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Posted 10/24/13 , edited 10/24/13
Every time someone 'sir's me, I have to decide weather or not I want to die on that hill today. One thing I hate is people, especially people who don't know me well being sensitive on my behalf. I don't need any white knights.
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I can be pretty bold sometimes and that's what my mum hates about me. ^_^; but i try my best not to hurt feelings of others
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Two words: High school.
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Posted 10/24/13
1. No I'm not

2. Everyone does

I just don't care what "insensitive" people say, their words shouldn't matter to you much unless you really have a problem with your insecurities; in that case get over them and eat a klondike bar, should make you feel better


DirEnGay wrote:

Haha I get pestered all day about my looks. It's my choice at the end of the day, and I have never felt the need to change because of it because I enjoy growing my beard and hair.

It ranges from complimentary, curiosity, rude to maliciously insulting though and it really is a daily occurrence. I also live in a really ignorant Town completely devoid of culture and primarily populated by scumbags though. When I travel to nearby cities I barely hear a word.

I've been called Jesus every day for the past 10 years. I dare to even imagine what the total of that would be. I laugh at the fact most people that call me it think they're witty and spotted something nobody else did.


Oh, and you have the most awesome beard ever

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dankuuwut wrote:

Because the world doesn't revolve around your feelings. They revolve around my feelings.



Thank you!!! Finally!! someone understands.

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Nothing wrong with a bit of constructive criticism.
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Well don't want to sound mean, but the world is full of lot of people like that & even worse. You're just going to have to deal with it, stop complaining & just ignore them. I've had that happen to me, I just ignore it or laugh it off or laugh right at their face for saying that. I wonder why they waste their time saying that, they think they're going to hurt my feeling hahaha.
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Posted 10/24/13
1) I'm not the type to say much about somebody; I'm kind of an insular sort of person, so I don't always notice much and even if I did, I probably wouldn't care to say anything.

2) I haven't had people comment a great deal on my looks; perhaps a few times over the years, but I doubt anyone except the really good looking people escape that entirely. I have had people make fun of the way I speak, as I've never really bothered speaking clearly.

I'm sorry to hear you're running into these sorts of people.
I do wonder if you might be overreacting slightly to some of the things you mentioned though. Without knowing the situation, like who's saying this and with what goal, it's kind of hard to say. Personally, my friends and I rag on one another all the time, and to be honest, I don't know many people that wouldn't say the same. If the people saying these things aren't your friends, well, that's a different story of course.

The small feet thing, for instance, I thought that was something girls would like? I mean, what's bad about having small feet, anyway? Maybe people could phrase it better though, I guess comparisons to an 8 year old might be annoying.

The using your head as an armrest, yeah, that's a bit much, particularly if it's a stranger... if it's a friend or relative, though, it could be that they don't mean anything bad by it, or perhaps just mean it as a sort of good-natured teasing? Also, maybe people just find your shortness cute or something?

The hair dye thing, well, maybe people really think it's dyed or are curious? I'm not really too into this stuff, but maybe a 14 year old dying her hair is unusual, i.e. a little early to do that, so people comment on it out of surprise?

Again, for all I know someone is resting their arm on your head, pointing at you with the other arm and saying "Look at this girl with tiny 8-year-old feet and badly dyed hair! Oh, and check out that pimple on her nose!"
But I kind of doubt that's the case. Or at least, I hope I'm wrong; that would be rather embarrassing.
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Posted 10/24/13
Am I an insensitive person? Yes.

I'd rather tell you the truth now than lie to you to spare your feelings for a little while before you find out I lied and despise me for it even more.

On the plus side I find short people cute.
Posted 10/24/13
Do what you want just don't go with the flow and keeping silent is going with the flow It's so much better if you can make them feel like shit without them even knowing what you're doing and don't play into it by any means, wait and plan.

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Posted 10/24/13
Well if I'm ever insensitive to someone I feel bad about it for the rest of the day, so, I avoid doing it. But sometimes I just don't notice.

Insensitive towards me, yeah people have been, but I just ignore them.
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I was branded for having a sharp tongue.

I don't know what they're saying, but I'm an idiot. I'll admit to that.

It's maybe the face.
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Posted 10/24/13
Sounds like some people would hate to meet me in real life. I'm straight forward and I really don't care about people's problems. So when people come up to me and start complaining about something extremely trivial in my eyes, I'll usually tell them to STFU and stop crying.
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I'm 5'6". It used to bother me in high school. Now I pretty much accept it. People will make comments but they no longer bother me. I still manage to date girls taller than me.
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so...you're 14...and you're short...you have a lot more of "insensitive" attitude people coming your way.

I'm short (5' 2"), and a lot of people are taller than me. Do I let it bother me? Nope. Do people use me as an arm rest? My friends do, but it was a sign of affection and not to make fun of me. My boss and supervisors make short jokes, but I have comebacks that catch them off guard. Sometimes it makes me look like an asshole, but honestly I don't care. You really shouldn't let this small stuff bother you. People use to joke with me about being very small and light (I weight around 110 lbs on a good day), and I could be thrown over a wall if needed. But hey, it's a joke so I don't take anything personal. And I don't have the flawless skin, I had acne issues too, but it's called GROWING UP. We're all insecure about something, you just need to let time go and not care about them anymore. I have small boobs, I use to get jealous of girls with big boobs, but after a while I stopped caring because my boyfriend told me up straight that he doesn't mind that I have small boobs, but I have other aspects of me that make up for it (ex. actually knowing how to cook and take care of him when he is sick, not gaining the Freshman 20 and weighing the same as I was in HS). Now, to answer your questions:

1. Are you one of those people?
In a sense, yes. But I work with adults (I'm 22 and the youngest person at work), and we joke with each other all the time so we don't go insane from boredom. Sometimes if I do go overboard someone would say so and I simply apologize, and that's that. You really need to realize that you are young and are about to go into HS (if you aren't already in HS), and this stuff is everywhere right? And if you are still calling people insensitive, you're going to get a culture shock when you get to college.

2. Have you had similar situations?
Yes, but I don't take it personal. People joke, learn to joke back jeebus.
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