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Posted 1/1/14

KimmyKins83 wrote:

I've always been a loner & have never needed any sort of real friends in my life cos they always betray me


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47 / M / pergatory
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I guess I left many of my friends behind when I moved from my home town. I spend most of my time trying to earn a living, and whatever remains is divided and spent pursuing my interests and being a dad, so if I do make a friend it is usually a casual acquaintance. I've always been a bit of a loner and I prefer it that way because I'm selfish with my me time!
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41 / F / NS, Canada
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Posted 1/1/14
I have terrible choice in friends and I'm sick of being treated like trash.

I just don't click with people. I have unique interests and it is hard to find common ground with people. Even when I find people I want to be friends with, they walk all over me and honestly, I don't have to put up with that to have a so called "friend".

I would LOVE to have more friends IRL but I satisfy most of my social needs online and with family .
Posted 1/1/14 , edited 1/1/14
It's a complicated and long story. In short, it has to do with my homosexuality and femininity and society's disapproval of these two things in a male person.

I think these two traits make other people less likely to want to be friends with me, just a guess though.
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22 / M / Swedish Street Life
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Well i have friends that i can watch a movie with go out and eat etc but i don't have any close friends and with that i mean people you can tell everthing and you know the story and i guess i don't feel like it's important to have any close friends because in the end pain in the only thing that awaits
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I moved away for a year, came back, and all my friends changed. Told myself that it makes it easier to move if you just cut yourself off until you know you're staying somewhere permanently.
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Posted 1/2/14
Honestly I think I'm a bit flighty and irresponsible so I'm not good at maintaining friendships. I don't mean anything bad about it I just don't put in a lot of effort into getting to know people unless they really reach out to me.
I do have a few close friends but I haven't had a wide social circle since I was in elementary school, and that was only due to my parents constantly arranging play dates for me.
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52 / M / In
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Posted 1/2/14
well I lost touched with my old friends when I got married and never felt a need to make new ones
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23 / M / Aberystwyth, Wale...
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I think the reason I don't have friends is that I'm bad at making friends. And I suspect that that's actually the most common reason, so I'm a bit annoyed that it's not even an option.
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Posted 1/2/14 , edited 1/2/14
Outside of situations where making friends is the norm, like high-school, you actually have to expend some specific effort to do so, since I'm neither in that situation or willing to expend the effort, all the people I know are simply acquaintances, not friends. Also I didn't stay in touch with any friends from school either.
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Posted 1/2/14
I find most of the people my age (that I know) annoying and not worth the effort and time.
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19 / M / Canada
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Posted 1/6/14
Severe Social Anxiety. Lack of ability to invest trust in people.
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I prefer to be a loner because other people just tend to get in the way of my all encompassing self indulgence.
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21 / F / Los Angeles
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Posted 1/6/14 , edited 1/6/14
People piss me off and only want to be friends when it benefits them. Where I live there's barely any diversity in race or sexuality. (it's mostly german and polish people.) Not that I have a problem with them, but after a while it gets real boring. It also makes me sick at how judgmental they are towards gay people or the dirty looks they give to the random black guy working at the supermarket.

I can't wait to move once I graduate.
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18 / F / Arizona
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Posted 1/6/14
Well currently it is because I am a freshman in high school at a high school no one else in my middle school goes to. I don't really have friends purely because no one can compare to the ones I had before. I've never had a circle of friends of more than 4 anyway. My best friend was practically my sister, but none of that matters when she moves on and you are but a relic of the past hoping to dusted off and appreciated once again. This is the third time it has happened. I don't really feel like I need anything beyond a person to occasionally talk at. We talk about a topic briefly then it grows awkward and they have to leave suddenly or I have to pick a topic out of the air so maybe they don't notice just how awkward it really is. You know you are not friends when that happens. *Shrug* I'm really not unhappy with the arrangement. Even if being a relic hurts occasionally when I think too much, a loner life's for me. *Shrug*
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