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Opposite Gender Friends?
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20 / M / The Internet
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Posted 2/16/14
Judge based off of character not by gender nor appearance.

It shouldn't matter, anyway. Just look for people that you get along with in general. WoW is a stronger tool than abstinence.

I'm completely desensitized towards any sort of romantic feels at this point anyway. I've been passively trained well by the internetz, ascending to a level beyond mere mortals
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Posted 2/16/14
Although many of you responding have appealing relationships, platonic and "advice" for romantic ones. My opinion on all of this would be, how do you even make friends? Or what defines it? I don't think that gender, orientation, or race matters(say if your only friend is a dog). As long as that person is a friend, why should anything else trouble you about it?
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F / ♬アメリカ//東京
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Posted 2/16/14
Um。。of course it's a yay? ( . .)
I understand there will always be the issue of possibly falling for the other but are you
going to find yourself falling for all your opposite gender friends? Most likely not。( . .)

Yes, you can get extremely close but being in love with all of them is a whole different story。
And for the record, I don't know a single person who has though of this as a problem。。(^w ^)

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Posted 2/16/14
i can even have a romantic feeling towards a same gender friend, but i control it, and consider it as just a strong friendship feeling or something
unless they fall for me, we're not gonna have a problem staying friends at all
i can sometimes be a jealous friend though
because i'm lonely ;u;
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Posted 2/16/14

albertphan wrote:

I'm moving into a four-bedroom apartment this fall, and I'm going to be the only guy lol.
Then again, these are old friends from middle school, soo...


hmmm.. make sure to keep a stash of chocolate on hand. any time one of them gets a little cranky offer them some. something along the lines of 'hey i have this chocolate, would you like some?' and not 'damn woman, you need chocolate.. here' of course this only works on some women. you might want to carry a stash of whatever they love the most. sounds stupid but it will go a long way to smoothing potential havoc ^_^ having roommates can get tricky, but it can be fun too.

and for what its worth, I've always had guy friends. I tend to have more in common with them than with girls, though I have a few girl friends as well. It really depends on the people involved i think.
Posted 2/16/14
I like my guy friends as friends There's always that one person though, where I enter a friendship with without any strong opinion of whether he is just a friend or a possible love-interest... Then he becomes the love interest -.-
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Posted 2/16/14
*shrug* Most of my friends are girls. It just happens works out that way? So yes, sure you can have them. It does sometimes get strange with the whole falling for the other person. Though I think with self control after the "falling for" period then the friendship is just friends. If the falling for period never ends... perhaps there needs to be a confession somewhere .

This whole things changes even more as the environment changes.. As someone mentioned earlier getting older also changes this. Sure in high school I would have thought friends with girls would be hard to not get into some sticky situations or some rumors. Later on though friends become harder to come by as there isn't a big concentration of people - and if you're shy. So friends of the opposite gender in those cases are inevitable and comes with it a mutual understanding between the people that it is strictly a friendship.
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Posted 2/17/14
I honestly could careless to what gender you are. If you're nice to me then I'll be nice to you. If you're a complete weirdo and goof then we are going to make really good friends lmao. I do have a preference and I prefer having male friends than female friends. I've always been surrounded by guys (no I'm not some attention whore - haha) and having a conversation with a guy comes more naturally than talking with a female.

I'm a tomboy and having straight girl talk is not something I can do..... Conversations about the hottest guy, the hottest nail trend, the hottest hair trend and the sexiest outfits aren't really suited for me. I don't mind having conversations about relationships but other than that, ugh.
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21 / F / 'Murica
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Posted 2/19/14
I say yay but I have exactly 0 opposite gender friends

Posted 2/19/14 , edited 2/19/14
If you seriously cannot be friends with someone of the opposite gender you really need to work on social interactions. There's no way, no freaking possible way, you can be attracted to every girl/boy you meet, and there is no way every girl/boy you meet will be attracted to you. Even if they are attractive, you can still manage to be friends. I do this with plenty of my friends who are hella fine.

Anyway, it is more than possible for men and women to be friends. I mean, if you want to think otherwise you'll miss out on a lot of great friendships, but that's your problem.
Posted 2/19/14
It's like magnets.
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24 / F / Albuquerque, NM
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Posted 2/19/14

Bavalt wrote:

Most of my friends are male, but I have a fair number of female ones as well, and I've never personally had any issues with it. I also don't really buy the 'it's difficult to be friends with someone of the opposite sex who's in a relationship' thing, as I actually get along incredibly well with couples most of the time. I'm quiet, so it's much more natural for me to interject in an ongoing conversation than to have to struggle to contribute an entire half of one...

I think that largely, the problem is that friendship is seen as somehow inferior to romantic relationships, which is a little strange to me... The fact of the matter is that there are far more people who are compatible with you as a friend than there are people who are compatible with you as a partner. Being okay with that reality is incredibly helpful when it comes to avoiding all sorts of relationship drama you'd rather not bother with.



I relate well to this. I have no problem being friends with either gender but I have noticed that people sometimes undervalue friendships in comparison to romantic relationships, which I understand but it still sucks when you want to be good friends with someone and they blow you off constantly so they can be with their boyfriend/girlfriend. I mean, spending lots of time with your loved one is one thing- I can understand that- but constantly cancelling plans with a friend so you can do this is just wrong. Also, I know that there is an occasional two-way stigma between couples and single people, where couples may only want to hang around other couples and single people with other single people. I appreciate that you don't hold this stigma me and my boyfriend sometimes have difficulties making (actual) friends because of it.
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Posted 2/19/14 , edited 2/19/14
Most of my friends are of the opposite gender actually. Not all, but a good % of them.
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28 / M / Pinellas Park, FL
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Posted 2/20/14
Opposite gender friends is a no brainer.

Don't get me wrong. I've fallen for them once or twice and hard at that but I man up and not let pettiness ruin things when I got rejected. On the other end of the spectrum however I have lost friends because I didn't reciprocate their feelings. And there was one instance where we both had feelings but circumstances didn't allow for it so we just stayed friends instead of making things complicated.

Anyway, opposite gender friends make life worth living for tomorrow.
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23 / M / California
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Posted 2/20/14
Of course yay!
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