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Opposite Gender Friends?
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Posted 2/13/14

Schauerr15 wrote:

Girls? Do you put it on bread? Never heard of it.


I'm pretty sure you put it on your head or something
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I have several friends that are girls. In fact, throughout my life I have surrounded myself with primarily women. I've always identified with femininity more so than masculinity though, but all in all I see no problems with opposing genders associating as friends as long as you make it abundantly clear that that is where you want to stay. Don't raise any flags, make sure you crush them as soon as you see them because you can seriously fuck your relationship with that person up if you don't.

I tend to be pretty shy when it comes towards relationships, all of my romances were born of already established relationships with people. This isn't entirely a good thing because I lost one of the most important people to have entered my life over it, but I have a huge phobia of tying myself intimately to someone I don't already know and trust very well.

It makes the friend zone an absolute bitch though and I don't really recommend it. I've tried casual dating but I'm just so horribly awkward in those scenarios that I can hardly stand the embarrassment. I pretty much HAVE to be friends first or else I just can't get comfortable with her.
Posted 2/13/14
I have more female friends than guy friends.. And if you think you can't have an opposite sex friend.. than you are stupid.. Not trying to be rude.. But why the hell not? Because you are scared you might get feelings for them?.. makes no fucking sense..
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I don't see any problem being friends with the opposite sex. I think it is great to get different ideas from different people. And if you develop feelings or they develop feelings for you, I don't see anything wrong with that too.
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I don't separate my friends by gender.
Posted 2/13/14 , edited 2/13/14

rockadilla wrote:

It is completely possible to have friends of the opposite gender.

Don't ask me how though.


How?
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Posted 2/13/14
Most of my friends are male, but I have a fair number of female ones as well, and I've never personally had any issues with it. I also don't really buy the 'it's difficult to be friends with someone of the opposite sex who's in a relationship' thing, as I actually get along incredibly well with couples most of the time. I'm quiet, so it's much more natural for me to interject in an ongoing conversation than to have to struggle to contribute an entire half of one. I've never had a female friend distance herself from me because her boyfriend was worried, which leads me to believe that jealousy of that sort is often less baseless than many people make it out to be: if you're not a threat, you generally won't be treated like one. Befriending your friend's significant other is an easy way to clear up these sorts of misunderstandings. Likewise, if you find yourself the fulcrum in this sort of situation, it's very helpful to introduce your partner and your friend. Friends don't generally like to do unkind things to each other: the easiest way to get rid of potential drama is to stop the would-be instigator from wanting to do it. If your friend hadn't been targeting you romantically in the first place, your partner should be able to see that by meeting them, and if they had been, their friendship with your partner will help to dissuade them from acting on it by making them more aware of the consequences.

I think that largely, the problem is that friendship is seen as somehow inferior to romantic relationships, which is a little strange to me. As an introvert that likes people, I'm most comfortable at friendship. I've only been in one romantic relationship (she confessed to me, and spent a couple hours convincing my socially-uncomfortable self to give it a shot), and while it went well for a few years, we eventually called it off and decided to be friends instead. The fact of the matter is that there are far more people who are compatible with you as a friend than there are people who are compatible with you as a partner. Being okay with that reality is incredibly helpful when it comes to avoiding all sorts of relationship drama you'd rather not bother with.
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Love or hate. Between a man and a woman, does it need to be one or the other? I'd like to believe there could be something else, something deeper, but reality let me down once before.
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Posted 2/13/14
It can never happen. NEVER.
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Posted 2/14/14 , edited 2/14/14
I'm all for it ^_^
I grew up a tomboy, so I've always had guy friends mixed in with the girls. The opposite sex friend "taboo"has never been an issue. It's fun to have both to gain different experiences
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Posted 2/14/14
Yeah I wish I could at least find a female friend. Maybe they can tell me what's wrong with me... I'm such a loser.
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Posted 2/14/14
A friends a friend, makes no difference to me. I've always had friends of both genders, I never got why others make a fuss about it though.
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Posted 2/14/14
Pffft!

"Friends"


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Posted 2/15/14 , edited 2/15/14
I've had the same friends since I moved to Virginia in late April 2000. I don't really see any of them too often anymore (one joined the Army, one spends all of his time playing League of Legends, one does nothing but drink and go out to socialize in his free time, one has a completely different work schedule from me). I have a few friends who I only know online. As for friends of the opposite gender? That's not allowed.
Posted 2/16/14
My best friend is of the opposite gender. We've been best friends for 4 years now. I actually did start do develop feelings for him at first, but then they went away because he's more like a younger brother.
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