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Are you a people pleaser?
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Posted 12/26/13

Striferu wrote:

That's fine. Why are you apologizing? Definition is..........NONE! It's always something huh?


Yeah.
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Wayyyy too much for My own good.
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I only like to please those I'm close to simply because it makes me happy to make them happy. As far as the normal definition of "people pleaser" is concerned I'm not. I'm rather introverted and anti-social in the real world and couldn't care less if I please people or not.
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Yes, I am. I always like to make people laugh or smile.
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Sure.
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Sometimes..
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Yes. I've found it beneficial in life to try and not get on people's bad sides. That includes helping people. Getting respect, favours and pride all help. Being a "people pleaser" seems to be the only way I know how.
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I used to be . It all stopped sorta around last year. CBT helps people to assert themselves get what they want out
of life and to have better communication with people.

An example of what I used to put up with is a friend of mine would always be late to meet up with
me.10 Minutes I dont mind, but she kept pushing it.One day it was an hour late

I learned how to deal with her calmly by sending a text before we meet up and say- please dont be late today,
after 10 minutes il be gone.

She was never late again.
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Posted 10/11/14

aListers wrote:

Yes. I've found it beneficial in life to try and not get on people's bad sides. That includes helping people. Getting respect, favours and pride all help. Being a "people pleaser" seems to be the only way I know how.


Same.
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Posted 10/11/14 , edited 10/11/14
Unfortunately, I am. I have always had self-esteem and confidence issues. because of this. I've always wanted to make people happy and have worried constantly what they thought of me. I've always wanted to help but it has lead to many anxiety issues. Even just the other day, I was talking to someone and they just became disinterested. I began to get worried that I was just a bother to them and that ruined my evening.

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As a people pleaser, I have tendency to really apologetic, agreeable, and I usually will suppress any anger I could possibly have towards someone. I usually give them the benefit of the doubt and instead start believing that I did something wrong.
Posted 10/11/14
I guess you could call me a people pleaser. I enjoy making other people happy. Unfortunately, this makes me a worry wart about nearly everything. I never want to make a mistake or mess up in a conversation because I dont want the other person to get angry at me ;w; I'm always worried about what people think of me and I hate letting people down.
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Yes, I am a people pleaser, although I have been changing in the last few years. I suppose it used to stem from being sensitive and lack of confidence, just wanting to keep friends and not get into trouble. Nowadays, it's mostly to keep the peace (and still keep out of trouble and drama). Although nowadays I'm much more confident and have weeded out friends in the past, I still dislike conflict (no debating here, but I may be up for a discussion over coffee in a relaxed atmosphere) and tend to distance myself from those I don't feel comfortable enough to be truly myself around.
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