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Do you find it easy to make friends?
Posted 10/24/13
No. I'm introverted and very awkward in social situations. It also doesn't help that I have an unfriendly countenance which, I've been told many times, gives people the impression that I want them to back off. I think it's a miracle I even have friends in the first place. xD Although I think it's weird how I'm not my best friend's best friend. Awkwaaaaaard.
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You can make 100 friends a day, but making a true friend takes time. I'd rather have 1 true friend than 1000 friends that don't know me.
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theres only 4-5 people i really talk to...but i consider 1 of them to be a true friend...(hopefully maybe more )
i'm more of a loner anyway

losing "friends" seems like an unfortunate easy task tho, whether from my end or theirs. f*ckin with, not bein honest (in a serious way), treat me like sh*t...i wont hesitate to go "f*ck this"
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Posted 10/24/13
very easy, I talk to everyone
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I can easily make friends with people I think I'm compatible with, but my main issue is groups. Amongst a group of all girls, there tends to be drama and I absolutely hate drama. I've moved groups four times already because I didn't like how they acted. I've been ditched twice too, and it really doesn't feel great. I've probably only had three true friends, but they other two moved away and my last one is slipping from me. So yeah, I can make friends, but I'm incapable of keeping them.
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Posted 10/24/13
I can honestly say that I have never made a friend by me taking initiative. Every friend that I had either came up to me and just started talking to me or I met them through other people. Whether it is me trying to get a date or trying to make a friend, I always fail. Like some others in this forum, I don't like sports. I find them very boring. Also, where I live, a lot of people are into hip-hop, rap, and R&B. However, I don't particularly care for that genre of music. I love anime, chess, video games, physics, chemistry, and math. I am also a huge introvert and socially awkward.
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Posted 10/24/13
I'm a gamer too and I hate COD gamers! Recently met my cousin's son, who made the claim that he can beat anyone in gaming (especially a girl), and, after wiping the floor with him, he proceeded to tell me about his skills in COD online. I just rolled my eyes and told him to play a real game like Fallout 3 then get back with me. >,< Playing COD only (or stupid sport games only) do NOT make you a gamer like actual gamers, who play a wide variety of titles, are. *nod nod* Ok, I'm done ranting... ^,^
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Posted 10/24/13

SKCREX wrote:

Cuz I can make small talk if I'm in a mood or feeling friendly, but maintaining acquaintances is hard for me....so they don't turn out to be a real friend where I can really open up to and feel comfortable with. I can make easy acquaintances, but I don't consider a person I know a "friend" until I can really show my true self to that person.


This exactly. I am naturally an introverted person, and growing up I was pretty quiet. I would rather listen and observe, and never had much to say. I hated making small talk, thinking it was a waste of my time to talk about useless things with people I didn't care about. I was always in my own little world, and the only thing I wanted was to be left alone to go back to my books. Recently, I even found out I used to intimidate others because of how quiet I was. People even thought I was shy! lol

Now, I am a bit different. I have had jobs in the service industry for the past 6 years, and it has taught me how to make small talk with people, be a bit more friendly, and always have a smile on my face, no matter if I am sick or in a bad mood or in pain. I'm decent at small talk now, but I still find it difficult to form lasting relationships....and I think it is because, at the root of the problem, I still just don't care, and it's still not a natural state for me. It's a bit awkward, and sometimes I find myself slipping back to how I used to be, and making others uncomfortable when I don't respond to them XD

Now that I think about it, I have only ever been friends with people that have made the effort to get to know me first, or we have just become friends because we are all a bit odd and circumstances have grouped us together XD (the guys in the nerd crowd!!! Talking about you And even then, I count my real "friends" as very few. I have only one girl friend, whom I have known since grade 6. She has lived far away from me for the past 6 years, but we still text, get together maybe once a year. The guys I hang out with, I go for months in between hanging out. Sometimes, I wish for another girlfriend that actually lives in my city, but the ones that I find interesting, I find it difficult to get to know them, either because they already have their own group of friends, or my nerd side comes out, and our interests end up being too different
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Posted 10/24/13 , edited 10/24/13

Sorry folks, but we already have a discussion regarding this, so I'm closing this thread. There's obviously a lot of interest in the subject, so I do encourage you to copy what you wrote here, and share it there:

/forumtopic-782953/do-you-find-it-harder-to-make-friends-as-an-adult

(Please note that while the OP posed the question in terms of finding it harder to make friends as an adult, the ensuing discussion does include experiences of making friends, or finding it hard to make friends, even when young, so even if you're not yet an adult please do feel free to contribute there also.
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Posted 10/24/13

Double posting in order to notify all the participants on this fast-growing thread.

Just a heads up that I'm closing this thread because it duplicates an existing thread. You all have great things to share so I hope you'll take this opportunity to copy what you wrote here, and continue the conversation over there:

/forumtopic-782953/do-you-find-it-harder-to-make-friends-as-an-adult

See my post above for a little more info.

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