Living without a Family
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Posted 12/24/13 , edited 12/24/13
Seems there are many more single people today, young and old, divorced and widowed . . . and many don't have any family at all or they are not particularly close to what family they do have.

There are more fears and concerns as we age, but that's not to say that young adults don't have their own sets of worries.

No one should obsess or allow fear to overwhelm, but there are many different scenarios to consider and how a person could be impacted by unexpected situations. I'd be willing to bet there are things some people have never considered.

I have no family left, and of all the people I know, there's not one I would trust or impose upon to run things for me if I needed help for an extended period of time. And the realization of that made me wonder, what do people do in those cases?

And that started me thinking about things like protecting personal items in your house if emergency personnel had to go in, insuring that no one could gain access to financial information or credit cards if you had to be hospitalized for an extended period, how would bills get paid, etc.

So, here are some general things I wonder about and I'd like to know how others think or what they've done:

Is there someone in your life, a friend, far-distant relative, etc. you have designated to take over if you were incapacitated for a period of time - or have you hired an attorney or appointed someone legally?

Have you signed over your power of attorney and does someone have authority to make medical decisions for you?

If emergency personnel had to come into your home, do you have someone who could rush over and make sure that things are safe in your house?

If you have valuables, precious keepsakes - things you would never want to be thrown away or get in the wrong hands - have you authorized those go to someone in particular if you bought the farm?

If you have no friends or associates you trust to take charge of things, what have you decided to do?

Or have you not even broached this subject at all, perhaps because you don't know what to do - or you just haven't thought about it, or don't want to think about it?

How would you feel if you had nobody to share your life with

Also how do others like me with no family and few friends spend christmas or other holidays
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That is very inconvenient and I'm sorry to hear that.
One time, I needed someone who would replace me at my job for about a month because I had to go somewhere. Luckily one of my friends was really tired of his old job and decided to quit it and help me out. It didn't impose on him at all, in fact it was very convenient. All I did was talk to him about my situation. I didn't actually expect him to do all that, but in the end everything worked out. So I guess just talking about it with people could help in those cases.
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Hey buddy you are not alone. I sit here alone on CR while my family celebrates it elsewhere. Complicated matter but I have a family. Sad to hear it bro.
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Most of my friends are online and the rest are out of state visiting family and I have not spoken to my family in 15 yrs so I am left alone for christmas. It is not all bad though, I get to enjoy a quiet day alone and I also get to watch Anime all day, there isn't much more I could ask for.
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Have you signed over your power of attorney and does someone have authority to make medical decisions for you?


My answer to this is NO.

I made my arguments and I was heard. I have completed that case. I have no more business with
Pharmaceutical Medicines anymore. I'm real happy for that. My opinion on this is that those drugs only makes it worse. A hell lot worse. For me it was. The self-image I have of myself and the family have is wrong. Completely wrong and absurd. Those medicines are not doing you any good. After several reactions to delirium and escaping death I'm still here. Still I'm afraid of my health. No wonder when serious symptoms like Anemia and Hypoxia occour...
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Sorry to hear it man, but you aren't alone. What I've done is just accept that I'm different from most others and move on with my life. You learn to live with being singled out all the time. The hard part comes in a situation like myself, where nobody around you is even remotely close to similar. It's a hard path, but try to dig through the people around you to find the one that you can relate to.
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Posted 12/24/13

OtakuBodyBuilder wrote:

So, here are some general things I wonder about and I'd like to know how others think or what they've done:

Is there someone in your life, a friend, far-distant relative, etc. you have designated to take over if you were incapacitated for a period of time - or have you hired an attorney or appointed someone legally?


Right now, it'd probably still be my parents. Though even they probably couldn't do much about anything if I were completely incapacitated and couldn't give them information on how to pay my bills.


Have you signed over your power of attorney and does someone have authority to make medical decisions for you?


Once again, my parents, but my parents wouldn't give up on me, after all their daughter, my sister, has been handicapped for 18 years.


If emergency personnel had to come into your home, do you have someone who could rush over and make sure that things are safe in your house?


Hmm... on this question I guess I am not paranoid... I have had emergency personnel in my house before, in my room before, Even when it was just me as a little kid years ago calling them because my sister was having a bad seizure. So this doesn't bother me because I trust them.


If you have valuables, precious keepsakes - things you would never want to be thrown away or get in the wrong hands - have you authorized those go to someone in particular if you bought the farm?


I personally don't keep precious keepsakes or anything of real value short of my electronics. And even when it comes down to the electronics they, like everything else I own, can be replaced. All my electronics are password protected and heavily protected from malware and what not. The best they can do is factory reset it which then leaves nothing left on it.


If you have no friends or associates you trust to take charge of things, what have you decided to do?


Can't answer this one as everything pretty much I own would go to my father if something happened to me.


Or have you not even broached this subject at all, perhaps because you don't know what to do - or you just haven't thought about it, or don't want to think about it?


I've thought about it, plenty, but i'm I guess less paranoid then the average person out there... not saying you are exactly, but when I think of my stuff being taken I kind of just shrug and realize I can replace it.


How would you feel if you had nobody to share your life with


I'd probably go insane, or rather more insane. I'm a talkative person, but just talking to the bloke sitting next to me at the bar, or the bartender, only gets so far, and there is stuff you'd rather not tell them. Whereas close friends are a different matter, if I didn't have my best friend to gossip with i'd probably need a special jacket to hug myself with.


Also how do others like me with no family and few friends spend christmas or other holidays


Now see I don't really like answering this question. On one hand I do have family and friends I COULD spend the holidays with. But as stated before, due to conflicting work schedules, friends having plans already, and what not. I don't actually SEE anyone for the Holidays. I think the last Holiday I celebrated with anyone, discluding birthdays, was Christmas back before the terrorist attacks on 9/11.
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Posted 12/24/13

Or have you not even broached this subject at all, perhaps because you don't know what to do - or you just haven't thought about it, or don't want to think about it?


I try not to get too attached to my possessions so much. It's people who are more precious to me. Not my things. So to answer your question, I just haven't thought about it.


How would you feel if you had nobody to share your life with


Pretty lonely and maybe a little insecure.
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Posted 12/24/13
There are a lot of people alone on the holidays.Coping is not always easy. I'm the oldest surviving member of my family,most of my relatives are dead.In my ridiculously self indulgent youth I created my own entourage.I'm only alone now, if I wish it.
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Posted 12/24/13
Honestly, this has never crossed my mind at all. And now I feel terribly ignorant and naïve. I have no idea what would happen in any of those situations; I suppose my parents would take care of it... Outside of family, I have maybe one close friend who would help me out, but in all honesty, I'd probably be screwed.

I am very sorry to hear about your situation, OP, but I hope you have a nice Christmas regardless.
Posted 12/25/13
The best family I have is not blood related and I'm grateful although I can't offer this advice to anyone. Therefore I bid you, Good luck!
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