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have you ever regretted rejecting/dumping somebody?
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68 / M / Columbia, MO
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Posted 2/20/14
When I used to date it wasn't so much who dropped who(m) it was usually the forced choice of committing to either/or rather than dating several at a time relying on attrition. Over the years I had followed both strategies: go with 1 person at a time to that eventual demise or date many hoping to find Mrs. Right somewhere in that multitude of choices.

Looking back at many of my dating failures my biggest regret, twice, was choosing Person A when I should have stayed true with Person B. Though I couldn't predict the eventual outcome from the beginning with the majority of the people I dated 100% of the time there were no second chances rekindling those short-term acquaintenances back when everyone was still free from commitments.

How it might've been: I find sentimentalizing over potential lost loves to be a colossal waste of time and energy. You have better things to do with your time here on this planet than get depressed over an event that never happened or outcome that cannot be changed. If you endured a loss, sure, take as much time as you need to grieve, stabilize, But don't dwell on it and remain stuck incapable of making future life decisions.

The one I had to let go of was a Manic-Depressive six years my junior back in 2003. Be careful what you wish for as you just might get it. I've chatted about this failed relationship a few years ago on this site and won't repeat that odyessy by boring you with it. I sure wish I could get the Sheriff's transcript of that phone conversation while moving her and her possessions out. Amazingly, I convinced the sheriff's liaison that the person that turned in the distress call was a pathological liar and likely needed medication or psychological help. JC sure knew how to put on a show. All the screaming and crying stopped instantaneously when the sheriff said over the phone that she would be taken off the property if they had to come out there and intervene.

To this day I'm surprised I lived through that 6 month relationship with a psychotic alcoholic (no, the drinking and that disorder wasn't obvious when we started dating). There were lots of red flags early on that I should've paid attention to, however (admission of 17 moves in 19 years after only divorce, bankruptcy filing to get out of credit card debt 2 years previous, 4 short-term relationships with married alcoholics, desire to be a trophy wife).
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Posted 2/23/14
No, I don't make such decisions lightly.
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Posted 2/25/14 , edited 2/25/14
HaHaHa I love the last option so had to vote for it.
However there have been people I have regreted ending it with or in some cases just not giving enough of a chance.
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Posted 2/25/14
Once! I really liked her! She was beautiful, charming, and fun to be with. The problem was, she was 16 and I was about to turn 21! I wanted t go to bars with my friends, and she couldn't drink, so she didn't want to go. I will never forget the look on her face when I told her that we had to break it off! She was so angry with me! I didn't want that, but I think it was the right choice for me at the time. Sorry Stacy wherever you are!
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28 / F / Oregon
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Posted 2/25/14
No, been with some "special" guys and I needed to break it off or otherwise who knows where I would be... I have made all my choices on logic and probably waited longer than I should have with a few of them. I do regret how I broke up with one though... stupid high school mind.
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Posted 2/26/14
Nope. Thank god...
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25 / M / California
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Posted 2/26/14 , edited 2/26/14
There was one girl who I wasn't really attracted to, but she was very cute in that she borrow my jacket and then the next day return it with a letter inside. I envy whatever dude she's dating now.

Another girl I didn't really reject but I thought wasn't into me only to find out years later she liked me since freshman year. Otherwise no regrets really.
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30 / M / Central KY.
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Posted 10/8/14
I've only BEEN dumped.
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25 / M / NYC Metro Area
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Posted 10/10/14 , edited 10/10/14
I regret not being the one to dump a cheating ex before she dumped me. Should count for something...

2nd occasion: Another ex-girlfriend and I started to hang out again and it seemed like we were hitting it off once again. I asked her out and she gave me wishy washy bs and obviously wanted to drag me along for years (jealous when I was with other women) but wouldn't date me. I was a bit harsh, but I don't think I completely regret it. Sure you feel bad when you make a girl cry, but at the same time you need to make them understand you are nobody's 2nd choice and either they date you, they don't but be happy with your future partners, or they need to get out of your life. Sorry folks, I'm a realist.
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Posted 10/10/14
I regret only one guy I dated in the past, but now I definitely don't regret any of them.
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Posted 10/10/14
For the most part no most decisions i made relationship wise have been for the best though one i thought about lately because i saw her profile online recently dates back to senior school (high school for you Americans). There was a girl i used to kind of talk to in class with her friend at times she was kinda chubby but not in the bad way she was cute. She'd often ask me odd questions i was a very geeky guy in school had one person i could call a friend and we were both really unpopular and made fun of. I'd assumed she was just making fun of me too but i never had the guts at the time to speak my mind to people.

One day i remember it was a Geography class and she sat next to me in that class with her other friend next to her and they stayed afterwards. I used to like waiting a while after lessons for the halls to clear of people and they waited too until the Teacher left and she actually asked me out. I thought she was playing a joke since people had done it to me before and i turned her down. She asked why and i said she's just making fun of me. She never spoke to me much for the rest of school and looking back her expression was probably kind of hurt. I think my school life would have been happier if i'd have gone out with her despite the constant questions she was a nice person.

I also sort of regret breaking up with a girl in University. She was really a great girlfiend. Sweet,affectionate and so on it's just she had a male friend on the same course as her who clearly liked her and he hung around her when she wasn't with me. I assumed she was seeing him because i was a paranoid douche bag so i ended up talking her room mate into believing it and somehow talking her into bed. My girlfriend found out about it but she wasn't even going to dump me she was just asking why i cheated on her and i just told her that we both cheated so we can just break up now. Turns out she never cheated on me at all with anyone although after i dumped her she did get with that guy from her course and they are now married with a kid. Honestly i'm happy for her she deserves it because i was a prick in that situation and i regret that one but it did mean i ended up with someone i really loved so it's not total regret.
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Posted 1/18/15
Nah, but I've been dumped the other way round.
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