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Posted 3/15/14
Ignore him?
Posted 3/15/14
He just wants sex. At this point I would say to ask yourself if you really do love him or if you're just after the same thing. What is it that draws you to him? Attraction? Lust? Once you figure out the answer to this, it'll be easier to pick a course of action.

I, personally, wouldn't go through all the trouble of trying to avoid him. That just tells him that you're obviously still not over him; therefore, he knows he can easily just sweet talk you and reel you back in again just so he can get what he wants. Just do your thing. Don't even keep him in your mind. If you see him, act like you're over him...

Mind over matter, sweetheart.
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The best piece of advice for any situation: Ranger Up! Yup.
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I'd get over him. He's a scumbag and deserves whatever happens to him. You deserve better. But get over him. It's not like there won't be more guys.

As for the party, it depends - can you go there, have fun in spite of him being there? If you can, I would go. If you're going to have a miserable time because he's there and you know it, I would stay home. You might contact the friend whose birthday it is, wish him a happy birthday and tell him you can't make it. I personally would tell him why you REALLY aren't coming, but then, I never minded rocking the boat.
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JamesSabs wrote:

I would stop asking for advice from people on the internet.


Shhhhhh.
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You are certain to a degree that you don't want to avoid him anymore because you are an adult, right? Might as well go.
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Girl, it's obvious he never loved you from the beginning, but you are doing the right thing now. I hope you learned your lesson about bad men, but be mature and let his mistakes go. I'm not saying go out with him by any means. Don't go running back to him. He's just going to hurt you again. However, there's nothing wrong with tolerating him while you are with this current guy. Be the mature one until he pulls another immature stunt. Let the current guy know how you feel about your ex too. Honesty is key to all relationships.
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JamesSabs wrote:

I would stop asking for advice from people on the internet.


Your avatar gives me a seizure.
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Posted 3/15/14
I'd kick his ass, but that's just me.
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Eat his face, and then wear it in front of the enemy girl like a true face stealing monster! Oh, wait. You aren't physically capable of that. Shame. Really sad.
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>.>.....don't ask for advice on the internet. Damn you guys be some cold sunzabitches.

Anyhow....that guy is definitely an asshole in some respects. Feel confident walking into wherever you need/want to knowing that he's probably going to ruin his own shot at happiness by sleeping around or just being a dick. It isn't a healthy relationship when the other person implies that you ought to be doing whatever makes he/she feel more comfortable.....like giving up friends or whatever.

Anyway it might be odd to attend a social function with this guy but consider him the biggest bullet to have been dodged. Unfortunately your partner doesn't cease to exist when the relationship is over and this guy is probably going to learn that lesson threefold in the future-- maybe even after growing a potbelly and losing some hair, who knows?

Also, again who knows because anyone here wouldn't know the specifics buuut.......he probably doesn't give half a shit about you or the other girl. Maybe he's got another option but probably the only thing that really matters to this guy is himself so I wouldn't be too worried about getting extra negative attention. If he really is spitting out lies so easily odds are that others know he's a liar. They're very easy to pick out.
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Posted 3/15/14
OP needs to get her priorities on check.
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Posted 3/16/14
I'd say, stay for the dinner. Because, food.

But afterwards, look at your watch and be like "sorry, I can only be here for a little while since I'm busy doing important things like studying or work and being badass, but its nice seeing you all here and happy birthday." IT'd also be good to warn your friends ahead of time that you can't stay too long.

Keep in mind, though, you can't avoid him forever. There are some situations where you have to face the danger, despite the fear you feel. Just remember to affirm yourself every morning one of these phrases:

"I am an independent young woman who needs no man"

or

"I am fire. I AM DEATH."
optional: *roar and breathe fire* ROOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRR

I suggest the Death part. Because after a while of chanting that to your reflection in the mirror, you start feeling like a powerful deity, or something.
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Posted 3/16/14
You probably shouldn't go to the party since it sounds that you are still in love with him and going to the party would really hurt you.
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