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The last time i thought i was being social, it turns out i was just lost and asking for directions.
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I am a social butterfly!
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25 / F / New Jersey, USA
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I got to get out and get a life. I'll punch a brick wall if I don't get my freedom from my home.

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I can completely relate to that feeling of being pressured by others to be "sociable". I am definitely not an anti-social person and I enjoy spending time/talking with others, but I think that sometimes there's too much pressure from society to be a people-pleaser and socialize all the time, even with people you don't care for or aren't interested in. The upside to being social is that you can potentially meet some amazing people that you share common interests with or just connect with really well. However, there are also the people you won't care for or that you just can't relate to and this is what probably makes socializing so daunting. My best advice would be to accept yourself for who you are and if you felt compelled to post this consider the fact that you probably feel some innate desire to try something different than what you're currently doing. If that's the case then go for it and if it feels wrong then maybe it's not for you. Good luck!
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I feel the same way. But if enjoy a lack of company compared to "normal" people so be it.
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I can start a conversation with anyone and I'm fairly socialable... I won't say I have a lot of friends but maybe around 10 close ones, the problem I have is that I can lack the confidence. I like to spend a lot of my time gaming/anime and generally being online so I always feels so antisocial when turning down invites. Then again I treasure my online friends just as much as a my real life ones :3 Online friends are awesome!
Posted 2/5/14
I'm not too social either. Ever since I've been out of high school I've gotten better though. College doesn't have as much drama so I opened up a bit. I also got a job working in a restaurant as a hostess which pretty much forces you to talk to people so that's helped me too. Sometimes I wish I could be more outgoing and I get sad about it, but being quiet is just who I am. There's nothing wrong with being less social than others. Everyone is different.
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I have been suffering from Avoidant personality disorder for around decade, My psychiatrist has my posting on these forums (well online he wanted me to use facebook, I don't really like that idea) as a form of therapy as I refuse to take pills ( they are evil, last time was not fun to say the least ) and I am starting to be able to post my interests and what not online and not worry to much about it ( hence this post ) but I still worry about posting online ( this is draft 4 ).

Its strange in that I have panic attacks, but at the same time am very volatile.
People make me angry, crowds make me panic, I have gone through therapy and am much better then I was 5 years ago, but still rather bad, I can walk my dogs in the day for instance (used to do it 00.00 - 05.00), and as long as I get fired up and aggressive enough I can go to the supermarket ( this is not healthy however, so I try and avoid it) I can also talk to my family much more comfortably, so things are getting better :)

I do get very lonely and depressed, but my brother has been helping my a lot and we do some times watch anime together ( he sits in front of me, its more comfortable if I can see him )

But time is scary, I am 30 this birthday :S I need to do something and soon :S its like that lyric from pink floyd
"And then the one day you find
Ten years have got behind you
No one told you when to run
You missed the starting gun"

ok, my rant and raves over, move on people nothing to see here, ignore the fruitcake and everything's as it was before.
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eh, i'm kind of the same way. close knit group, don't really care for anyone unless its important or have seomthing planned like going snowboarding or hiking, my dickhead brother took all of my friends when I was younger so I was always left alone playing video games, (was a pro call of duty player on my computer at one time) and watching anime, drawing. He gave them all a bad impression of me. Now some of them realize how much of a dick he was and my best friend which hung out with me regardless of my brother but hung out with my brother a bit more then me for a year or two and always wondered why he left me behind. They now realize how much of a dick he was.

I still mostly do my own thing at home, work out, draw, watch anime, play game and work on pre calculus. I think its normal and I have already pretty much decided on a future where i'll be single
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I have always been introverted but at one point I was becoming a social butterfly! Then one of my close friends introduced me to anime after that, all my free time became swallowed up by japanese animation and I stopped talking to people.

haha just kidding kind of . No, I am not a very social person anymore. It's not that I don't want to be, it's just that I have trouble keeping up conversations and always feel like I have to make an effort to entertain the other person or they'll become torturously bored around me. I do feel a little guilty whenever I decline offers from my close friends to go out because then they might get the impression that I don't care to hangout with them, when really I just feel more comfortable by myself sometimes where I don't have to 'recharge'. I also feel a little sad sometimes because I think I might I'll look back at this time when I'm older and regret having wasted my youth alone at home.
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20 / M / Texas
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I can't really start up a conversation but if you come up and talk to me first then I'll become really sociable. Don't know why lol. Especially if you come up and start talking about anime, then we'll be having a discussion for an hour or so lol xD
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Nope, I'm anti-social person.
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Genbu89 wrote:


stridersix wrote:

@nfts
i think the same would go for alot of people haha

@genbu
very reassuring post, thanks for replying :--) just a case of accepting the fact i'm not part of the 'default' shizwaz. the whole military thing is a right shame though, bit of a wtf situation in my mind over that.

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im glad theres more people like this than i thought :'//


Well, technically, it was for having Schizoid Personality Disorder, which is just a fancy way of saying someone's asocial.

No really, I may not have a psych degree but I have read up on it and studied some psych. There are paragraphs upon paragraphs about most other PDs, but not mine - in a sophomore-level psych book there's 2 paragraphs. It's not well researched and I never had problems performing on the job or with other people.

But hey, social paradigms.


Read the signs and symptoms on wikipedia. Facepalmed.
Personally, I love people, but don't feel the need to create new "intimate personal relationships" That requires work. First you need to find people, then you have to talk to them, decide you like them, contact them later, and wait for them to reciprocate.

It's so much nicer when strangers walk up to me and start a conversation when I'm sitting in a public place somewhere. It gets annoying if I have to start every conversation with everybody I feel the urge to talk to.
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I don't think it's much of an extrovert world if we compare it to the past where person to person activities were inevitable for good jobs and social standing. 100 years ago, if you were smart and had charisma, you could work your way up to almost anything. Community were small and being a loner made you more easily shun uponed than today where we posess internet and there is a diploma available for every job imaginable out here. Hell you can even get certification on internet nowadays!

For my part, I consider myself quite social. I used to be shy and uneasy about going out with my friends to one of their friends party or in a club. However, I read in a book (which name I forgot) that" when you're faced with two activities to do, choose the one you never did". And a lot of unexpected fun and meeting new people came out of applying this rule!

I think it's normal to feel more secure by ourselves, but if you're afraid of doing social activities because you consider yourself as anti-social, then I think that all you have to do is go out there and search for a sport club or anything where you will have to mix with others! You'll see, with time, you'll become good at it!

I never laughed until I cried by myself, And everyone deserves it!


See, this attitude is exactly what I'm talking about.

Not every asocial person just shy or insecure. Some people genuinely do not care about social interaction. That's not to say they shun it, but they don't actively seek it out.

Personally, I have no problem with other people. At work I'm polite, hard-working, affable, and tend to win people over thanks to an earnest nature, mature wit, and slightly unhinged demeanor. It's endearing, I guess. Still, I prefer to spend my off-time alone. There's nothing wrong with that. The problem is that since the majority of people are extroverted by nature, being introverted is deviating from the norm, and people don't like that - it makes you an "other," and aberration.
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moderately social
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