just like we keep our naked bodies hidden by clothes (we don't think our bodies are indecent, right?)and we should only expose our naked bodies to that special someone. I'm not a prude or religious or anything like that but I know I will not die if I don't have sex, it is not a necessity and I will not sleep with everyone around me just because it feels good. Also, I don't want to hear people talking about their sex lives, it is a private matter to me.


Rena-Ryuuguu wrote:

Answer: Granted this is an extreme example, and the society in the book is very messed up and there many things wrong with it :sweatingbullets:

If society was more like that would it be bad?


You answered your own question.


Rena-Ryuuguu wrote:Wouldn't there be a lot less sex crimes if sex was as common as getting a drink with a friend/colleague?



There are prostitutes everywhere, if the guy feels the need to have sex, he should just seek one...or go to his wife. I don't think that viewing sex as normal as getting a drink it is the solution for having less sex crimes, those perverts will do what they do because they are sick and not because they feel any kind of sexual repression. I think it would actually provoke a mindset of "I can stick my d*ck anywhere I want without getting in trouble!" thus, causing more rape cases, especially with little kids who are the more vulnerable.,,,so, this is not the solution since everyone is different and not everyone will feel comfortable in that kind of society.

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Posted 11/18/13 , edited 11/18/13
Nowadays, it seems like sex is more important than romance especially when it comes to appearances.
The more beautiful/sexually attractive the person looks is the likely chance that person is great in bed. If a person isn't attractive sexually and appearance wise it's like "who the hell wanna have sex with that person?".

Sex gets treated like a race/game to out do the other when it shouldn't be. Nobody really cares about romance when they rather have sex.

Just my honest opinion.
[not everyone is like that though.]
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Posted 11/18/13
what i hate most is that whenever you talk about anime, some people think of hentai... which is not.
i guess, to me, it's all about the culture and upbringing. its a topic we shouldn't shun but we tend to as it is personal.
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