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Slapping a girl?
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Posted 2/1/14

Gyava wrote:

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL


You call that a slap.

THIS is a slap


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If there is a good reason, i will slap a girl.
but there are very few things that anger me, so this has never happened.
Posted 2/1/14

Chofrizzy wrote:

bottom bitches need to be slapped once in a while naw'm sayin'




Seriously dude.
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kajanan wrote:


Gyava wrote:

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL


You call that a slap.

THIS is a slap




:O !!!
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For me, it depends on the situation/reason. In some cultures (mostly Asian cultures), respect for elders is a big thing. And they have their own ways of disciplining, much like Koko's father did to her. I'm Filipino and I've had my fair share of spanking, but that was for misbehaving. It wasn't out of malice but of love, so that I'd learn from my mistakes. I'm a mother now, and I swore not to do the same thing to my daughter, but sometimes it's hard to teach them otherwise. But I do more spanking on the hand, since she's just a toddler, and only if she's being stubborn and not listening.

If it's out of malice or anger, like an abusive significant other or family member, then that's a different story. I've also experienced that type of slapping. It's undeserved and uncalled for. There was no reason for it other than an inability to control their anger.

I'm still watching the episode now, but I noticed this post right before I started it (kinda spoiled that part for me x.x;) so I'm not sure what her father meant by the slap.

I agree with some of the replies I've read, kids today are spoiled. Some parents/guardians seem to let them get away with everything, whether it's because they're too busy to discipline or they're too lazy to deal with it. It's a problem, because parents are the first teachers children have in the world. Once they're old enough, other people will have to deal with them as well.

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TL;DR Acceptable slapping depends on the situation.

Sorry for the long post. I'm sure you didn't wanna read all that ^^;;
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I only read the first few posts, but here is my two cents. I was raised with a physical punishment family. smaller transgressions earned me 30 minutes in the corner. Upright on my knees, hands behind my back. No slouching, no crying, no talking. Major transgressions (ones that involved me hurting someone or endangering myself or others) resulted in a spanking, the severity of which was based on the severity of the transgression. It was either 5 slaps with a bare hand, or occasionally the belt. Slapping a child in the face, regardless of transgression, feels like abuse to me, however, despite my past, I am all for corporal punishment. It worked on me, and I will use it on my children to keep them proper. However, measuring what is right for the situation is whats most important. I have a few nieces, that lived with me for a while. My rule with them, was If my warnings not to do something were not followed, and I asked them to stop 3 times, the 4rth time was a swift slap on the ass. Not hard enough to leave a mark, but hard enough that they knew they'd been spanked. Always over the clothes. There has never been a reason to be stricter than that.

In the case of the OP's first example. about the Driver. She nearly cost her own, and the lives of 5 others. This is a very serious issue. However, it comes down to WHY exactly she fell asleep at the wheel. If it was her own malpractice that brought her there (example, she was tired, due to being up all not drinking or partying, or some lame excuse like that) then I would not say that is over reacting. If she fell asleep due to external circumstances, such as studying for an important test for school or business,. then she still deserves reprehension, as she could have probably avoided driving, if she knew she was too tired, but I would never slap her if it wasn't her fault. If she is old enough to drive, then she is a bit too old for a spanking. I'd cut the spanking age at about 12. All of this applies equally to both senses. As for the slapping due to panic, I doubt it happens too often in real life. It is usually for drama or comedic purposes for tv/acting/cartoons. That being said, I wouldn't call it over reacting, or inappropriate, however, it should be a last resort, as Demongurl said, it is quite effective for grabbing attention.

Last but not least, I feel that a good majority of societies problems would have been sold if kids were punished better. Parent's hardly enforce rules, and they causes them to grow up with the vision that Authority can be tested and pushed with no consequences. It wouldn't solve the drug problem, or crime problem, but if parents were to properly discipline children, they would be less likely to cause issue. It all depends on HOW they were disciplined. I do not hate my parents for spanking me, nor am I mad at them. They did the right thing.

That's my two cents. I hope anyone who reads the, at the very least understands my viewpoint, even if you don't agree with it.
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anikevin wrote:

When I read the title of this thread, the image of Koko's father slapping her appeared in my mind.


Same here.
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more than a slap is justified you gotta keep girls in their place
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PRose- wrote:

I don't think it's abusive. Honestly kids now a days are spoiled,
a little lesson wouldn't hurt. Obviously not to the extreme like hitting
and banging their heads like some fucking idiots. Thinking about it
gets me so fucking mad.


This.
Honestly, people saying that a slap is abusive.. are you kidding me? :l
Sure, repetitive slaps or escalating to hitting is a no-no, but really? If it's one slap to knock some sense into a person or to get their attention, there's little harm in it, especially if it teaches them a lesson. Also, gender shouldn't matter in this situation at all.
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I would only slap a girl if I really cared about her and was really necessary. "It hurt me more than it hurt you"
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Why would you need to use violence at all? There are better ways to teach a child, person or whichever, what to do, than to slap them around.

"Violence is what made you the people you are today! A person that thinks beating children/people/animals is a good thing." Well, you people sure are fucked up.
Posted 2/2/14 , edited 2/2/14
A slap is an act of aggression, and is in most cases counter-productive, especially when used to calm someone down who is in a state of shock and terror. Make eye contact, speak with a firm voice, and give simple, step-by-step instructions. If you are not calm, they will not be calm. If you are not in control, they will not feel in control.

And slapping someone in argument sounds even sillier. I would rather leave. If you're going to go batshit crazy on me, you can go batshit crazy alone.
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People are such pansies. We've gone from paddles and switches back in the day and now to determine one slap is child abuse? So how are you suppose to discipline your child, scold them or time out? "Now now Timmy, throwing a rock at your sister's head is a no-no. Five minutes of timeout."

It is proven in psychology that the more senses used to convey a meaning, the better you learn it. For example, if you slap and scold your child for something they did, you are using 3 out of the 5 senses (feeling, sight, and hearing). If you scold your child and put them in timeout, that's 2 senses. The same applies to reading a book as to reading it out loud. You learn better by using more senses.

There are two forms of punishment: punishment by removal and punishment by application. Slapping and spanking is punishment by application and proven to be much more effective but has its downfalls. If some psychopathic parent gets carried and starts beating their kid, their child will associate the wrong thing with the punisher rather than the punishment. A simple, hard slap isn't going to mess up a kid, only put them in their place. Same as to 1-5 spankings. But if someone is continuously beating their kid, then arises a problem.

Social norms mess up the order of things and creates spoiled brats. Society has gotten soft. Anyone who thinks spanking and slapping is child abuse, you are ignorant. Plain and simple.
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Slaps worked on me. As much as I hate to admit that my parents were right (and I'd never admit it to their faces), physical punishment worked on me. Today almost any form of physical contact is considered "abusive" wheras the case years ago in Western countries was that corporeal punishment was a normal and common form of reprimand. The key is that the punishment has to be immediate and explained, as in it has to happen right after the incident and the parent/teacher/guardian needs to explain to the child why what he/she did was wrong in a societal sense, not just their opinion on the behavior. It may not appeal to today's sue happy society, but physical punishment curbed me from becoming a delinquent, something that a few dozen after school detentions did nothing about, and I feel like at least a halfway respectable young man thanks to it.
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