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About a year ago I was at an end of an intimate relationship with this guy, him and I had been dating for about two years. And during these two year I had fallen hard for him. To the point were I didn't really talk to anyone that he didn't like , saw him everyday because that is what he wanted. We did everything he wanted so needlessly to say I was his b*tch and to be honest I was okay with it. He was my prince charming in eyes, he knew a lot about car, owned the big truck, had a job, had the stone edge cool kid vibe to him, the guys I see in the manga I read so how could I not fall in love with him. Now don't get me wrong he was a great caring guy who was always their for me when I needed him and I like to believe that he loved me to since he said so. Towards the end of our relations he became fickle with what he wanted; during our awkward broken-up kind of still together time he started seeing another girl which really didn't bother me because I knew we were ending as a couple and she knew about me or at least I though she did. Him and I were still sleeping with each other and he was sleeping with the new girl he met, now don't get me wrong this bothered me but I really didn't want thing to end with him and I so I told him I didn't mind as long as she didn't he had told me she knew all about us still seeing each other in the manner. I found out the hard way later that she didn't know; he had actually told her him and I only dated for a short time and were more like close cousins and weren't sleeping together. once I found out he was lying I told her, Which put him in a situation of picking me or her. He choose her; which hurt a lot but I wished him only happiness. We became distant after that; then we kept bumping into each other at parties he had told me that him and her were over and he was trying the single thing, he had never really lied to me so I believed him and he started seeing each other again. Then she calls me freaking out on me for sleeping with her boyfriend, like I knew that they were still together. After that I stopped talking to him and haven't since. But there is still the linger of love whenever I think of him i wish I could make it go away but it won't. To help avoid him I stopped going to parties unless I knew for sure he wouldn't be there. But on the 29th of this month is a good friends of my birthday party and dinner ( two separate events) the problem is the guy I dated is also good friends with him and more then likely be there. I don't know whether or not I should just miss the whole thing. But to be honest I am sick of avoiding him. I feel like enough time as passed were we can act like adults and just have a good time for our shared buddy. What would you do in my shoes?
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Posted 3/15/14
I would stop asking for advice from people on the internet.
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Posted 3/15/14
If you think you can handle it, go for it. Sometimes you have to do things you may not be comfortable with, just to get comfortable with it.

Go outside your comfort zone!
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Omg grow some balls. You're okay with another man treating you like his bitch...ugh, why?

Honestly, just move on..nd forget about him...seriously....He's fucked you over and he's fucked another woman over and because he knows you'll probably end up coming back to him, he'll keep running back to you. If you don't put your foot down then you are going to continue in the cycle of being fucked over.

Well, I wouldn't let my ex stop me from going to my friend's party regardless of how weird it feels. Just make short chit chat - "Hey, how are you doing, blah blah blah" and kind of do your own thing. If you guys are mingling together with the same person then just act natural but also keeping up that red line - "I'm not here to mingle with you, get back with you, etc, I'm here for my friend...got it?"

He may try and get back with ya but hey, if you want to go ahead but I suggest you don't.
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i read all of that, why did i


JamesSabs wrote:

I would stop asking for advice from people on the internet.


nah son conflicting opinions are always the best advice
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Posted 3/15/14
IT is up to how strong you feel you are. You shouldn't skip out on life because of him. And he did lie to you. So live your life and forget about him. As long he thinks he can make a play for you, he will keep you on a string (or try to).
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Posted 3/15/14 , edited 3/15/14
Easier said than done. I actually think, if you don't believe you can control yourself, you should just not party for a little while. Go to museums and art galleries and zoos with your friends. If you must drink, do so with a close friend or a group of close friends at a non-party setting. Take a hike and pick up a new hobby. Start working out. Go on a road trip. Do volunteer work.

It's okay to feel weird around the person but if you feel tempted to keep going back and you know it's harmful, think logically about it and take steps to avoid putting yourself in a situation in which you can 'relapse' since the more you do it, the longer you will feel bad.

I find solace in reading and writing. You could give it a shot as well.
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Posted 3/15/14 , edited 3/15/14
My first advice would be......... To not ask people on the internet for advice, you never know what kind of answer you might get... :crazy:
Also, why did I bother to read all of that?
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^I'm guessing she's feeling so bad about it that she feels as though she needs to. And that's okay.

Happens to the best of us, we get into situations that stress us out so much we crave someone to share our stress with, anyone. Letting it all out can be therapeutic. Just knowing another person is thinking about i and putting themselves in your shoes can make you feel a little better.

It's usually pretty easy to distinguish between a trolltastic answer and something serious, anyway.
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Posted 3/15/14
TL;DR
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Posted 3/15/14 , edited 3/15/14
Is there a TL;DR? That green killed my eyesight.
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Girl broke up with guy a while back. Wants to go to party where guy will be. Thinks she'll be okay. Is this okay?
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Posted 3/15/14 , edited 3/15/14

mdmzero0 wrote:



Girl broke up with guy a while back. Wants to go to party where guy will be. Thinks she'll be okay. Is this okay?


oh thank u
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Posted 3/15/14
DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO GURL GOTO THAT PARTY AND HAVE SOME FUN AND FORGET ABOUT YO EX
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Posted 3/15/14 , edited 3/15/14

orange-chan wrote:


mdmzero0 wrote:



Girl broke up with guy a while back. Wants to go to party where guy will be. Thinks she'll be okay. Is this okay?


oh thank u


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