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Do you find it easy to make friends?
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I feel like the title is fairly self explanatory! Do you struggle to talk to people and make friends? I often get anxious when talking to new people and once the ice breaks I can get self conscious about what they think of me. Although at the same time talking to people with similar interests (Like anime for example!) makes it a lot easier!
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I haven't had a close group of friends in 4 or 5 years. But having lived in a small town most of my life everybody's a friendly acquaintance, which I didn't realize how much I enjoyed until moving to college. Currently, I don't have a friend in the world. I just stay locked up in my dorm room most days.

It's always been difficult for me to connect with other people, including family, even at a young age. Talking is easy...if there's actually something to talk about, and I love thoughtful discussions, but I'm rarely the one to initiate conversation so I've put myself in this position. I'm quite stoic, so people can't get a read on me. People who have known me most of my life often surprise me with their opinions of me--many think I'm cold-hearted or just an asshole with no real personality. Someone I once considered a friend told me I have no love in my life, and it stuck with me, because I love many things in this world almost too much, I just have trouble sharing that.

Such a situation can be speculated to death, but I over-analyze myself enough as it is.

Introverted masochist right here ladies and gentlemen. I charge internet bandwidth for public shows.
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Who know? I can't say I've really tried to make friends.
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I find it extremely difficult in reality, considering people can see what you look like, and people tend to judge you based upon the outside, not your true personality or the insides. On the internet it is way easier, mainly because nobody has a clue who you are, what you look like, including your personalities. Making friends on the internet is fun, but you always wish that you could meet them irl, which some people actually do, but i have not yet.
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Phersu wrote:

Who know? I can't say I've really tried to make friends.


That probably means that you find it easy if you don't even have to try!
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My problem is that I really don't have anything to talk about with others. I don't like sports, I don't hunt/fish I play video games but I prefer JRPGs over COD I really only watch anime these days plus I love to read. Starting conversations with people, especially my age, is bloody difficult and honestly I don't really care.
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I agree with a lot of people. I could say that I don't really try to make friends...but whenever I do, it's just really hard to keep that relationship going. Aside from talking about school, I'm not interested in the newest One Direction song or that really hot guy, and they're not interested in my hobbies. Even when I find someone who's interested in anime, we don't share the same interests in genres. I mean, how many people out there's favorite genre is SOL?

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Making friends? Sure! But connecting with people and forming lasting bonds and relationships, well that's a different story altogether.
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20 / M / Illinois
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Melly-chan wrote:
I mean, how many people out there's favorite genre is SOL?



I've seen some good SOL anime, or at least good anime with SOL qualities.

Like Spice and Wolf or TMOHS. I also get why people like Lucky Star, but most of it went over my head.

It is a niche, I suppose.
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i find it hard to befriend someone.


1. because i'm introverted, that means i can't keep conversations flowing. i can only talk for about 15 minutes, then i want to stop talking. conversations tire me out, even just listening to someone speak.
most people would classify me as boring.


2. i'm quite selective. i can't befriend someone if i don't feel comfortable around them; for example, i probably can get along with someone who is from lower class than someone who is from upper class; because i can relate more to lower class people. i don't like upper class people, most of them tend to have a superiority-complex, with their nose up so high, i just don't like that kind of attitude, i'm not comfortable around it.



Posted 10/24/13
I find it exceedingly hard to make friends that are worth anything.

I can get along with just about everyone if I try, though.
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Coz i can make small talk if i'm in a mood or feeling friendly, but maintaining aquiantances is hard for me....so they don't turn out to be a real friend where i can really open up to and feel comfortable with. I can make easy aquiantances, but i don't consider a person i know a "friend" until i can really show my true self to that person.
i don't like a lot of close personal friends, i like to have friends that i hang out with like 1 a week or something but a real friend to me is someone i call my sister, or brother even if we look nothing alike.. i only have 3 of those and the rest are just pals, so for just pals 10
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Making FRIENDS are kind of easy... A Longlasting friends that have those small gay moments takes a long time xD
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25 / F / Limbo
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Fanboyish

Introverted masochist right here ladies and gentlemen. I charge internet bandwidth for public shows.


I'm the same way. You and I should do shows together. We could make a killing. >->

Anyways, yes, I do. I'm painfully shy and awkward due to physical disabilities. Combine that with being severely introverted, and that leads to me rarely if ever opening my mouth to speak so I hate conversing with people: I don't care enough to feign interest in what they say 99% of the time, and I can't hold eye contact at all. I've also had my heart crushed too many times by "friends" to even bother trying to make new ones.

There's a reason I prefer animals over people.



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its pretty hard for me because i dont consider them as friend until i know them for a year and most of the time we just talk for about three months or a couple of days and never talk again hahaha XD
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