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Falling in love with the unlikely
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"Love" is a verb, not a noun. It cannot be done with fictional characters.

I remember when I was a teenager, I thought I was "in love" half a dozen times (though I was never so stupid as to claim to "love" a fictional character). When I was in my early twenties, I met a woman whom I respected, even admired. She felt respect and admiration for me as well. She was also fun to be with. She was my best friend. The fact that she respected me in return was incredibly empowering. I fell in love with her. Due to that mutual respect, keeping eachother's company made both of us stronger and more confident. That sort of love made everything else seem so pathetic. It was like the difference between gazing at a single star on a cloudy, moonless night and staring into the sun. All the "love" I felt as a teenager meant nothing.

Unfortunately it is tough growing up. For someone who was raised in the dark, seeing even a single star can seem bright. That is why so many youths (and many adults) mistake infatuation for love ( I did ). They simply have no frame of reference in order to tell the real thing from a distant image.

And I learned a few things about love more important than the intensity of the emotion:

First, love has very little to do with what you feel about another person and a whole lot to do with how a person makes you feel about yourself. As I said, "love" is a verb; it is an action which must be performed in which people uplift eachother. The prettiest girl in the world can never be "loved" if she does not make her partner feel good about himself (and vise versa is also true, of course). This doesn't come from fawning over another person or giving compliments; it comes from mutual respect and mutual desire for one another. Once trust is added through shared experience, that mutual respect and mutual desire for one another can become love.

Second, love is not heroic. I remember as a 14 year-old nobody wishing that something bad would happen so that I could be the hero to impress the girl. I thought about all the wonderful, arrogant things I could do to win over my "loved one." THAT is complete bullshit. That is vanity and narcissism, not love. It is easy to be the hero. It is easy to sacrifice, stalk, sulk, charm, and beg for attention; it is tough to be the loser. Those who are really in love would never dream of having harm of any kind (even emotional or situational pain) befalling their loved ones in order to be a hero. If you are willing to be nothing, to live unrewarded and unacknowledged to ensure your loved one's happiness, that is a sign (not the definition) that you might be in love.

There is nothing wrong with a fantasy now and then. There is nothing wrong with identifying attractive traits in fictional characters or celebrities. It is fine to think, "Well, I hope I meet a girl who can sing like that." or "I hope I meet a boy who can (whatever girls look for in guys)." Of course it won't matter to you if the person you really fall in love with has those things, but as an entertainment it is fine to think about it.

BUT, if you think "your brain" is developing "feelings" and "losing sleep" for a fictional character, you are either pathetically naive or are delusional and in need of psychiatric help. At the very least you need more face-to-face human interaction. That is NOT healthy. Even if you "know" the difference, saying such a thing - even in jest - is a bad sign. I am not joking.

Your profile says that you're 19. Kill the TV and get out more. It is time to grow up and put away such childish thoughts.


This whole rambling mess of idiocy was entertaining to read, but no.

You seriously need to get out more yourself, if this naive bullshit is what you actually think, at your age. Although, I assume you're just a troll.
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Tira from Soulcalibur V. I don't know her surname so i usually call her Tira Ravehart.
I don't like gore or notions of injuring violence, Tira says mean stuff all the time, unlikely i love her. I love Her hair, outfit, (jpn) voice and jolly/gloomy ego. I ignore her obsession with obnoxious taunts.
Love it when she gets mad all of a sudden from being cute the moment before, dat contrast, but especially the awesome voice and her heavy hanging posture.
Tira won the Soulcalibur V championships twice in a row with Shining Decopon as the player, so! She's still a favorite to me, but i don't play SCV anymore cause i got tired of the combo system. Was in LOVE with her for like two weeks or months since release of SCV. I made her three songs, and alot of custom outfits. :)

I saw most people talking about fictional characters with personalities that are unlikely so i gone with that. Irl i haven't fallen in love with unlikely though... Or actually, i have when i think about it... Thanks for making me realize that, thread! It'll be my secret for now muhuuh. :3
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I've also fallen in love with Kate Upton maybe not all of her but some of her parts if you know what I mean guys... heyyyoooooo.
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I don't understand; I've always loved you two equally.
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Bumbunny wrote:



I don't understand; I've always loved you two equally.



Sorry, but those are one-sided feelings.
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Bumbunny wrote:



I don't understand; I've always loved you two equally.



Sorry, but those are one-sided feelings.


Gotcha`.
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I once had a crush on Hayden Panettiere.

Over that now.
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Never felt love. What's it like?
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Bumbunny wrote:

I don't understand; I've always loved you two equally.


By the same token you could have said you (like/dislike/hate) the two of us equally.

Did you mean to compare me to someone who's not on your buddy list?
Posted 1/13/14

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Bumbunny wrote:

I don't understand; I've always loved you two equally.


By the same token you could have said you (like/dislike/hate) the two of us equally.

Did you mean to compare me to someone who's not on your buddy list?


No, you don't understand. I only love you.
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:


Bumbunny wrote:

I don't understand; I've always loved you two equally.


By the same token you could have said you (like/dislike/hate) the two of us equally.

Did you mean to compare me to someone who's not on your buddy list?


No, you don't understand. I only love you.


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Your secret is safe with me.
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Your secret is safe with me.


Ok, don't let me down.
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Bumbunny wrote:



Your secret is safe with me.


Ok, don't let me down.


If you look up, you will never be down.

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Bumbunny wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:


Bumbunny wrote:



Your secret is safe with me.


Ok, don't let me down.


If you look up, you will never be down.



Down people are always looking up.
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