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Things you regret doing as an adult
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On one hand my life is pretty good right now and I realize it would be different if any of the things I could regret would change. However, there are things that I wish I handled better.

I have a few minor regrets about debt and not saving more for retirement. But, I haven't really screwed things up in those areas, they could just be better.

The one big regret is how my first marriage ended and that we didn't try to address the issues that eventually caused it four or five years before the marriage fell apart. I think we stayed together for the last 4 or 5 years of the marriage due to both of us being too afraid of being alone than actually wanting to live with the other person. However, I am in a really good second marriage and I'm now much better at dealing with issues when they happen instead of just letting it slide. I did learn some lessons from mistakes in the first marriage that I'm applying to the second.
Posted 3/14/14
Becoming an "adult"...
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Moving back home....

The grass was just sooo green though....
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Yea, I'd say the whole Becoming an "adult" thing... (I question if I'm really am one sometimes :P). I Should had taken better advantage of my teens and early 20's. Going on my 30's at the end of this year and looking back I have some minor regrets.. . But Nothing I can't technically do yet. Plus some adults and kids think I'm still in school, which can be kind of funny when I tell them otherwise.
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Life's too short. And getting shorter by the millisecond.
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I regret a lot of things which I won't tell you about. I bury them and continue forward, or shoulder them and continue forward.
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I regret drinking with my friends so soon.
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sonrivera wrote:

I don't regret anything as an adult. Without all the mistakes I have made in my life, I wouldn't have become the.. somewhat.. wise man I am today. Mistakes are never a bad thing, unless you don't learn from them.


According to Nietzsche, and I paraphrase, a life with no regrets is the only 'good' life. If you have regrets, then you've lived a bad life.

Basically, if you'd relive life and change nothing, then you've lived a good life. I try to live by that idea, although I would change a few things. Overall, I haven't made any life changing mistakes and nothing to truly regret. Basically, would have not quit some jobs and have not accepted others. Happy with my spouse and current job and have decided to stick with this job so I don't repeat that regret of having quit a good one (that luckily wasn't as good as where I'm at now).
Posted 3/16/14
I don't regret doing anything as an adult.I regret many things I did as a teenager : /
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Regrets...everyone has them....if they tell you that they don't have any regrets then they are one of two things:

1) Lying
or
2) A robot

Do I have regrets....YES....can you go back and fix them...NO I have learned to accept what I have done in my life and chalk it up to life experiences that I can pass on to my kids so that they don't make the same stupid bonehead mistakes that I have done.

RL is just as important (if not more so) than what we have going on here in the CR forums. For me, this is an escape from the RL drama that I am surrounded by and a healthy decompression tool to regain some sanity back to tackle RL issues after a short break

Cheers!
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I do.
I do regret every little minute I wasted in my life.
This felt ok in 20s - minutes, hours, days wasted, procrastinated.
In the beginning, I did not appreciate time as precious as it was - my life.
Now the realization of how much time I wasted - it is neverending, burning pain.
The only way to silence it is live 100% life every remaining day and hour.
It's not that I did nothing. I always had goals, and went for them, trained my skills regularly in what I loved and everyone who knew me would say I was workaholic. But inbetween tiresome dedication I slacked just enough to always keep myself step away from success in everything, wasting myself on worthless things. Intuitively I knew it then already. Alas I didn't realize it was going to hurt this much.
If only I could go back in time and tell myself: boy, don't waste little freaking minute of your life. If you are tired and sick of what you do - then learn to draw, dance, study exotic language, do whatever, pack the day with hard but joyful things and you'll hit the pillow with smile on your lips every night. 30 minutes of favorite book / anime / whatever will be reward to finish perfect day - versus watching movies or reading random things night away - to only make you feel ashamed, spoil the joy, half-ruin next day (and failure of hardworker is made of these regular trip-ups).
70% for the goals / 30% for the rest - road to nowhere. Only 95% / 5% (and this will make these 5% with friends, family and everything much more fun).
Mind you, I did one stupid mistake in my life that pretty much destroyed lots of what I've been studying for 12 years and forced me to drastically reconsider my path, switch career, go back to Uni and so on. That was sad, but that was... an accident. Yes, stupid. But I don't blame myself for that. But for the time I wasted over and over in past - I do and I regret, more.
Life is so short. In 20s it feels like you are immortal. But those are just 10 years. Same are 30s and 40s and 50s. Entire life is made of enumerable amount of tenners. Feeling that you lived 100% may be more important than factual achievements.
Of course 20s are made for being crazy, by god please do (taking all the care though lol), but only enjoyable things are worthwile. Wasting time is not one of them.
Ahh that's not easy to open up to strangers like that, but you guys here are all manga/anime fans, so I trust you all to be nice anyway And I wanted to write this in hope that may be it will be at least of some use for some occasional younger reader. Writing this I sure I will not regret.
Cheers
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Posted 3/16/14
not doing well enough at school to get a scholarship at college *sobs
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I regret not taking a Police department and School to court for forcibly pushing me out of school for something I didn't do. Unfortunately the car accident that almost killed my mother was messing with me since it wouldn't of been so bad if I would of taken the extra time to reinstall the seat I replaced since the new seat didn't have matching safety restraints that allowed for the belts to buckle. She recovered, but is no longer able to work. Getting lonely and letting myself throw away thousands of dollars supporting single mothers that just used me, since I thought it would be better to find someone with a child already, since I would rather not pass on a genetic disease that causes blindness. Yea I have quite a bit that I regret in my life that leaves me bitter, cynical, and resentful of those that had their fun over my almost decade of celibacy because of my concern that I already had a child that turned out to be another mistake and the child was the dealers'.
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Darkerthaneden wrote:

A few years ago I decided to get roommates.... between all the bills within 3 months they owed me $3,000 each I was working 80 hrs. a week to help pay off my car and instead I paid the deposits for the rents and 2 more months of rent along with gas, power, and internet.... And when I put in my 30day notice they would wake me up to call me a slut and a bitch and threaten to punch me in the face and stuff like that and they would also text me during work doing the same thing. I took them to court, won and I haven't seen a cent because with how the courts are set up... So I wasted more money to win money I will never see... Also note I was the only female and my roommates were both men. I will never get a roommate again. But I regret for how I became after that. I am a Nazi with money now. I won't even lend $5 unless I really trust the person, which might be 4 people.


If you have a legal judgement against them, as in a judge has ordered them to pay you money, you can make life very difficult. If they owe you $6000 combined it is worth a lawyer's time to go after them. They will usually just take 20-50% off the top. It's also worth noting that you can claim interest as well, potentially collecting more money the longer they dodge you. With a legal judgement it is easy to freeze bank accounts, garnish paychecks etc. This can often be done even years after the judgement. I suggest handing your case to an attorney that specializes in collections.
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