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Have you ever betrayed your own morals?
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Posted 10/30/13
Have you ever betrayed your own morals for any reason?
We all have rules we stand by in our own way, but do you always follow them when no one is around?
Or maybe you were justified in your own way to do so?


I have a strong moral obligation to help people in need and not take advantage of others, just a couple months ago when I was going door 2 door I found a wallet in front of a house. I didn't even need to think about it, I grabbed it off the ground and gave it to the owner with a proud smile expecting nothing but a thank you.

But last week when I was getting off the bus a man dropped his wallet on his seat, no-one around on the bus it was the last stop and I was the last one getting off wallet guy being the 2nd last... I casually pick it up and put it in my pocket. I already decided I was going to steal it, walk away and look into it when I get to work hoping for some money. But the guy frantically was searching for it and ran back onto the bus to look for it. I quickly ran onto the bus and asked if it was his (ofc I knew it was). The only reason I gave it back was because I was the last person on the bus so odds are I could get caught a lot easier than if it was a full bus. I have some money issues right now so I believe that's what pushed me to do it, but in reality that's just a excuse... I didn't even give it back out of guilt it was to save my own ass from getting caught. I felt like a big piece of shit for the whole shift and regret it ever since.


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Posted 10/30/13
Of course.

I won't list them, because I'm too embarrassed to.
But we are humans, we contradict ourselves sometimes.
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The moral that pops in my head is "to give money to the homeless that I run into, no matter what". However, I find myself ignoring homeless people at the side of the road at a full stop once in a while, pretending I didn't see them. Another of my morals is to blame for this, which is " you can't help others if you can't help yourself" because I have a reputation for giving too much money to everyone.
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No...it my seem weird to most but i follow a code. don't lie, don't smoke, don't drink alcohol, be the first to stand up for the weak and last to stand down to my enemy's, be upright and proud of the dissensions you make and hope that whomever this god might be that he loves you. i followed this since i was 13. most find it weird but i think if you believe n something for nothing, it is in act for nothing. but before that im sure i did something not sure what tho.
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Having a code just to break it seems like a utter waste of time so no i did not nore do i plan to break my code.
I will admit that my code might be screwed but i will uphold it.
For example i would never consider stealing/keeping a wallet but i would ave no problem ruining the same persons life is i would have a gain from it.

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Posted 10/30/13 , edited 10/30/13
Yes.
In the actual moments that these morals are supposed to come in to play. Sometimes I let my feelings rush through me without the thought of my morals.I call that being truthful to myself(a main rule of my morals).But those mistakes are there to teach me how much more I care about my morals. And teach me how exactly to use them better the next time. Keeping in mind that the main lesson is to realize,"yes, I've contradicted my own personality".

Mistakes are permitted.So long as you realize and don't compromise another by doing so.And you REALLY try to learn from them,accept the flaw, truly apologize where it's needed.Meaning:thoroughly reviewing yourself. Seeing why you did so knowing it was against what you go by.I always retain and recite to myself:

To remember that the moment I try to perceive myself as" never being possible to break my own code" by mistake. That I am trying to view myself ass a perfect Ideal being who is unable to learn from experiences. So I keep in mind even though I have a strong resolve. I can still learn from life and mend(Not change it).Because the base resolve I created is the way I feel most comfortable living life.

If I'm supposed to me a good influence on those who sympathize a similar moral. They aren't supposed to look at me like I never made mistakes in life. Like I was some perfect being that they could hope to be. That's the equivalent of wanting to be worship figure.And becoming a figure for awe and reference of life is far from my agenda.

We never know what life brings. It's up to us in the end how we cope with situation and how we endure it with our mentality and resolve.
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Yes.
In the actual moments that these morals are supposed to come in to play. Sometimes I let my feelings rush through me without the thought of my morals.I call that being truthful to myself(a main rule of my morals).But those mistakes are there to teach me how much more I care about my morals. And teach me how exactly to use them better the next time. Keeping in mind that the main lesson is to realize,"yes, I've contradicted my own personality".

Mistakes are permitted.So long as you realize and don't compromise another by doing so.And you REALLY try to learn from them,accept the flaw, truly apologize where it's needed.Meaning:thoroughly reviewing yourself. Seeing why you did so knowing it was against what you go by.I always retain and recite to myself:

To remember that the moment I try to perceive myself as" never being possible to break my own code" by mistake. That I am trying to view myself ass a perfect Ideal being who is unable to learn from experiences. So I keep in mind even though I have a strong resolve. I can still learn from life and mend(Not change it).Because the base resolve I created is the way I feel most comfortable living life.

If I'm supposed to me a good influence on those who sympathize a similar moral. They aren't supposed to look at me like I never made mistakes in life. Like I was some perfect being that they could hope to be. That's the equivalent of wanting to be worship figure.And becoming a figure for awe and reference of life is far from my agenda.

We never know what life brings. It's up to us in the end how we cope with situation and how we endure it with our mentality and resolve.


So one of your morals is to be true to yourself which is the excuse you use when you break some of your other morals. By breaking them you do learn how much more you care about your morals and wanna do better next time....

Is having morals that go against you being truthful to yourself (while that being a main part of your morals) not a break of your morals right at t5he begin and makes it all well worthless?
Posted 10/30/13
I think everything through, I would have probably taken the wallet the first time and kept it for a rainy day if I was you lol and the second time... hmm, it's good that you went back.
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"Being true to myself" is acting off my instinct through my experiences. It is no excuse. That's why I never said it would atone for them.What if being true to yourself is the way you are more comfortable dealing with a problem?That would mean that the morals you contradicted had only been there for an ulterior motive.Other than solely for your comfort. Not for what you truly and really are.The experience of letting what you truly feel take action helps me learn how important those morals are.That it hurts that I contradicted them.To make sure I consider them. Maybe what I learned from not following all(every single one) of my morals is that I can incorporate from experiencing the contradiction of it.Either by own experience. Or experiencing it happen to another..It teaches me how much I really care for my resolve. That I'm not perfect..That maybe my way of going about what I believe in can be revised in a better way If you make a mistake. Whatever it may be. The least you can do is face it.It's up to you to learn as much from it as possible. No one can guarantee it won't happen again.

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A personal moral to me that will never change is to make damn sure I don't compromise another for my gain,mistakes,selfishness. To ANY extent.But:Compromising is in a variation. Who's to say that the way I go about preventing myself from doing so won't have any consequences to another? Compromising(obviously) does not only mean that a life being rendered by fatality. It means hurting in general. Meaning I can still hurt someone without having to "injure" them physically.Mentally counts too.No matter how warped or naive the rule is to some. I still choose to follow it. I've tried and failed to keep from compromising in my way at times. But those mistakes have taught me better ways to go about it.There isn't a guarantee I won't come across an obstacle.But I won't give up on that moral because I've went about it the wrong way and failed to carry it out the right way/the way I wanted too(the way that is more plausible to me).



Imo Nothing is 100% percent perfect in this world. If we strive to go against a flaw. We can only decrease it as much as possible. We cannot tell the future. We are not perfect. And none of us has life spelled out for them.We can only act as accurate as possible when challenged. How we go about taking defeat or rejection. That's up to us.Let it mend our resolve and mentality,make us change accordingly, or have us give up our way completely. Those are the choices I came up with. But there is no real certain way to go about it. Those choices are from my experiences. ,from the three,I know which one I'll go with always. Because I 'm confident in myself and my resolve.I won't beat myself over making mistakes anyway. I will learn my mistakes instead. It teaches me about myself. The pace I learn,and what I REALLY care about.
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Posted 10/30/13
Of course. It's a lot harder to stick to your morale in the moment than it is to think up nice "life rules" for yourself, but never have the opportunity to act on them. It gets better with age/experience. For example, I no longer give in to stupid peer pressures like I did in my tween years because I am more confident about what is "right" and "wrong". I also refrain from arguing with my family members because I've made a rule for myself that yelling at others does not forward a conversation. I still slip up occasionally, of course, because I am human. But I like to think that I've improved and will continue to improve.
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I don't think there is a person alive who can be %100 percent perfect everyday. I probably contradict my morals more than I should, and not as an excuse but when life hit's you hard enough, it jars you a bit. Kind of like getting a blindfold thrown over your eyes and spun around several times and then being told "Ok, hit the the pinata". There's a %99.9 chance you're not gonna hit it on the first try. All you can do is get up and try again. That's a very difficult lesson I had to learn from personal experience.
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Yes and unfortunately it has always been for the person I was dating at the time...mostly the fact that I went against my morals in order to make them happy...which at the time I didn't realize was them simply trying to change me, which is bullshit. Hence the fact that I am no longer with those people anymore.
Posted 10/30/13 , edited 10/30/13
I came very close to doing so one time my own major moral. Very close. Even now I still regret the fumble very much. If I had gone all the way, I would never be able to let it go.

This has made a lasting impression on me. I'm most certainly not perfect, but I almost always keep my own morals. As this was a major one I came close to breaking, it's one that is hard to shrug off, and for a long time it shook my belief in myself.

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Posted 10/30/13 , edited 10/30/13
Everyone has, if anybody says no it is likely due to the fact that they have ignored it slightly in so many instances their conscience grew seared.
Everyone's conscience (unless especially conceited or unless they have a dead/seared conscience) tell them "You're not perfect. You should probably be better, but you're not."
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Posted 10/30/13
I've got morals? First I've heard of this.

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