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Posted 12/2/13
Already on my own, not too far from my parents though, so I'll just skip to the bonus round.

1) I was basically raised to learn how to do everything I'd need to know.
College or military are fun places to see how well people can adapt.

2)Move out when you're ready or your parents kick you out. A lot of people are forced to move back in with their parents due to economical reasons, so it's mostly a matter of if you'll end up on the street within days or weeks.

3) Ain't never grow'n up, so I'll never be nervous bout 'nofin!
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Posted 12/3/13



I hated high school too. I do envy my cousins who at one time shared an apartment together and they're around my age though. Living with my mom isn't always easy, because I feel like I'm bothering her and all I wanna do is leave. I just don't have a job to save money where its' possible.
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I originally moved out when I was 18, ran off joined the military and lived in the barracks. It was nice not living at home, only part that sucked was not having a kitchen and cooking. But when training started I basically lived out of a bag that had all my belongings, dragging those bags to every place I had to train at for a long period of time sucked :/ Came back home when I got out, could have lived with some of my other buddies but came home since my mom started going through menopause and it started getting worse the longer I was gone. Living at home isn't all that bad. I come home and there's food in the fridge. I pay for my part of the phone bill, I buy food when my parents are too lazy to go to town and get it, and I watch the house for them when they go on random trips without me >.< It's a nice exchange really.

There is no age on when someone should move out. It really is a family decision. My parents don't want me to leave because that means they no longer have a house sitter lol. But they don't really want me to leave until I have enough money to be on my own and move because of a job. I know a lot of young people want to move out...but you should wait until you feel comfortable enough to be on your own. Me and my bf are trying to save a minimum of $3000 before we both move in together, since we have to pay a deposit and the first few months of rent upfront.

The only thing I was nervous about was being on my own...but I got over that. Now the only thing I worry is if I can find a pet friendly place and if my cat won't terrorize my neighbors by doing late night cat wailing and romping around the place while I'm gone >.<
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Posted 12/3/13
I didnt move out until I was 25. While living with my Dad I paid rent, insurance, etc, just was not as expensive as living on my own. I was able to save a lot of money while going to school and doing that, so that when I moved out I was pretty set education wise and savings wise.

If you have an ok life at home dont feel you need to move out at a certain age. Work, save money, go to school to prepare. Take advantage of it while its available because once you move out and get on your own you wont want to go back
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Posted 12/3/13
Hard question to answer. Everyone's situation is unique. When you have the financial means and maturity level to back it up, living on your own is great. Though, it is not at all easy being an adult and having to take care of everything on your own.Just rent, utilities, food and basic living essentials add up very quickly.
IF you have a car then you have insurance, gas and maintenance at the very least (If you do not have a payment.)
I have a wife and child at home and work 70+ hours a week so I can keep the wife home with him. Just gas, food and basic needs run me a few hundred a week. IF it is a week my son needs diapers, wipes, his hygiene products or anything else I can toss another hundred that week. I have everything broke down to what I will buy and what bills will come out each week.
This is all without spending a dime on any kind of health care, no extra expenses like something breaking or replacing a washer (that happened last year),cars can break and add a ton of money up real quick. We never eat out, we never go out unless it is a work function that my company holds and pays for everything.
Just to get my PS4 I had to take on a bunch of side work so I did not ruin my budget.
Oh yeah and savings.... YOU CAN'T SPEND IT, unless it is an emergency otherwise when an emergency comes up you could literally wind up in financial ruin.
I miss being a teenager! My parents were right and so are yours. It is not easy nor nearly as fun as you think being an adult!!!
Personally I find it extremely fulfilling to know that I can do all this on my own.
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Things like that worries me because all I focus on is getting my own place but I have no money/job.
Math bothers me very much.
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1) If you already live on your own, what was it like for you learning how live independently?

Personally i was working toward it but fate kind of forced my hand when my mom filed bankruptcy and lost the house. I could have moved into an apartment with her (this was about eight yrs ago or so?) but i decided to convince my husband (then boyfriend) to move out with me. We were serious with our relationship and there was no reason to ultimately stick my mom with a two bedroom apartment she couldn't afford by herself.

It wasn't that hard to actually move it. A bit scary, but it wasn't bad. As long as you pay attention when bills are due you should have NO problem. Its super easy now that you can pay most things online! We just bought a house and that was pretty scary, but it'll all work out in the end.


2) What age should people move out of their parent's home?

Honestly? Probably by mid twenties. I might be a little jaded since i never really had that little safety net just in case i had trouble and had to come back home. I'd be sleeping on mom's couch in her one bedroom apartment. If you aren't done with college by then you could always work and go to school. Not the most fun but eh, its adulthood.



3) What are some things that make you nervous about growing up?

Bills are still slightly scary, moving up is kind of scary. Trying to get a head is VERY scary. Right now i am stuck in a dead end job and it sucks, but this economy doesn't really lend me to finding a better job since i cannot afford college and i would not get paid as well for any other retail job i would do. Its stable and unionized so i am at least stable in that regard. Pretty much think of wants over needs. Can't buy that anime box set? DTE more important. Can't renew crunchyroll? Well, at least you have food in your fridge. Yaknow, that sort of thing.. I think our anime fan stereotype of people not ever moving out of their parents basements or doing anything with themselves is pretty untrue. I'm glad this thread is kind of proving that point. :)
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Posted 12/3/13
1. I've been living away from my family for about 5 years now. I had a couple shared living situations over the years but for the past two or so I've been on my own. It's nice. I really super hated living with roommates because they were always underfoot/messing up my kitchen.

2. I honestly think it's important for kids to move out as soon as possible. I left for college but I can understand staying with your parents through college since it makes the most economic sense. But once you get a decent job and could feasibly pay for yourself you need to leave. Living with parents puts a real strain on the relationship and living on your own will help you grow as a person.

3. The uncertainty of the job market. A single car crash or minor medical emergency could easily wipe my savings out.. yikes! Gotta keep that paper coming in.
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Posted 12/3/13 , edited 12/3/13

qualeshia3 wrote:

1) If you already live on your own, what was it like for you learning how live independently?

2) What age should people move out of their parent's home?

3) What are some things that make you nervous about growing up?


I live in a state that has a high cost of living. I had a couple good jobs and was foolish enough to feel secure, so I accumulated debt then got fired. Now my confidence is shot and I can't find anything other than going back to retail, and now I work for walmart with 8k in debt over my head. I really don't feel like I'll be able to live on my own anytime soon.

1) I used to live with roommates. What was it like? Neither of us wanted to do the dishes so they would rise and rise. Once in a while we would clean the place, but rarely the bathroom. We split the bills down the middle, and it worked out alright.

2) Depends on where you live and what your parents want. Where I live, all of my friends, literally ALL of them, have moved out and were forced to return like myself. Stability is hard to come by.

3) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M4IjTUxZORE
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Posted 12/3/13
A steady job is an absolute must. Once you have that and some money aside for first, last, and deposit it's not too bad. Best thing would be to get your finances in order. Get a storage unit and build up all the furniture and things you will need.
At that point you will have your finances in order, all the things you need to have a place, and hopefully a reliable job that you are fine being with for a while and hopefully some money in the bank beyond what you will need to get into a place. Extra expenses crop up especially when getting settled into a new place.
Take it from someone who wasn't prepared when they first moved out on their own. You do not want to spend your first years out on your own struggling just to keep your lights on or put gas in your tank. You would be better off in that case to stay at home or find a friend you can trust to share a place with.
Have to get comfortable with basic math though. Last thing you want is to figure things wrong and end up with an overdraft account and bills due.
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Posted 12/4/13


That video is interesting but in a good way.
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Posted 12/4/13 , edited 12/4/13
1) Well I'm only sixteen so I still live at home with my family

2) I feel that you should move out when you are most comfortable. If you're parents or friends insist on you moving out then you should, but if you think that you aren't ready then in my opinion it is a bad idea. Growing up is always a good thing in most ways, if you're not ready, that's fine, just go at your own pace.

3) Well the only thing I'm afraid of when I move out is laundry and stuff like that, I mean, I can cook, buy food, etc. but I don't know how to do the laundry and stuff. I don't want to be walking around with dirty clothes haha, that's why I'd only move out if it was my girlfriend or someone who knew how to do the little things I don't know how to do.
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Posted 12/4/13 , edited 12/4/13

Maityoman wrote:

1) Well I'm only sixteen so I still live at home with my family

2) I feel that you should move out when you are most comfortable. If you're parents or friends insist on you moving out then you should, but if you think that you aren't ready then in my opinion it is a bad idea. Growing up is always a good thing in most ways, if you're not ready, that's fine, just go at your own pace.

3) Well the only thing I'm afraid of when I move out is laundry and stuff like that, I mean, I can cook, buy food, etc. but I don't know how to do the laundry and stuff. I don't want to be walking around with dirty clothes haha, that's why I'd only move out if it was my girlfriend or someone who knew how to do the little things I don't know how to do.


Ah yes the whole doing your laundry thing. Do I want to go to the laundromat or get my own wash and dryer?
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Posted 12/4/13 , edited 12/4/13
Ok....been on my own for a long, long time. If I'd known then what I know now, I would have never left. Granted, leaving for the Navy at 18 led to my successful career, I missed valuable time with my folks. Now they're no longer here. They were good friends and decent people. My son can stay with me until he's 100 for all I care. But I encourage him to see the world first.


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Posted 12/4/13




That was really lame of you to show me Excalibur and now you've annoyed me, fool.



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