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What are your thoughts on the guy being expected to make the first move?
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Posted 3/8/14
It's really gotta work both ways in my opinion. Both have to take the leap and be interested in each other. If neither side is willing to take the step first, then it just isn't going work. Same goes for if it's one sided.
Posted 3/8/14
I've never really gone beyond awkward accidental eye contact
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Guys should never make the first move... girls will think you are a creepy stalker. Stay as far away from them as you can and hide in the bushes with binoculars to learn what they like then buy/do the things they like. They will eventually fall in love with you gents, this is fact.
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I know it expected, but it would be nice if girls did it once and a while... It would solve so many problems.

I've heard a lot of women compain that guys don't take the initiative to talk to them more, in a social enviroment. But when guys do, they act like they're offended for wrecking their night. WhenI used to work in a night club a saw many guys get shot down. (hashly).
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I Feel Matter, It Does Not- But i guess in some parts of the world
other People's View Differ sooo yeah.
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Posted 3/8/14 , edited 3/8/14
I think people in general (both the man and the woman) need to take more initiative when it comes to dating in heterosexual relationships. It isn't a matter of who should ask really, it's a matter of asking if you want the potential to begin said dating scenario, no matter which gender you are. Gays and Lesbians tend to be very upfront about dating when they figure the other person is actually into their own gender, take a cue from them :P.

As for roles in the relationship (ie: who is the lead), I think that depends on your personalities. I'd honestly like someone confident, funny, artistic (to balance out my stark analytical side) and caring, but doesn't overdo the relationship (I really don't need to be pampered too much) that I could stand on equal footing with but I guess it really just depends on who you are as a person.

So yes, I am the kind of woman who would ask a guy out and would potentially accept an invite to go out with a guy. I think more people need that particular mindset, in general.
Posted 3/8/14
The first move takes place before words are exchanged so I'm not sure if it's only man who makes the first move.
Posted 3/8/14

Strahfobiya wrote:

I've never really gone beyond awkward accidental eye contact


lol
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Posted 3/8/14
I think it's a shame people still think that way. My friend keeps talking about her crush, and the quarter is about to end, and she doesn't have any of his contact information, and he obviously has a crush on her too, but he hasn't made a move yet, and she isn't willing to either. She said she won't go into a relationship or move forward unless the guy makes a move first. Whether or not they get together hinges entirely on him.
Girl you gon lose this man! This is your dream boy and if you don't get his number before class is over, you're not going to see him again! Goodbye perfect boyfriend!
Guys can be shy too, and if both of you are turtles huddling in your shell, there isn't going to be a romance. You have to stick your head out and ask some concrete questions, not flutter around one another all the time, just dropping hints like cowpies and expect something to come of it.
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Posted 3/8/14
I'm totally fine both ways but I would personally feel more comfortable with me asking someone,rather than someone asking me.
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Posted 3/9/14
I personally can't do it first, way too shy. If i was put into that sort of situation I'd either stutter or try to force a conversation
I work better as a stalker so if he were to make the first move then that would be great
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Posted 3/9/14
I think the guy should make the first move since is it still expected, It is rare for a girl to do it.
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Posted 3/9/14
I think that is a very archaic way of thinking nowadays , a girl should be able to initiate a first move if she so desires.
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27 / F / Humping the Border
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Posted 3/9/14
I don't mind if the man makes the first move. But I sure won't sit on my ass sighing heavily, waiting for him to talk to me. I've approached a man before and the result was pretty awesome

Don't stand on ceremony ladies! If you want it, get it.
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18 / M / new york
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Posted 3/9/14
well, being that i'm gay, it's kind of impossible for a guy not to make the first move, lol.

but in all seriousness gender roles are stupid. if you are a girl and you like a guy, don't think it's wrong to make the first move.
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