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Testifying Against a Friend
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Posted 2/27/14 , edited 2/27/14
Refusing to lie about this in court is not being disloyal to your friend. His facing consequences now might well preclude him from making similar but worse mistakes later. "Tough love" is still love.
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Posted 2/27/14
Gonna echo the majority here: tell the truth. And also tell your friend that you intend to. If he's a good friend, he'll understand that you're risking a more serious offense than his, and also that he's legitimately in the wrong. If it were me, I'd try my hardest to avoid revealing that lying was his idea. But again, don't risk anything here. If they ask, tell it like it is. I can't see the punishment for what he did as being very severe in the first place. Windows break all the time. Nobody was hurt (except maybe him). I'm not going to judge his character or your friendship with him, because this is obviously just one incident against who knows how many years you two have known each other. If he's okay with owning up to what he did after you tell him your decision, I'd say support him however you can; if he doesn't want to be friends anymore, then that's his choice, and you have no reason to feel like the bad guy.
Posted 2/27/14
Could've saved yourself some trouble by saying that you didn't see anything
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Your friend did something stupid and made a mistake. Now he needs to accept the consequences.

Do not, under any circumstances, lie in court. You'll find yourself neck deep in s**t and sinking fast before you realize it. I would explain exactly what happened, and avoid deviating from that story. If your friend wants to get out of this, he can ask his lawyer to distort the truth. All you have to do, and should do, is clearly explain exactly what happened.
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Posted 2/27/14
Lying is too risky in this particular situation, unless (hypothetically) you for sure know that you can get away with it. (like if you bribed the judge)
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Posted 2/27/14
As I said before, stick to what you saw & heard. don't let either lawyer trick you into speculation, judgement or defensiveness. It will be one lawyer's job to make sure your words impact the jury and the others to diminish that. The latter if he cannot shake your testimony, will attack your character and competence. Just stick to what you know.
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Posted 2/27/14
Sounds like a fair weather friend. They made their bed and now they have to lie in it. Tell nothing more or less than the whole truth.
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Posted 2/27/14 , edited 2/27/14
Testify honestly.

Your duty to your friend is to help your friend. In this case, what your friend is doing is really damaging to himself, and he needs help. If he's having a personality change, really bad stuff is occurring in his brain as a consequence of the alcohol + meds combo; done long term, that could be both severe and permanent damage. The justice system *should* help with that if all the facts come out, so your duty to your friend is to help ensure they do get out so he gets the help he needs. If there's a good place in your testimony, you should probably bring up what you experienced regarding the meds and the personality alteration, not just the window part you saw. They'll be less inclined towards jail time (especially if, like my home state, your jails are overcrowded), and more inclined to get him adequate treatment to help with the meds + alcohol issue.

Your duty to society is to help reign in those who might harm others. Yet again, this means you should testify, because your friend, while he's on the meds + alcohol combo, clearly is inclined to do damage.
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FYI: If you lie in court in the manner you are talking about it would be considered 'perjury in the first degree' pretty much anywhere in the US because your testimony is material to the case (I am assuming here that you are in the US). Perjury in this regard is a felony. It is considered a far more serious crime than the one your friend is likely being charged with (probably some form of criminal mischief that either is a misdemeanor or would be pled down to a misdemeanor).

It is true that you would likely never be caught in this lie, however, considering you have put this issue online in a completely non-anonymous fashion, lying would be a gross act of stupidity (in my opinion).
Posted 2/27/14
As with, I believe, everyone above I agree that you should not lie in court. Perjury is serious and when they start to pick away at your story against what you told the cops it will only end up badly for you.

Your friend messed up and needs to pay for it. He might say you aren't a friend but if he is smart and gets his act together he will, at some point, realize that it needed to happen. It doesn't even sound like he will be in too much trouble for it. Also, if you stick around him and he doesn't hold it against you, do not let him drink with his medicine anymore. He might seem fine "to a certain level" but they tell people not to mix them for a reason. He could be doing way more damage to himself than he knows.
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Don't lie in court, say what happened.... but...

Tell the lawyer what you are going to do before the trial!

Being up front can mitigate the damage done to your friend and the lawyers case. If you "drop a bomb" the day of the case, it will be way worse. At least the lawyer can concentrate on getting leniency due to prescribed drug interaction with alcohol if he knows what you are going to do.

And yeah the lawyer telling you "you will get away with it"... WTF.
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Posted 2/27/14
Don't perjure yourself.Your friend needs help.Your testimony will ensure he gets it.
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Posted 2/27/14
DON'T EVER RAT ON A FRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just calmly explain that you cant remember the events of that night..... Don't lie... Just leave out the incriminating parts
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Posted 2/27/14

jsniemeyer wrote:

FYI: If you lie in court in the manner you are talking about it would be considered 'perjury in the first degree' pretty much anywhere in the US because your testimony is material to the case (I am assuming here that you are in the US). Perjury in this regard is a felony. It is considered a far more serious crime than the one your friend is likely being charged with (probably some form of criminal mischief that either is a misdemeanor or would be pled down to a misdemeanor).

It is true that you would likely never be caught in this lie, however, considering you have put this issue online in a completely non-anonymous fashion, lying would be a gross act of stupidity (in my opinion).


yeah kinda dumb putting it up here
Posted 2/27/14

ZK-Spike wrote:

DON'T EVER RAT ON A FRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Just calmly explain that you cant remember the events of that night..... Don't lie... Just leave out the incriminating parts


Even if he did that it would be kind of hard to avoid the questions that would follow considering he told the police everything and thus it would be in the police report.
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