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The Friendzone...
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Posted 3/1/14

well, this topic is kind of tough for guys out there.
like, seriously it should be "nice guys finish last."
but, it turned the other way around..
and i kind of know the feeling (even if i haven't experienced it ) since i have a guy friend who share stories with me about this "friendzone" thingy. i feel the pain, coz he's soo sweet and soo nice with that girl he likes, but still end up with nothing.. owwhh~~
but, the thing is, its okay that way, i mean to get " friendzone" instead of being two-timed with the girl you like.
well, it sucks that way..
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You mean "looser zone".
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#1 rule to say out of the friend zone have confidence and tell them you are into her/him as soon as possible, don't let yourselves be friend zoned in the first place. All friend zones happen because you allow them to, you allowed yourself to be put in the situation. It doesn't matter if you are good looking are not, all you have to do is have confidence. The majority of girls/guy are insecure about themselves and therefor don't see when a girls/guy is into them and if they reject you don't let it bother you (I know easier said then done) but don't show them it bothers you then move on.
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Posted 3/1/14 , edited 9/12/14
Oh boo hoo, a girl doesn't like you in that way and probably actually values your friendship.

I really hate the friendzone because guys will go on and on about it. Claiming how hurt they are and how much of a "nice guy". BUT LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING. I probably have turned down a lot of guys because 99.9% I'm not interested in relationships and you know what they pretty much all did? They went around telling everyone how much of a whore/slut I was to all their little friends and how I lead them on... EXCUSE ME FOR WANTING BE FRIENDS AND NOW KNOWING MY FRIENDSHIP MEANS NOTHING. Funny thing is at that time I only have dated one guy. Those so called "nice guys" went around and made me look bad because they inserted nice coins into the girl machine and didn't get laid. I was hurt pretty badly.

I know there are some rare cases where guys really are "friendzoned" and really care about the girl but most of the time it's an excuse.
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Posted 3/1/14
No point being their friend if you view it differently. Unsuccessful? No problem, try the next one. Music plays but time goes on
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When I hear "friendzoned" I'm actually getting, "Friendship isn't enough, I don't want it, and I'm unwilling to find someone who will be more than just friends". If a girl gave me some comment about how I friendzoned her, I'd be highly offended, especially if I had no idea she felt that way. Why didn't you say something? Why didn't you just move on? Why is my friendship not enough?

Both genders get "friendzoned" but it's their fault.
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BishoujoOtakuness wrote:

Oh boo hoo, a girl doesn't like you in that way and probably actually values your friendship.

I really hate the friendzone because guys will go on and on about it. Claiming how hurt they are and how much of a "nice guy". BUT LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING. I probably have turned down a lot of guys because 99.9% I'm not interested in relationships and you know what they pretty much all did? They went around telling everyone how much of a whore/slut I was to all their little friends and how I lead them on... EXCUSE ME FOR WANTING BE FRIENDS AND NOW KNOWING MY FRIENDSHIP MEANS NOTHING. Funny thing is at that time I only have dated one guy. Those so called "nice guys" went around and made me look bad because they inserted nice coins into the girl machine and didn't get laid. I was hurt pretty badly.

I know there are some rare cases where guys really are "friendzoned" and really care about the girl but most of the time it's an excuse.


^ That.

And BS to anyone going around saying they are "Nice" and complaining about how much work being nice is when they don't get what they want.
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Posted 3/1/14 , edited 9/12/14
"Nice Guys" who like to (or have to) tell girls that they're "Nice Guys" usually have some sort of ulterior motive. I mean, why does any guy have to outright say that they're "nice"?

Anyway, I'll just leave this here for your viewing pleasure


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Honestly, I'm the nice guy who's only ever the friend, but I'm actually okay with that. It saves a lot of hassle. You can say I'm bragging about saying I'm a 'nice guy' but really? I help others wherever I can, I've never started a fight nor been in one, I've never made any enemies, I've made people laugh a lot and don't recall ever making anyone sad on purpose. What, does that mean I'm an over-confident asshole? Now, I value friendship very much and for now it's enough for me, but I don't see why saying you're a nice guy instantly means you're probably a bragging overentitled prick as some people on this forum believe, as if saying something like 'well I'm not a bad guy' makes you infinitely more respectable. I don't expect a relationship out of girls because I'm nice to them, but I DO expect decency and kindness from them, or anyone in general, in return.
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Posted 3/1/14 , edited 9/12/14
So, every guy/girl is only a friend these days for the sake of 'getting laid' (what I've seen multiple times in the posts here)? Wow, never once have I ever thought of that, in having friendships that eventually move further to the point of having feelings more to the tune of 'relationships'. I usually start a friendship, with no intent of getting attraction of that type to the other person, then months/years later realize I care about whoever more than as a 'friend' and want a relationship rather than just 'getting laid'.

To the ones wanting to say 'just tell her/him how you feel', thats a great way to end a friendship since some people can't just move on with that knowledge so its not as easy as 'just say how you feel'. Friendzone is in both genders but tends to hit males a lot more often than females in my experience, people just undervalue friends thus don't ever notice them in 'that way'.
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The amount of beta faggots in this post makes me want to throw up......................
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26 / M / Vancouver, BC.
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Look, I don't care what anyone tells you. I have crawled out of the friend-zone twice in my life. It took time and it worked both of the times I committed to the operation, and eventually it worked out. Of course I don't mean at the same time, it was two very different times, but you don't have to be attractive or a smooth talker... Or rich. Just stick around, show her you will always care... Maybe save her life or whatever. Stage a grenade being thrown in front of her and then just dive on it haha.
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I was the one friendzoning all the girls in High School. I was in a pretty decent relationship starting my Sophomore year and didn't want to ruin it so I just friendzoned any girl who wanted anything more than friendship, which surprisingly was a few...

After that relationship though I went and pretty much evened out between girls friendzoning me and me friendzoning girls. I dated a few here or there, but for the most part I was just friends with girls and never got past that point.
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Posted 3/1/14 , edited 9/12/14
Sounds like a whiner thread. Everyone deals with being friend zoned. Get over it and move on. If you want to be her friend, then be her friend. If not, walk away. It is that simple. Don't get hanged up on a girl just because she says no thanks. That's like throwing a tantrum because a single Star bucks closed down. Go across the street to the other one and get on with your day.
Posted 3/1/14 , edited 9/12/14

BLACKOUTMK2 wrote:

Honestly, I'm the nice guy who's only ever the friend, but I'm actually okay with that. It saves a lot of hassle. You can say I'm bragging about saying I'm a 'nice guy' but really? I help others wherever I can, I've never started a fight nor been in one, I've never made any enemies, I've made people laugh a lot and don't recall ever making anyone sad on purpose. What, does that mean I'm an over-confident asshole? Now, I value friendship very much and for now it's enough for me, but I don't see why saying you're a nice guy instantly means you're probably a bragging overentitled prick as some people on this forum believe, as if saying something like 'well I'm not a bad guy' makes you infinitely more respectable. I don't expect a relationship out of girls because I'm nice to them, but I DO expect decency and kindness from them, or anyone in general, in return.


You put value in things that will result in good outcomes. What do you mean by "saves a lot of hassle?" Take a chance.




BASALISK1234 wrote:

Sounds like a whiner thread. Everyone deals with being friend zoned. Get over it and move on. If you want to be her friend, then be her friend. If not, walk away. It is that simple. Don't get hanged up on a girl just because she says no thanks. That's like throwing a tantrum because a single Star bucks closed down. Go across the street to the other one and get on with your day.



Noooooo Starbucks! -hyperventilates- I don't want to walk further than this T_T
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