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My parents argued ad infinitum for over 50 years .The crowning glory was literally on my mothers deathbed.She proceeded to castigate my father for some long forgotten slight,(At the time my father suffered from moderate post stroke dementia),and he just stood there smiling asking my sister if there was any cake.
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My parents used to fight all the time, but concerning money and finances mostly. But man, that's rough having problems with family members. My dad and my uncle had conflict between one another as well a few years back, and my dad prevented us from seeing him. Not that I minded to be honest - I was too young to care and it wasn't like he was my main caregiver. It's never pleasant though, and I'm sorry you're going through it now. Hope things turn out alright Stay positive!
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My parents argued and fought like hell for 35 years only staying together for the kids. My dad saw multiple women on the side which my mom hated, but my mom was with another man for two years when I was 12. They hated each other I never saw how two people could hate each other and stay together. Don't get me wrong though as a kid birthday parties, going out to do things they where always smiling and nice to each other around us kids and family. They never fought when around other people, I swear to god my best friends mom thought they where the perfect couple. When we all grew up (my youngest sister finally graduated college) they finally got a divorce and my dad moved out. Sometimes love can conquer hate. I post this as a success story because although my parents fought they loved us enough to see it through til we where old enough to take care of ourselves, now if only your parents love you that much. That's a different question for another day.
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My parents have been fighting my hole life ever since I was 4 I remember sitting on the stairs crying listening while my parents were yelling over car - keys because my mom was going to leave. I was in every fight defending my mom. Because she will sit there and take the blame. I even got involved in self-harming, I'm out of it but still, I was traumatized.

Just when there fighting go for a walk.
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My parent's don't really argue for the most part, but when they do it sucks.
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Parents argue. Some more than others. When I was younger my mom and dad had a period where they almost left each other. My dad was spending alot more time at work and my mom always questioned him. Eventually they both had flings on the side, briefly. Surpisingly? They forgave each other, realized their faults, and now are happier then ever. They don't argue at all and spend their time together like an old couple. So parents do fight. I hope it works out for you.
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My parents argue about the dreams they have and what stupid advice I should follow based on those dreams.
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I have. I grew up in a broken home when I was a kid, so I feel your pain. I don't want to get into the details about it, but I know exactly what you are going through. If you want to talk, let me know.
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It's quite a while since I heard them properly argue, but it was still quite discomforting when they did. Honestly, I don't remember what they argued about, but I definitely know that a few years back my dad had a terribly frightening temper. Even if I wasn't involved in any of it, just hearing them yell at the top of their voices was enough to unnerve me.

The last big argument which didn't involve yelling or fighting but made things awkward around the dinner table was at Christmas about 3 or 4 years ago. My mum was helping cook the meal and my dad was apparently just standing around the kitchen watching everything she did. She thought 'fuck it, I'm not having him judging everything I do with a sour look on his face' and for whatever reason decided to go to her dad's grave of all places.

Meanwhile, that annoyed my grandma (her mum) who'd come over, but there wasn't much she could do, so in the meantime she went into the lounge with my dad and had a few words with him about how me and my brother would tell her in the past that his temper always used to scare us. I think that, coupled with how my mum had recently said if he didn't stop mistreating us she'd get a divorce probably got him into sorting himself out.

They still have their problems, him and my mum. Heck, my mum wants to divorce him at some point still because she just isn't happy, but the business he runs is shared between them 50/50 and he says he'll liquidate it if she leaves him, throwing her into a state where she has no way of making any money. She doesn't have a job, but in return does all the housework and about 80% of the shopping. They're never really at each others throats, it's just that my mum isn't in love with my dad anymore. It's also tough for them. My dad works from 9 till half 5 and does all the work by himself (no employees since everyone he's ever hired he caught stealing on the security cameras) and sometimes he works overtime or at home if he has a lot to do. Then my mum has chronic fatigue where she's constantly tired and never feels refreshed. They just try and get along when they're together because of how we're all under the same roof. Anyway, I hope it gets better for you.
Posted 3/2/14
Lol sorry, just read OP. Not really because my parents moved to isolate themselves from family. Wish you the best of luck.
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Not so much anymore, because my grandparents are in China and we live in Canada. My mom says if we had not moved to Canada, my parents would have probably gotten divorced already.

My dad is pretty sensitive when it comes to his family. If my mom or I say anything bad about his parents or his sisters, he often gets into a really bad mood. My mom and I just avoid the topic mostly.

Background information...well, my mom and my dad came from different cities. My dad's side of the family is more well off, and my grandma (dad's mom) always looked down on my mom because she thought my mom was lower in social class. Because my parents come from two different cities, their social class was actually the same but it seemed different because my dad's side's jobs were more prestigious (prosecutor, judge, etc) while my mom's side were less. (teacher, architect)

There used to be a lot of fighting but not so much anymore, basically. Sorry this post goes all over the place, it's tough to find somewhere to start.
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Going from the title: Do my parents argue? Well yeah... they're married... I don't think there is a couple, married or not, on this planet who doesn't argue about SOMETHING... hell trying to say that people don't argue, too me, is a big fat lie... and mine have a lot too argue about... hell if it wasn't for my handicapped sister, they'd probably be divorced already.


Anyway onto the more... detailed specific question...

Have they ever argued over something I like...

Hmm hard to answer that really... I know my mom didn't care for one of my ex's before, so they got in a few spiffs I think over how they should/should not convince me to break up with her. Other than that though... not really I don't think they ever really cared about what I like or dislike... they are pretty damn accepting parents when it comes to what I like or dislike, and don't bother me if it bothers them.
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Posted 3/2/14
The worst arguing was never between my parents, it was between my father's parents. It was usually about something stupid as hell and my grandmother was dumping gas on the fire. We'd live at my grandparent's house every now and then to save money or help them out. Our family was ruled by a slightly megalomaniacal and manipulative witch, (I mean that in the worst possible way), and my aunts leaned those lessons well.
About the only arguments between my folks were mom getting dad off his ass to help her with housework. They used have some pretty bad arguments but my older brother got to be witness to that, the folks were starting to figure things out better by the time I popped out.

My folks didn't argue about the rest of the family much and if they did it was about how their own siblings could be such narcissistic shit-asses.
It could be complicated.

Suffice it to say that most of my extended family is the biggest bunch of flakes it has been my sorry misfortune to know. Just because you are related does not mean you really are family. IE; If they weren't my relatives, most of them sure as f#ck wouldn't be my friends.

Can you say,"dysfunctional family?"

I've been saying it for more than three decades...
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OP nuked.

Feel free to recreate.

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