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Opposite Gender Friends?
Posted 2/13/14
Honestly most people I know think that having an opposite sex friend is not a good idea. I mean, I understand that if he/she develops feelings for you, then things can get pretty bad real fast.

I mean, I have quite a few opposite gender friends, and I remember that in the past a few of them began to like me, or I began to develop feelings for them, and it was never really the same...

Your ideas on it?
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Posted 2/13/14
Of course yay. Are you crazy? Okay for a girl probably you have choices. Us men cherish and appreciate every single female friend that we have unless he's a jerk or a-hole. Haha hey buddy. There will be feelings for sure, but aware that it is inevitable for two opposites to attract like the different sides of a magnet. Don't demonize and be in guilt of the feelings you have for your friend, maybe talk about it. If she doesn't want a relationship then it's okay. She's still a friend and both of you feel much better and truer to each other. Just don't whine about being mistreated by other boys because she could have accepted your sincere and beautiful invitation
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Posted 2/13/14 , edited 2/13/14
Well when I was at school (literally only finished last year) I was usually in a group people of at break time. There was me and 3 other guys, and about 6 girls and nothing regarding romantic interests really happened. One of the girls asked out one of the guys but he turned her down, but they still both got along as good friends like nothing had really happened. In our case it was 'don't make a big deal out of it, and nothing will become a big deal' but I can't speak on behalf of everyone since that was just us.
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Posted 2/13/14
Wait opposite genders couldn't be friends... o.o ... O.O...



OMG my entire life has been a lie
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Posted 2/13/14
Romance isn't my strong suit, but if you don't want to complicate things, just don't do the whole love confession / asking out thing. There are plenty of other people out there.
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Posted 2/13/14

Sebby_chan wrote:



Your ideas on it?


Gender, in friendships, becomes less of an issue the older you become.

I would say that if you're between the ages of 14-25, and not married, having friends of opposite genders works for a while. If you're between that ages of 26-41, opposite sex friends can be awkward. Once you reach 45-55 and you're having your mid-life crisis because you finally realize you'll be dead forever in about 25 years, then gender doesn't matter much unless the other person is married or in a committed relationship, but even that is less stressful then when you're younger.

The problem is keeping opposite sex friendships as people become involved in deeper relationships. You have to think about your friend's spouse/lover and how they'd feel. Like it or not, almost every single human is crazy jealous. And that is the crux of the problem.

It's easy on paper to say, "gender is no big deal!" (like age) especially if you or the other person isn't married/committed. But the reality, especially for boys/men, is quite the opposite.
Posted 2/13/14
I pretty much only talk to girls. I don't know why but I have just never been able to get into a full conversation with a guy. I'll talk a little bit and respond but pretty much the entire time I am just off thinking about other things or wondering how much longer I have to bother with it.
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Posted 2/13/14
Meh. I make friends with both genders.
Posted 2/13/14
I'm moving into a four-bedroom apartment this fall, and I'm going to be the only guy lol.
Then again, these are old friends from middle school, soo...
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Posted 2/13/14
It is completely possible to have friends of the opposite gender.

Don't ask me how though.
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Posted 2/13/14
So, the logic here is (heterosexual) men and women can't be friends because they'll always be deeper feelings involved? By the same logic can homosexual people not be friends with other people of the same gender?

Sorry, bisexual people, looks like you can't have any friends at all.
Posted 2/13/14
It's the only way to be friends...

Fuck feelings.. Lol
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Posted 2/13/14 , edited 2/13/14
I don't know but I only have a female friend. The rest just want my d or get into relationship with me. I still believe it's possible to be friends with opposite gender, just that one of you must be unattractive to do so. Not just looks. Actions, personalities, characters and also how you express your energy. If you can hold them back and make yourself look bad. Girls can just be friends with you.
Posted 2/13/14
Sorry if some misunderstood my intentions with this question. To MimiLikesCake, I am sorry I did not add bisexual or homosexual people, but I was merely asking that if you were a heterosexual human being. This question seemed to bother some people but I was merely hoping to find out the opinions of others. Of course I have guy friends and it's not like I oppose it... God, I didn't know people would read into what I was trying to say so deeply...
Posted 2/13/14
Friend; a person with whom you are friendly. You can remain friendly with people even though there might be a mutual romantic or sexual attraction between you, but do not be so arrogant as to delude yourself that a mutual romantic or sexual interest cannot evolve or does not already exist between you because you have somehow evolved beyond your instincts to survive and reproduce. There will always be a high chance that you will want to move beyond the point of simply being friendly when the person that you are dealing with has all that you require in a partner romantically and sexually.
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