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Posted 11/14/13
I Love my friends and I love hanging out with them but It sucks sometimes being the only single person in the group. I know they don’t try to make me feel like a 5th wheel on purpose but its hard to not feel that way around them. I try to not let it get to me and just try to have fun but on some days I just want to take myself out of the equation and just be alone. I’m not saying I wish they were all single or something. Cause if they were I would kick their ass. It makes me happy knowing that they found each other. But I guess seeing them just makes me feel depressed and makes me miss that feeling of being with that special someone that they have. I know…. sounds dumb right?! Haha.

Well my question to you is has anyone else experienced this before and how do you deal with it?
Posted 11/14/13
I know in rl, 10 people in total. You might laugh but those are my bredrin (even if we hardly meet up) but I am tired of it. I introduced them to other people and they are closer with those people than they are with me lol.
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If you feel like a third wheel because you're with two people that are in a relationship with each other then that is pretty normal, just don't hang out with them when it's just the three of you.

On the other note if it's just two friends hanging out and they don't include you in on the conversation or make an effort that you're there then they're just being rude. Honestly it's not hard to be friendly with everyone on the same level. I've had my share of friends that do that to one another because they want to seem "cooler" and want you to feel left out because they're actually just being mean. Girls like to be mean sometimes it makes them feel higher up than you. In my opinion, don't let it phase you. Call up another friend to join in and talk up with that person. Don't let the other two control everything because that's not including you that's just trying to be another "mean girl" or mean guy".
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All the time, but I am used to it.
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25 / M / California
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I hate that. Especially if they get too physical. It's awkward.

I always think about the people in my presence if I go out with them and I happen to be seeing someone who is also there. But it seems that others aren't so thoughtful. There's nothing inherently wrong with PDAs but you have to think about what your buddies think even if you don't care what everyone else thinks.

If things get really awkward I usually try to be as snide and asinine as possible so that I distract them and they stop it.
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I'm a bit of an expert third wheel. I generally find couples very easy to get along with, and I'm the sort of quiet type that likes to have the conversation kept up without having to do my part to keep it there. Couples can always find something to talk about with each other, which allows me to stay on the sidelines and occasionally say something relevant or funny, which is exactly where I like to be. I have a long history of MMO-playing, and many of the closest friends I made on those were pairs of couples who considered me 'number three', as it were.

This might come across as a little creepy, but I'm generally the type who likes to watch social interaction rather than be a direct part of it, so watching a couple interact is a pretty good substitute to actually being in a relationship, for me. As long as they don't get physical, that is. Then I'm outta there.
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Posted 11/15/13
I remember being a 5th wheel. It was so awkward. So I quit being friends with people.
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Have no friends, so it's not a problem : D
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I got used to it as time went on
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I would never hang out with another couple... So I wouldn't know it feels
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24 / F / West Virginia
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I hate being the extra wheel I always seem to end up the extra person in a group but I'm also shy and don't say much unless I'm close to you. It's worse with couples. Ugh...I just stop hanging out with couples all together. As for other group things, I just chill in the background...
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21 / M / Pennsylvania
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I've had this problem before at college whenever my good friend's significant other would come to visit. It felt awkward to be around them. Even when it wasn't just the 3 of us and another friend was present, the other friend and I were kinda put off by their touchy feely nature.

Also when their significant other was around I didn't talk much, probably because I didn't know them. Granted I've been a more reserved person, but around the very few people I've become close to I can talk quite a bit. But add in some random person or make it more than just my close friend(s) and then I suddenly can't think of anything to say..so I just say pretty much nothing
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23 / F / New Jersey, USA
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Posted 11/15/13
Been there, done that, and I hate it.
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ughh i hate that awkward stuff, i just dont even deal with it. I think someone mentioned it earlier just hang when their other half isnt around ha.
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Posted 11/15/13
I could only think of what 2D-Kun in Golden Time said, something along the lines of: Your couple life is bringing down all of us single guys!! while reading this post.
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