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your thoughts about having a mistress
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honestly, what did you think of someone that who owns a mistress?
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Got plans for the future mate?
I hope you bring your wife on board with this, because otherwise you might find yourself in trouble.

Edit: Also, you might want to change the title to "Mistresses" if possible.
Harem protagonists seem to do this pretty darn well. Mistresses left and right and center.
Posted 12/17/13
Unhappy with wife, or met someone who is more compatible with him but don't want to leave wife.

There's so many diff reasons. Personally wouldn't be happy if someone does that to me, but after so many disappointing events in life, I've learnt that you can't bend someone to your will, you can't expect someone to be true to you forever just like you can't make a flower bloom by force.
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Nobodyofimportance wrote:

Got plans for the future mate?
I hope you bring your wife on board with this, because otherwise you might find yourself in trouble.

Edit: Also, you might want to change the title to "Mistresses" if possible.
Harem protagonists seem to do this pretty darn well. Mistresses left and right and center.


Harem protagonists are generally not married so they don't really count as a mistress of them. The relationships also aren't typically sexual though things do occur that lean that way.
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Do you mean mystery?
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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


Nobodyofimportance wrote:

Got plans for the future mate?
I hope you bring your wife on board with this, because otherwise you might find yourself in trouble.

Edit: Also, you might want to change the title to "Mistresses" if possible.
Harem protagonists seem to do this pretty darn well. Mistresses left and right and center.


Harem protagonists are generally not married so they don't really count as a mistress of them. The relationships also aren't typically sexual though things do occur that lean that way.


They don't need to be married, they just usually are. It's really a pity he used the word own, because that restricts the topic to women who have long standing sexual relationships with a man who helps to support her financially. Google is telling me the archaic version is any woman who is courted by a man, which is one of the defs in my head.
Posted 12/17/13

Nobodyofimportance wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


Nobodyofimportance wrote:

Got plans for the future mate?
I hope you bring your wife on board with this, because otherwise you might find yourself in trouble.

Edit: Also, you might want to change the title to "Mistresses" if possible.
Harem protagonists seem to do this pretty darn well. Mistresses left and right and center.


Harem protagonists are generally not married so they don't really count as a mistress of them. The relationships also aren't typically sexual though things do occur that lean that way.


They don't need to be married, they just usually are. It's really a pity he used the word own, because that restricts the topic to women who have long standing sexual relationships with a man who helps to support her financially. Google is telling me the archaic version is any woman who is courted by a man, which is one of the defs in my head.


I don't use outdated definitions. If your mind still uses the term "court" in that way then...well...you are weird but whatever makes you happy.

As for the actual topic...I would say such a limitation could be ignored for whatever response you wish to give. Personally I would say using the word "own" that way just makes the topic about people who have unfortunate victims chained to their basement walls though. The mental issues involved would be a given as well.
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jericho94 wrote:

honestly, what did you think of someone that who owns a mistress?


Owns? Feels kind of icky if you put it that way, though I guess in some cases where that kind of relationship is fully-consensual, then, yeah, the consensual is the big thing.

Being in a marriage or marriage-like relationship, and having an ongoing romantic/sexual relationship with someone (and possibly providing them some level of support as part of the condition of the relationship) outside of that marriage? Not cool if it's illicit. Fine and dandy if the mistress is happy in that role and other partner(s) are okay with it.


Nobodyofimportance wrote:

Got plans for the future mate?
I hope you bring your wife on board with this, because otherwise you might find yourself in trouble.

Edit: Also, you might want to change the title to "Mistresses" if possible.
Harem protagonists seem to do this pretty darn well. Mistresses left and right and center.


I agree. I've adjusted both the title and the description for the title to make it more clear what the topic is about.
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it wasn't me yah
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it wasn't me yah


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In your title you ask me for my thoughts on the implications or values of having a mistress, but in your post you ask me for what my view is on people who have mistresses. Well, the former conflicts with my ideals; if my identity is incomplete I will not delude myself into believing that I am capable of fulfilling that part of my ego on my own through engorging myself in an increased number of superficial relationships devoid of existential value. And although the latter does not concern me, unless I am directly affected by it, I view those people as simple-minded and lacking depth.
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dankuuwut wrote:

In your title you ask me for my thoughts on the implications or values of having a mistress, but in your post you ask me for what my view is on people who have mistresses.


That's my fault. The original titles was simply "your thoughts."

jericho94 , if you prefer me to change the title to more exactly match your opening post, let me know, but I actually think a discussion that includes both thoughts about the idea of having a mistress in general, as well as thoughts about folks who act on that idea will be interesting.


Well, the former conflicts with my ideals; if my identity is incomplete I will not delude myself into believing that I am capable of fulfilling that part of my ego on my own through engorging myself in an increased number of superficial relationships devoid of existential value. And although the latter does not concern me, unless I am directly affected by it, I view those people as simple-minded and lacking depth.


I think that's making some fairly narrow assumptions about the exact nature of the relationship about which we have only a single sentence. The use of the word "owns" in the initial post implies something that I don't think is true of all relationships with mistresses, and it does imply something I'm quite uncomfortable with--but my view could adjust (more positively or negatively) for a specific case where I knew the people involved and understood a little more about how they perceive their relationship.

I don't think there's anything especially wrong with relationships that lack depth, but I also don't think that all relationships involving mistresses lack depth.

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dankuuwut wrote:

In your title you ask me for my thoughts on the implications or values of having a mistress, but in your post you ask me for what my view is on people who have mistresses.


That's my fault. The original titles was simply "your thoughts."

jericho94 , if you prefer me to change the title to more exactly match your opening post, let me know, but I actually think a discussion that includes both thoughts about the idea of having a mistress in general, as well as thoughts about folks who act on that idea will be interesting.


Well, the former conflicts with my ideals; if my identity is incomplete I will not delude myself into believing that I am capable of fulfilling that part of my ego on my own through engorging myself in an increased number of superficial relationships devoid of existential value. And although the latter does not concern me, unless I am directly affected by it, I view those people as simple-minded and lacking depth.


I think that's making some fairly narrow assumptions about the exact nature of the relationship about which we have only a single sentence. The use of the word "owns" in the initial post implies something that I don't think is true of all relationships with mistresses, and it does imply something I'm quite uncomfortable with--but my view could adjust (more positively or negatively) for a specific case where I knew the people involved and understood a little more about how they perceive their relationship.

I don't think there's anything especially wrong with relationships that lack depth, but I also don't think that all relationships involving mistresses lack depth.



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my question was very simple. i just want to know about how people feels towards that kind of guy. its general though to think about it.
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