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What are your thoughts on the guy being expected to make the first move?
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49 / M / Sussex UK
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Posted 3/6/14
I don't believe it matters, who makes the running these days.
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24 / F / Johnstown, PA, USA
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Posted 3/6/14 , edited 3/6/14
Many women ask men out (yes, even in the US ), so I feel that the supposed "men must ask first" rule holds as little water as the usual stereotype. Thank goodness, too, because I tend to spook pretty easily and balk when guys come on strong.
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25 / M / Seattle, WA, USA
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In this day and age, it's stupid for a woman to wait for a guy to ask her out. Do whatever you want. This is separate, but it's also stupid that the man is expected to pay for the first dinner too. We aren't in the 50's here.
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25 / M / Canada
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In all of the relationships that I've ever had, I was the first one to openly initiate any kind of interest.
As to whether the guy or the girl should make a move first... I dunno.

Personally speaking, nowadays I'm too much of a coward to initiate interest (it doesn't help that I don't know any girls so I'm always a stranger and nothing more). Even if a girl was making passes at me, I'd be too stupid to realize it until it's too late (i.e. I'll only realize it like three weeks later... or four years later) so what I'm saying is... girls, if you trying to pick up a guy and he's not picking up on your cues, be forward about it, like... Senjougahara-forward... and if all else fails, just stick your hand down his pants.

I'm at a point where I've been rejected enough that I am giving up on the chance of ever having another relationship, that's what rejection does to me, it breaks me down. I often feel sad about it because I get pressured from my family to date or get married or whatever, I don't know why they pressure me since they know that I don't know anyone, I don't even have a single friend. Anyway, those are my thoughts.

As a summary... this video shows where I'm at right now (how I feel), why I no longer try to pick up girls... http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4PohPrwCRpE
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I don't think it really matters... But I am pretty up front. If I like you I will 99% tell if I get even the slightest sign that they may like me... and sometimes I drop "hints" like "you cute" or "im so drunk" HAHA okay joking about that last one. But seriously I kind of like asking the guy because I rather be rejected than having to reject someone...
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Unless the man is pretty boy, famous, etc--guys will usually be making the first move. Though, WOMEN can help by giving hints with body language or greeting, or even just taking quick glances at the person(s) they are interested in. This is if the setting is a classroom, bar, or club. Per say the setting was in a grocery store, and you never met the person? No way in hell would a women think of getting hit on in that setting (sometimes). So that is when the man or lady initiates the first move to the women.

Now lets say it is not a person you just met or don't know, but it is a person that you've known for a while? This is different, I feel it is any ones game.


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Posted 3/6/14
For me personally, it doesn't matter. If you're interested in someone, go for it regardless of what gender if making the move.

Then again, others like things to be a certain way. It all comes down to personal preference. Some girls like the guy to make the move, some guys like the girl to make the move - others don't care.

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My problem is that I'm horrible at initiating things with people, even ones I'm close to like my parents. What this means is that if I'm expected to initiate a relationship, then it simply isn't going to happen.
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The only reason for the "guy having to make the first move", is if you're stuck in a time warp from 1930's.
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it doesn't matter i believe in equality so we should both be responsible for making the first move......................BUT WITH ME BEING THE INDECISIVE AND HESITATE ALSO SHY AND TIMID DUDE I HOPE A NICE LOOKING LADY MAKES THE FIRST MOVE ON ME
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Personally, I think the whole "Guy asks girls" is very much a past romantic type deal. However, I think it's personally up to the person. If I can give one word of advice though. If you want a certain person to be with you, you have to ask. The reason being is that people, mostly boys, are so oblivious these days. Also, many people would never have thought as you as a partner, but once you ask, they may see thinks in a different light. A good example of this is the fact I have a lot of Friend who are girls. I've never had any love interest for them, but if they asked me, I'd probably accept a date. Who knows, things may flourish from there.

The main point is, you can wait around for the opposite gender to ask you but then you may never get the one you wanted from the being. (Not saying that isn't bad, of course)
Posted 3/6/14
Must be hard for lesbians.
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Well, I'm too shy to make the first move o.0 Scared of being rejected.
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Posted 3/6/14

StrawHatMichael wrote:

Well, I'm too shy to make the first move o.0 Scared of being rejected.


Understandable but you shouldn't be. I mean, what have you got to lose? If she doesn't like you then you move on to the next prospect.
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23 / M / Bolton, England
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I think it's stupid and is part of the reason loads end up single so long. Should be set for either to do it.
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