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Posted 10/23/13 , edited 10/24/13
This has happened to me so many times and I truly despise it. I used to be pretty short and I still have very small feet. I get so many comments along the lines of "Wow, you have smaller feet than my eight-year-old sister!" or when people used my head as an armrest (luckily I've gotten taller since then). I usually don't mind if it's something like "You have a piece of lettuce stuck in between your teeth" because it would probably benefit me to know, but if you make comments about things I can't help then it's simply rude. I shake it off and walk away, but sometimes it just makes me mad.

1. Are you one of those people?

2. Have you had similar situations?


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Posted 10/23/13
Yes, but then again I've met enough insensitive people to be insensitive to others. Once you've experience more things you will start to think less of "Why did he say that :(" and more "Fucking asshole, I'll chop his balls off if I could"
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Well, sorry that happens to you. It does tick me off at times how some people don't realize that others don't have as thick of skin as some and take offence easier.
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Posted 10/23/13
Welll!! I wouldnt say I am insensitive, only sad movies or when people who have cause trouble for other start to pout. I cant stand when people get pick on people. I am pretty mellow, people make fun of me but I play it off. Pretend it not that big of a deal, when most of the time it is not, I am pretty use to verbal attack whether on purpose or just kidding. So I kind off act like all of them are just kidding. But others might think that I am insensitive. I am a pretty tough Cookie!!!=D
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Posted 10/23/13
I don't consider myself Insensitive more like blunt not going to lie to you just to make you feel better if something is wrong I am going to tell you. But I am not going to go out of my way to point things out
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Posted 10/23/13
I hate how people measure you by the height and size you were. I started freshman year 5"9 , 160 pounds and they would try to scare me off the team. But, I work hard, drunk my milk, and by my senior year I was 5"11 , 205 pounds and was awarded a scholarship to go play. It's a pride thing I believe, don't worry about what they say and you be good. Also I have a big head to, so I can related to that armrest crap....
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20 / M / Existence.
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Posted 10/23/13
Eh. I can say I'm pretty insensitive. I just don't get all emotional like some people can, and I just don't care when people insult me so my skin is fairly thick. Because of that, I tend to think of other people having as little reaction to insults as me. Then again, I don't really talk enough to insult people with my insensitivity. So, it all balances out in the end.
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Posted 10/23/13
You shouldn't take those things seriously, if you get angry every time someone says something bad about you, you will have a lot of trouble in the future. I used to be very skinny (I'm still thin, but not as much as before) and tall, but I don't feel offended when they try to make me feel bad because of that; you kind of get used to it.
Getting on to the topic, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a jerk (Bullying goes both ways too) but just with those I know can endure a certain degree of soft bullying. In my city people have a behavior that could be considered "rude" even in other States of my country, but we learn to act calmer with people we don't know (Because as stated before in this thread, not everyone endures the same things to the same degree).
Posted 10/23/13
Because the world doesn't revolve around your feelings. They revolve around my feelings.
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Posted 10/23/13 , edited 10/24/13
I completely understand the whole height thing. I'm 21 I'm only 4'11 and I still look like a damn 12 year old. So you could only imagine the things people say to me. I think its rude to state something so obvious, and to talk about things you have no control over. Like I don't already fucking know I'm short. It's like asking someone why there skin a certain color. And since when has look young been a bad thing. At least when I'm 40 I will still look the way I do now. As cliche` as it is, when thing's get really bad I think people need to learn how to stick up for them selves, and others need to think before they open there mouths.
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Posted 10/23/13
u called?
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Imagine you're walking with a friend, and the most gorgeous guy you've ever laid eyes on passes by.
Then you say to your friend "He's hot."
Suddenly you feel a fist and sharp pain shoot through your shoulder.
As you cradle your damaged arm, your friend berates you for being a terrible person, telling you not to say such things about people.
That's what being an insensitive person implies.
You get resented for things that never mattered to you in the first place, and it colors the way others react to you.

You'd be surprised at the stuff people take offense at. Super tall people? Don't like being called tall. Super short people? Don't like being called short. Pretty people? Depends, some mind, some don't. Being complimented often makes people detest specific complements, and they don't take insults well either. Calling a beautiful person pretty won't help, and neither will calling them ugly. Learning what to say and not to say to any given person is difficult. Often the easiest way out is to say nothing about any traits they have. Except getting people to talk about themselves and their interests is generally one prescribed method for getting people to like you. Being sensitive is one of the most infuriating things people force others to do. It's so easy to screw up, that even people that try really hard not to offend people can't do it. I've been in situations where not being sensitive is more sensitive than being sensitive.
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Regardless of who you are there will always be people that say things about you that you can be sensitive about. It is unfortunate, but unless society took an approach similar to Hitler where any people with undesirable characteristics were removed then this will never change. There are many who would blindly desire that, but the truth in life is people will say things without fully understanding things. This can be due to many reasons, and in most cases it isn't as hateful as people's feelings would lead them to believe.

A few things to consider.

Everyone has insecurities. Nothing to be ashamed about with that.

Most of the time everyone is mostly concerned about themselves. Even 'Saints' have to worry about their own well being or else they won't have the opportunity to help others in the first place.

Nobody knows anything without first learning about it. A baby has no idea that a hot stove burns unless they touch it or someone else warns them about it. It isn't too different when it comes to more complex things such as other people's feelings and perspectives. If someone says or does something you don't like you need to tell them. There is a chance that they are unaware.

Finally, many people will say things just for the effect or response. This can stem from their own insecurity, curiosity, detachment from their own feelings because they've been there before, or many other reasons.

In any case, similar to how revenge will never take back any wrong, responding to insensitivity with likewise insensitivity will only fuel the problem. The best solution is to state that you are offended and if they take offense to your offense try and understand that pride isn't something quickly overcome. If they are someone you care about give it time, but if not then it is probably best to move on and avoid them if at all possible.

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Posted 10/23/13
i am one of those people but unlike most, i keep it all inside and just act polite unless i know the person very well
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Posted 10/24/13 , edited 10/24/13
Haha I get pestered all day about my looks. It's my choice at the end of the day, and I have never felt the need to change because of it because I enjoy growing my beard and hair.

It ranges from complimentary, curiosity, rude to maliciously insulting though and it really is a daily occurrence. I also live in a really ignorant Town completely devoid of culture and primarily populated by scumbags though. When I travel to nearby cities I barely hear a word.

I've been called Jesus every day for the past 10 years. I dare to even imagine what the total of that would be. I laugh at the fact most people that call me it think they're witty and spotted something nobody else did.
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