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Post Reply My mind is full of stuff. What's the best way of making my mind a clean slate again?
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Posted 12/27/13

DesuMaiden wrote:

Anyway got any suggestions? I need to make sure my mind is clean and empty, so that I can focus. Only when I can focus and live in the present moment can I be successful at life.

No trolling in this thread. I'm in serious need for help because my life is in shambles and I need help from you guys.


Get this book.

Modern Buddhism: The Path of Compassion and Wisdom - Volume 1 Sutra
By Gyatso, Geshe Kelsang

Its a free download on Amazon.com.

Even if you don't buy his exact theology, the Buddha is still more qualified than anybody on this board to give important life advice. Seriously.
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Posted 12/27/13 , edited 12/27/13
1) Meditation- Isolate yourself in silence or in an environment with very little external noises. A natural environment works best. Focus your mind on nothingness. Breathe in and out, focus on absolutely nothing except maintaining a stable breathing rate. Think of no thoughts or anything. Keep meditating for as long as you need to.

2) Exercise- For me, my mind is most clear and I'm most relaxed after a good run. Though, any exercise works just as well.


Good luck finding your solution!
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Posted 12/28/13 , edited 12/28/13
Make a list and separate them in categories of: urgent, very important, short-goal, long-term goal, distractions

Then, buy my wishlist and give it to me.


You should know what to do next.



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Posted 12/28/13
Eating sweets and watching an anime.
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Posted 12/28/13

-Requiem wrote:


doctor_professor wrote:

my advice to you is to start drinking heavily.


Works wonders for me...

Also having one true friend you can confide in and talk to helps a lot..





I agree with confiding in a true friend those thoughts that are holding you hostage. Try and get them out, with someone you trust. The longer you have them locked up in there they tend to grow like weeds.
Meditation might help in calming your mind and finding balance.
Look for humor in things.
Replace negative thinking with secure thoughts. Choose Peace over Power.
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Posted 12/28/13 , edited 12/28/13
Depends on what's on my mind. If it's some set of problems, then I usually dwell on it until I find a solution, conclude I probably won't find a solution, or something else distracts me. If it's some set of exciting things, then I usually dwell on it until the excitement fades or something else distracts me. Usually works well for me, at least.

If I just need to do something else, and decide that whatever it is I'm thinking about isn't as important as whatever it is I should be working on, then I need only convince myself that it makes more sense to concentrate on whatever it is I should be working on.

If the question is "how do I focus when there's a bunch of stuff in my head," then unfortunately I think my answer boils to "just decide to focus." If you can't, then I'd guess you probably haven't fully convinced yourself that you shouldn't be thinking about the other things. And if that's the case, then maybe the other things are worth thinking through. I don't know though -- I'd need to know the details to advise on them, since my solutions usually change depending on the problems. That, and I'm not entirely convinced that my brain works the same as others.


Edit: Basically to put it differently, as a rule, my actions go like this:

I have a problem. I can:

1) Determine whether it's solvable.
2) If not, work on something else. If it is, determine a likely time-frame, and whether I have the time needed to solve it.
3) If not, work on something else. If I do, work it out.
4) If any of the above conditions change, act accordingly.
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Posted 12/28/13
You can't just forget stuff even if you want to, it's how life works, well for me lol.
For me I just absorb it all, whatever I'm going thru its all gna be experience that lead me to be a better/ stronger person, hopefully?
Sometimes I write in my diary if its something I want to forget but don't at the same time
Lastly, think positive and meet someone that can make you smile even if its just a little.
Fill your mind with more smiles and adventure and bammm :)

sorry if this doesn't helppp ><
Posted 12/28/13
Listen to some white noise and just sit back and relax for awhile afterwards continue listening to the white noise and write down a list of all your worries and problems. slowly deal with each item on your list one by one until its empty.. it'll take a while but eventually you'll have dealt with everything. Now write another list. do it over again. it'd be smart to keep listening to white noise throughout the day since it blocks out everything outside your own thoughts. Because you mostly only have your thoughts to deal with and no sounds, you'll eventually gain more control over it all and be able to sorta "silence" your mind pretty easily.
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Posted 12/28/13 , edited 12/28/13
Breathe, relax, aim, squeeze.
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If you can't focus there has to be a reason. It's possible there's something in your life causing you stress or anxiety which in turn decreases your ability to stay focused. Just like a math problem, you need to figure out what the problem is then take the right steps to solving it whether that problem be to do with your relationship with someone or maybe that you simply can't feel motivated to sit down and do some work. If something's troubling you either stand up to it and figure it out or kick it out of your mind by replacing it with something else such as exercise, socialising or maybe just watching anime. When it comes to staying focused, the way I like to do it is to get rid of the desire to do anything firstly then go away somewhere kind of isolated such as a library so you won't be distracted by anything such as TV or your computer. Also, I'm not sure if everyone's the same but something I've noticed about music is that it decreases my concentration but keeps me working for a little longer so don't always assume that music helps you focus better. Anyway...I think I should stop ranting haha. I hope you find something to help you :)
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Posted 12/28/13 , edited 12/28/13
Go for a walk by yourself, no music just you and your thoughts. Many thoughts will vanish leaving only the important ones.
Posted 1/1/14
Things that stress you, ask yourself;
Can I do anything to solve it?
If not then accept that you cannot do anything as it is out of your power and let it go in the fleeting breeze
Posted 1/1/14
Zoning-out works best for me and it has helped me improve my focus. It's pretty simple you just pick an object, stare at it, picture it moving and deem everything that is not that object irrelevant. You can also zone out to white noise. If you are finding it difficult to achieve 'nothingness' then I suggest you try this.
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change your scenery for a bit..just get away for no random reason without knowing where you going.
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Get that shit out man. Write it, draw it, speak it. The best way to get something out of your head is to store it somewhere else. You might just have something cool in there; cool like a Bioshock Pokemon crossover.
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