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Opposite Gender Friends?
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Posted 2/13/14

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Sorry if some misunderstood my intentions with this question. To MimiLikesCake, I am sorry I did not add bisexual or homosexual people, but I was merely asking that if you were a heterosexual human being. This question seemed to bother some people but I was merely hoping to find out the opinions of others. Of course I have guy friends and it's not like I oppose it... God, I didn't know people would read into what I was trying to say so deeply...


Sorry, I was just being a bit sarcastic!

I don't think gender should play a role in who can and can't be friends, I only think it matters that you're compatible as people

My best friend was a guy all through school, I knew him so well he felt like my brother or something, so it really annoyed me when people insisted we'd get together one day. I just found the quickest way to stop those conversations was to bring bisexuality into the equation.
Posted 2/13/14

MimiLikesCake wrote:


Sebby_chan wrote:

Sorry if some misunderstood my intentions with this question. To MimiLikesCake, I am sorry I did not add bisexual or homosexual people, but I was merely asking that if you were a heterosexual human being. This question seemed to bother some people but I was merely hoping to find out the opinions of others. Of course I have guy friends and it's not like I oppose it... God, I didn't know people would read into what I was trying to say so deeply...


Sorry, I was just being a bit sarcastic!

I don't think gender should play a role in who can and can't be friends, I only think it matters that you're compatible as people

My best friend was a guy all through school, I knew him so well he felt like my brother or something, so it really annoyed me when people insisted we'd get together one day. I just found the quickest way to stop those conversations was to bring bisexuality into the equation.


Hahaha what a good way to shut people up! Might have to steal that from you someday...
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I know there was another thread about this, maybe it died out, too lazy to dig it up. I will say what I said there though:

My best friend, who is also my childhood friend and also an ex-girlfriend, is... well obviously on the ex girlfriend part a girl, aka opposite gender. We still hang out despite that as well as work and school, even though it has been becoming less and less as our schedules keep not matching up. We hang out alone and we hang out with a group of friends (mostly hers as the rest of my friends are all guys who would rather hang out at a bar with a couple people than a big group).

I also have another best friend who I've been friends with throughout high school and up to now, since we both turned 21 we are good drinking buddies now as well. But he is a guy, does that make it easier? I don't think so personally.

I don't think Gender or Age should restrict friendship. It's probably harder the younger you are and more or less hormones do a good 99% of your thinking process. But as you get older and can keep that type of stuff in check being friends with opposite gender (or the same gender if you are a Homosexual) is quite easy.

But like all topics on the internet, there will be people who disagree with me.
Posted 2/13/14
I seem to be more friendlier with the opposite gender... I have so many guy friends than girl friends that I don't have enough fingers on my hands to count them all off. (yet I still have no Bf....lol TT^TT)
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I have few, but be warned: every one of these women are attractive to me = potential threat = better to avoid if you have a partner. Never too careful, right?...

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If they are single then yes it's easy to make friends with the opposite sex but if they are in a relationship then that's where things get complicated. So unless you make friends with their partner it's going to get annoying later on.
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friends with the opposite gender? Preposterous! Ridiculous! Who ever heard of such a thing?!
Posted 2/13/14
i can befriend either gender.

it's the personality of the person that defines who they are, not their gender.

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I submit this: http://youtu.be/T_lh5fR4DMA

And watch part 2 if you have time, it's even better.

For myself, roughly a third of my "friends" are female. They range in all ages, have different backgrounds, and are either married, attached, or single. Even so, I find they all share a few base traits:

One, they will initiate contact when they want something.

Two, they will initiate contact when they're suddenly single, or angry at their boyfriends/husbands, or when they're alone for five minutes.

Three, when they find a guy they like, they disappear.

Four, if they ask you how you're doing, it's almost guaranteed to be one of the first two reasons, badly disguised.

Five, every woman believes she's an exception to the first four behaviors. They are not.

Now, as an interesting rare case, one of my female friends I've known for 12, maybe 13 years. She's had many boyfriends in that time. Although she was interested in me at one point in the beginning, I wasn't interested in her. The friendship began AFTER that.

I know what you're thinking, but no - she's quite attractive. We get along great, probably because I see her as less of a woman, and more of a guy. She also has some irritating traits when she's involved with somebody that repulse me, and we sometimes fight because she's a little neurotic. I've sat with her through many breakups, and now she lives with her boyfriend in another state. I'm thankful because she's stopped complaining and because I'm guaranteed not to be a target anymore. I'm not sure what her side of the story is for the past decade, but that's mine.

Women collect men and assign them roles. This guy is a good listener, this guy is funny, this guy will buy me lunch, this guy may be next.... They will do this while having boyfriends, while having husbands. It's completely normal to them, and many aren't even aware that they do it.

I've adopted a harsh personal rule as a result: if they don't bring any value to the table, if there's no connection in some non-sexual way, don't talk to them. It's what people do for prospective friends of the same gender, so it isn't difficult. Ever since I've adopted that rule, I only initiate contact with five female friends. I should probably clean my lists.
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Meh I would not say I have any female "friends". I do though have a large group of female acquaintances that suddenly become friendly when they need something. I do however believe that opposite genders can be friends, Just that both sides have to make it clear they are not interested in a romantic sense.
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I have female friends and we both have absolutely no romantic attraction at all.
Posted 2/13/14

Scarlet-the-Great wrote:

I seem to be more friendlier with the opposite gender... I have so many guy friends than girl friends that I don't have enough fingers on my hands to count them all off. (yet I still have no Bf....lol TT^TT)


And I bet now that you have said that you will have a lot of creepers messaging you.
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It's possible, my friend...he has a childhood friend and she's a girl.....and I'm a girl too!
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Posted 2/13/14
... Not really... Things get weird with all of my friends, gender is just one of the problems that makes thing awkward but the severity varies and I can name a bunch of other things that make my relationship with my friends weird. I think I'm slightly attracted to some of my female friends, but not to the point of me calling off our friendship just because I can't handle the awkwardness or I get rejected. You can't refuse friends just because there's a possibility of things getting complicated between you two.
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Posted 2/13/14
Girls? Do you put it on bread? Never heard of it.
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