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Posted 11/18/13 , edited 11/18/13
So I've recently thought about getting back up and trying to improve myself as a person , so if everyone can help me and everyone else who needs it, like decide on what everyone can do for extracurricular activities, or some basic advice or quotes...just curious please and thank you
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Where do you find the motivation :c
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Bettering yourself starts with action not words. However it isn't only action, but philosophy. If you don't think well enough to be better and act upon those thoughts, you're fooling yourself that you've improved. Great example of not improving yourself is like fat people who say they're on a diet but they still eat a whole box of diabetes every day.
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Sparkyte wrote:

Bettering yourself starts with action not words.


What this guy said. No amount of thinking will help you accomplish anything; its simply a matter of doing. Not to saying thoughtfulness and planning can't help, but ultimately just immerse yourself in the things you wanna do.

Anyway, good ways to make yourself a better you is doing things you're not comfortable with. Something I've been doing lately is trying to make bi-weekly trips to cities or towns in my country I've never been to before; its given me such new experiences and opportunities to learn from people of different walks of life.

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It's a bit difficult to provide solid advice to someone you know absolutely nothing about, but I've found that organization helps a lot. Up until this year, I usually finished the school year with missing assignments, a completely messy backpack, and other cluttered things at home. I know you're not in high school like I am, but organization in general helps a lot. Organize everything that you feel needs to be organized or that you come into contact with often. It will feel like a load off your shoulders, as well. Also, as for a golden tip: Do what you need to do first, or reserve time for what you need to do so that you know you will do it, and that it won't interfere with what you want to do. Your emotional state will change, I promise.
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Pick up a Klondike bar. It changed my life..
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Better yourself Darwin Style; Biologically!


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Pikachu knows best.
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I am not sure what to comment regarding on ameliorating yourself, but I will try to give a few tips that may inspire to help you.

As another poster said, you are going to have to act on improving yourself as a person, not just keep saying it over and over. You will not get better if you do not get up and do something. Just think about what do you want to improve on and begin working on that step by step (e.g. college, career, weight, hobbies). Self-motivation does not always help, but you can also try that.
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I was going to improve myself but lets face it like a fine wine I am aged to perfection
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To attempt to be somewhat helpful, here is a quote I do always enjoy.


It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and who at the worst, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.


The point here is that what others say of a person does not matter. What matters is what one does. The choices a person makes. The risks they take. The failures and the successes.

However, the point here too is that one must venture forth and do bold things. To just stand there and speak the words or think the thoughts are not enough. One must go out and be a doer of things. Great or small, I do not think it matters so much as the actual doing. Whether you succeed or fail is less important than what you learned and what you did. Because to fail greatly is a far better fate than to have sat by and not done anything while others have done what you should have.

I have few things to offer in terms of what to do to be a better person because I do not know you.

That said, anytime you are helping another that cannot be a bad thing. Will it improve you as a person? Perhaps and perhaps not. At the end I think it mostly matters why you are doing it. If it is truly just for yourself then as long as you are doing something then you should be proud of that. But if you are secretly hoping others will somehow see what you are doing and somehow applaud or thank or praise you, then you will likely be disappointed. This should not stop you from doing things, just understand what you hope to achieve.

Likely there are homeless shelters in your area that would love to have some help in the kitchens and cleaning from time to time. Likewise many hospitals have volunteer programs. Even if one does not act, most theater groups have need of backstage help from moving and creating props to actual movement of them during plays and rehearsals. There is Habitat for Humanity, even if you cannot contribute money or services, they are usually in need of just basic general labor. Most cities and towns have service organizations like the Kiwanis that are always looking for people. There are Church groups out there that welcome volunteers to help at events as well, being a member of the congregation is not always necessary. Food banks also need people to help sort and deliver or hand out food.

In any city or town there are countless ways to be of service. But they all require one to get out and do something.

If nothing else, there is no reason you cannot just go outside and pick up trash on the side walks and clean up the neighborhood. Take a rake, a broom, and a garbage bag or two and clean up the public areas.

Be the change you are looking for. If you are looking to change yourself, you need to be that change. You need to go out and do the things that make you believe you have changed. Because just thinking about it will not change anything.
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First step is thinking, then the next step is doing. Most people don't get to the doing part or it just doesn't last very long..
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be realistic. Set a short term goals.
Reward yourself once in a while after accomplishing something.


Then, purchase my wishlist and give it to me.
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Have you learned to cook, yet? Most valuable skill in the world, really.
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Posted 11/18/13 , edited 11/18/13
Spiritually - Meditate
Morally - Read
Economically - invest or work
Physically - Exercise
Mentally - Study

In general, practice
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