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you guys need to be more creative with these topics

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Shin-Nrl wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:


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qualeshia3 wrote:

Females get placed in the friendzone too.


No they don't


Yeah they do.


Have you ever saw a girl crying and whinning because a guy put her in the friend zone because he don't want to be her boyfriend ? I don't think so.


-Raises hand.- I've been friend zoned and I'm a girl.

Honestly though, it's not something I mind. If they don't like me like that I'm not going to expect them to. Just got to move on. Have I friend zoned others? Yes, hence why I understand having to move on from both angles.
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I've heard these rumors and tales that one can get out of the friendzone..
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I've heard these rumors and tales that one can get out of the friendzone..


If attractive enough LOL
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I had that experience before. luckily, me and my crush are good friends. however, she's dating someone else. took me a while to get over. thanks to anime and video games, things are getting better and better. lol.
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Bob_Bob_Law wrote:

I've heard these rumors and tales that one can get out of the friendzone..


If attractive enough LOL


LOL I'm pretty sure that plays a big role when getting out.
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Bob_Bob_Law wrote:

I've heard these rumors and tales that one can get out of the friendzone..


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dEpxzeFzB6k
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xocutiev4lifexo wrote:


Bob_Bob_Law wrote:

I've heard these rumors and tales that one can get out of the friendzone..


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dEpxzeFzB6k


OMGness that was great thatnk you!
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The friend zone doesn't exist. It's nonsense made by fedora-tipping redditors crying because they think they're "nice guys" or whatever, when they really are just self-entitled. Anyways, if you're wondering why women choose tougher and jerkier guys, it's not b/c of the friendzone but is instead a survival trait of many species, women are more likely to be attracted to "alpha-males". Even if the friendzone did exist, why would you care? There are plenty of women in the world. How to escape the "friendzone": Don't believe in it. Also, just because you're a "nice guy", it doesn't mean anyone will want to be in a relationship with your or will want to bang it up like animals.

Flithy Frank on the "friendzone":
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cuyxIEmpmbc
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If you're the kind of guy who gets friendzoned, you probably want a serious relationship, but aren't ready for one yet. You are also probably either out of practice "hooking up", or don't know how. Or, as soon as anything happens with a girl you get mega attached and don't understand why.

Do the following:
1) Admit to yourself it will be years before you're ready for a serious relationship.
2) Admit to yourself that you haven't been acting on your sex drive in an actually legitimate way.
3) Go somewhere where there are girls and you can socialize. Talk to girls, say whatever pops into your head, and find one that seems excited to talk to you. Find a non-awkward way to get away from the group to talk. (If that step doesn't work, switch to a different girl.) When you are relatively alone find non-awkward excuses to touch each other: it can even be dumb stuff like thumb war. Find non-awkward ways to keep pushing the envelope with touching by tapping into YOUR own personality and sense of fun. If you feel like you've gotten far enough to where she wouldn't be uncomfortable if you played with her hair without asking permission, just try to kiss her dude. She won't get that alone with a guy and get that touchy-feely and then be SHOCKED you tried to kiss her. Try and and see, it's awesome. After you kiss, just keep doing the same thing -- find non-awkward ways to push the limits one step at a time -- but with sexual kind of stuff.
4) Repeat to yourself, it will be years before you're ready for a serious relationship. If you get serious with this girl, or any girl right now, things will crash and burn. Keep it light and fun. Learn to love being single and try to gain insight into the emotional issues behind your desperation.
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#3 Sounds more like the goal is a one night stand. ;p But I guess so if you're repeating "not ready for a relationship" over and over.
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You ever heard of Dr. Nerdlove? He's got a website that specializes in giving out dating (and general improvement) advice to nerds. Yup, that's right, tailor-made for nerds. Now, it's important to note that Dr. Nerdlove disapproves VERY STRONGLY about the idea of the "Nice Guy". Getting to know a girl under the pretense of forming a false friendship so you can eventually get into her pants is one of the seediest things you can do.

However, he does have a very well-written article (with plenty of supplemental links) about how he "got out of the friendzone" with his eventual wife. Long story short, they were friends first, he changed the way he looked and thought about himself, he learned how to dress and flirt, and most of all, he was keenly aware of what his date was feeling and of any "hey, not cool" warning signs. I'd take his advice over anyone else's here; as a woman myself, it's stuff I can actually get behind.

Article here: http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2013/05/anatomy-lesson-escaping-friend-zone/
P.S. I'd also suggest looking at his article about cross-gender friendships: http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2012/10/men-women-just-friends/

P.P.S. And here's his thoughts on the "Nice Guy" (and why it's a bad, bad thing for all parties involved): http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2012/12/problem-nice-guys/
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tf2pyros wrote:

Welcome, welcome boys and girls of all ages! Feast your eyes and step right up to the Friendzone! A circus of nice men who're usually the nicest guys out there, as the girls they love cry on their shoulders!

"Ouuu! Ahhh!"

Jokes aside, the friendzone is a fantastic-hellish place for guys like me. Not to boast, but I really am one of those nice men. I do not play girls, 'nor do I abuse them physically or mentally. My reputation and status around my area is pretty clean, and people know me as a well-rounded nice guy. My personality is giving and nurturing. Although, whenever I have my eyes on her, it heightens up. She notices it and likes it. Then out of the blue, BAM... all of a sudden went for a guy who doesn't deserve her and treats her badly. This leaves the guys like us inside this circus tent, playing out our "act" until our good karma arrives.

I hate the term "friendzone", but in most respects, and being a male, I find this true when you're on the baseball field of love.

What do you think of the friendzone? Females, it's a harsh place for guys like us, and as some may have never entered it yet.


Everybody thinks they are a "nice guy".

Yeah your giving and nurturing "heightens up" WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING FROM HER.
You are not entitled to a date for being helpful.

Pro tip: You aren't a nice guy because of this. You are a manipulative guy.
No offense, that's not a terrible thing. Next time try being a straight forward guy. THAT is a nice guy.
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"Friend zoned" dudes are guys trying to get something for being "nice". Not nice.
Compliment who they are, and just ask for a date FFS.
If they say no, don't cry and complain about it, and don't blame them.
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DAT FRIGGIN' STAGE...!!!
Posted 3/1/14 , edited 3/1/14
The term "friendzoned" seems strange to me, probably because I've never bolstered my confidence by presuming that she was or would be interested.

But, I tend to draw hasty conclusions, too. I've experienced a few unfortunate instances of "I just dumped my boyfriend and now I want to use you to get over my sadness," and I end up feeling worthless afterwards when they say something in the lines of "Why are you still here? Leave." It's my mistake, though, thinking that they would be interested in me for more than just sex. I really do suck at reading cues.
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