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Post Reply In your own opinion, what could make someone become a bully?
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Someone who sticks your head in a toilet
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UndeadMiltonius wrote:

Glad someone understood it. Yeah people really are pretty much assholes. Plus it gets worse, most of the people I've seen who have jumped on the " Hurr durr bullies are bad guys " bandwagon are actually bullies themselves or people who help them or do nothing against them. They participate in acts of intimidation without knowing what they're doing is bullying and then have the guts to call themselves people who fight against bullies and consider themselves nice people.

My god this always reminds me why I hate people so much. Humans are really fucking disgusting, well our nature is. I've yet gotta find someone who truly means it when they want to help someone.


Humans naturally want to be the best. That doesn't mean that they naturally squash others to boost their self confidence. I can't deny that a lot of people do just that, in some form or another, but there are people who are genuinely caring. I believe that.

Bullying is more of a "natural" thing around puberty, but that is more due to stress than an inherent desire to put everyone around you down. Young children may also bully, but I think that this is propelled by fear of difference, which is a natural human trait. We have to learn to accept others' differences instead of trying to separate ourselves. Some people never learn this, but I like to think that most people do. Moreso now than ever before, thanks to the progress of our education and our society as a whole.

In short, I think that bullying behavior is the result of growing pains. People are meant to advance beyond it. It is partially cultural, partially inherent, partially stress-induced and hormonal. It is not simple.

Now, this has all been pretty much speculation, because I am not a psychologist. Even psychologists disagree on these topics. But this is what I believe.

I hope that one day you find someone that does truly mean it when they want to help. They exist.

To OP's other questions - Yes, I have been bullied. Hasn't everyone at some point? It sucked at the time, but in hindsight, I appreciate the experience. It taught me that no matter how hard you try, you can never please everyone. (That doesn't mean I don't still try, though. Perhaps I haven't fully learned that lesson.) I was also a bully. I think everyone, at some point in life, has been a bully as well. Probably during childhood, when we didn't fully understand what we were doing to others. I am sorry for what I have done to hurt others. In many cases, I even apologized for it when I grew older. This is the best thing we can do. Grow enough to recognize our past mistakes and own up to them. It's all we can do, really.
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It could be the feeling of dominance you get from bulling someone, There are many things that can make someone become a bully, for the time that I was a bully it was just because my friends didn't like this one kid and I felt peer pressure to do so.

1. Did you ever bullied someone?
Yes It was during my first year in junior high, Me and my friends would target a weak small sized kid and would make fun of him. Eventually i realized after actually talking to the kid that i was making his life hell, I stood up for him and my friends stopped bulling him. I'm not sure he ever forgave us for what happened, but now I try to stand up for people being bullied.

2. Were you a victim to bullying?
No, I am of normal body size and always had the kind of personality where i'm not really going to sit and take abuse. People have certainly tried but they gave up after a week or so.
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verthuzad wrote:

It could be the feeling of dominance you get from bulling someone, There are many things that can make someone become a bully, for the time that I was a bully it was just because my friends didn't like this one kid and I felt peer pressure to do so.

1. Did you ever bullied someone?
Yes It was during my first year in junior high, Me and my friends would target a weak small sized kid and would make fun of him. Eventually i realized after actually talking to the kid that i was making his life hell, I stood up for him and my friends stopped bulling him. I'm not sure he ever forgave us for what happened, but now I try to stand up for people being bullied.

2. Were you a victim to bullying?
No, I am of normal body size and always had the kind of personality where i'm not really going to sit and take abuse. People have certainly tried but they gave up after a week or so.


I'm sure that boy really appreciates what you did for him. Not many junior high kids will turn on their own friends in defense of someone else. I wish I saw more people like you when I was in middle school.
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FumblesRX78 wrote:

Someone who sticks your head in a toilet


Ouch.
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