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Are you a people pleaser?
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Posted 12/23/13 , edited 12/23/13
Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
Explain in great detail.

Thanks a bunches.

My Turn:

Yes. I am a people pleaser and I suffer from low self esteem issues as well. I never liked getting yelled at people who are angry which intimidates me. I do hate arguments and simple debates with people. I can't stand getting that rush feeling you get when debating or arguing. More importantly, I can not stand up for myself/get mad at someone. The moment I do I feel awful and don't deserve to get angry when I have the right. I just don't have any back bone and can't stand getting hated by people too. Of course I try to show people that I'm able to handle myself but in reality I'm not able. I'm too nice for my own good which causes problems....for me. I hate myself too much to ever consider even wanting to like/love myself. I would like to change but I'm not sure if I can't. I suffer from depression and ADHD too if that helps. I can't stand up for myself since I do deserve to.

I don't wanna ramble on anymore either.

What are your views on people pleasers? Do you have any advice for them? Are you a people pleaser yourself ?
Simply explain your story with me.



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Posted 12/23/13
Yes, sadly I am. It is without a doubt my greatest flaw.
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mirror people
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Posted 12/23/13

Sornette wrote:

mirror people



Mirror people?
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Mirror people?


See yourself in them and you'll find the confidence
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Sornette wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

Mirror people?


See yourself in them and you'll find the confidence



Oh okay.
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Hairbelly wrote:

Yes, sadly I am. It is without a doubt my greatest flaw.



Of course same here.
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Not too sure to be honest, some days I like the please people, some days I don't
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KimmyKins83 wrote:

Not too sure to be honest, some days I like the please people, some days I don't



Its more on a serious level though.
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yes lol.
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I'm whatever you tell me I am.
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When I was younger, yes, I went out of my way to try and be as accommodating as possible to everyone. This essentially led to people taking advantage of my kindness towards them and when the time came for me to seek assistance they pretty much turned a blind eye. I've learned my lesson and now I won't make any extra effort just to please someone. For as long as I'm not breaking the law or I'm not committing some immoral act, I'll do what I feel is best for me.
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miGneto wrote:

When I was younger, yes, I went out of my way to try and be as accommodating as possible to everyone. This essentially led to people taking advantage of my kindness towards them and when the time came for me to seek assistance they pretty much turned a blind eye. I've learned my lesson and now I won't make any extra effort just to please someone. For as long as I'm not breaking the law or I'm not committing some immoral act, I'll do what I feel is best for me.


Same happens to me. Its awful and I'm having a tough time changing myself.
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Posted 12/23/13
That's not to say that I'm going to be an ass to people, of course. I'm just not going to try and change who I am just to fit someone else's mold or ideal.

It's tough, yes, but you'll learn to deal with it. Eventually, it will become second nature for you not to give a damn

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