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Posted 3/19/14

When a little boy asserts himself, he's called a “leader.”

When a little boy asserts himself, I call him a bully.

It’s my nature to be a bit contrarian. I always stand a little to the side, so whenever the herd starts running, I’m able see what's up ahead.
My final observation is if you don't want to be called bossy, don't be bossy. If you don't want to be called a bitch, then don't be a bitch. And if you encourage little girls to be bossier and bitchier, guess what you will get?
Posted 3/19/14 , edited 3/19/14

qualeshia3 wrote:

I thought this thread was a joke until I went to the website...



I didn't even go to the website but there was that stupid advert that used Mad World as a song.
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I can't agree more with the ban promotion. It doesn't stop one from pronouncing "Boss" or say "Hey Boss, what do you want me to do today?" I had called some females boss before and they took it normal.
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I think it's important to recognize the heart of the matter here:

The point is this- when boys take charge and show leadership skills, it's accepted, desired even. They're "being a man." It's "what men do" they lead, they take charge. Now, if a girl takes charge and exhibits leadership skills, it's "she's being bossy" (or worse terms).

So the matter isn't about whether girls should literally be more bossy or less bossy. The point is to bring awareness to the fact that a man taking charge is "showing natural leadership skills" whereas a woman taking charge is "being bossy" (a negative connotation). It's trying to address the gender inequality that men are viewed as, and accepted as, leaders in our society, while women are not.

In the spirit of that, this "ban bossy" campaign is really saying that when a women takes charge, recognize her as the leader she is, instead of rebutting her because she's not a man.

TL;DR - IT'S NOT LITERAL it's about gender inequalities that are real and are a problem.
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Posted 3/19/14

Artarivan wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

I thought this thread was a joke until I went to the website...



I didn't even go to the website but there was that stupid advert that used Mad World as a song.


I didn't know such a site exist.

Posted 3/19/14

qualeshia3 wrote:


Artarivan wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

I thought this thread was a joke until I went to the website...



I didn't even go to the website but there was that stupid advert that used Mad World as a song.


I didn't know such a site exist.



I'm guessing it exists because of the advert. It was such a hot topic when it came out because everyone was criticizing it. All saying the same thing but with different words.
Posted 3/19/14 , edited 3/19/14

Artarivan wrote:

I don't get it. What is it he's talking about?


No idea. He just used my word of the day which is 'canary.' Lol..

I honestly don't think he understood you so he replied with something to confuse you. Why he threw me in, I have no clue, but I thought it was pretty neat that he did that.

P.S. Mad World is a good song.
Posted 3/19/14

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Artarivan wrote:

I don't get it. What is it he's talking about?


No idea. He just used my word of the day which is 'canary.' Lol..

I honestly don't think he understood you so he replied with something to confuse you. Why he threw me in, I have no clue, but I thought it was pretty neat that he did that.


I just wanted to know what you'd reply with :). Okay, cool.
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Posted 3/19/14 , edited 3/19/14

Artarivan wrote:You argued against the ban like there is some truth to it.


There is some truth to more girls having problems with confidence than boys. It's somewhat serious, which is why there are so many activists attacking anything that could damage a girl's confidence, like fashion magazines, the word "bossy", and such.
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Posted 3/19/14

Kavalion wrote:


Artarivan wrote:You argued against the ban like there is some truth to it.


There is some truth to more girls having problems with confidence than boys. It's somewhat serious, which is why there are so many activists attacking anything that could damage a girl's confidence, like fashion magazines, the word "bossy", and such.


They're not attacking the actual word "bossy." They're attacking the cultural mindset that men are leaders, women are not. Men who show leadership abilities are values, women who show leadership abilities are put down as "bossy." That's where the slogan came from.
Posted 3/19/14

mdmzero0 wrote:

They're not attacking the actual word "bossy." They're attacking the cultural mindset that men are leaders, women are not. Men who show leadership abilities are values, women who show leadership abilities are put down as "bossy." That's where the slogan came from.


I call men bossy.... you guys gonna launch a slogan against me now too?
Posted 3/19/14
This is so asinine and stupid because it does not change anything people could easily evoke synonyms, homonyms, antonyms, etc, of that word to find another word to replace it, Even worse people will just invent new words to take over from there; not to mention this issue is totally pointless because guys do get shit too if we are ever assertive we are called brown nosers, ass kissers, assholes, douche bags, and cue

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Posted 3/19/14

demongurrl13 wrote:
I honestly don't think he understood you so he replied with something to confuse you. Why he threw me in, I have no clue, but I thought it was pretty neat that he did that.


Just a friendly joke I thought people who had read the whole thread would appreciate. Not really meant to confuse anyone.
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mdmzero0 wrote:

They're not attacking the actual word "bossy." They're attacking the cultural mindset that men are leaders, women are not. Men who show leadership abilities are values, women who show leadership abilities are put down as "bossy." That's where the slogan came from.


A leader takes on the burdens of the group and is strong, charismatic, smart, responsible, they know where their going, they speak for the group.

If they can't take a little heat like being called bossy, would you want to follow that leader?
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Posted 3/19/14

demongurrl13 wrote:


mdmzero0 wrote:

They're not attacking the actual word "bossy." They're attacking the cultural mindset that men are leaders, women are not. Men who show leadership abilities are values, women who show leadership abilities are put down as "bossy." That's where the slogan came from.


I call men bossy.... you guys gonna launch a slogan against me now too?


If that by calling them "bossy" you mean it as an attempt to put them down and ensure that they don't hold leadership roles, and also that you and yourself alone are the single driving force behind determining American culture and social perspectives, then yes, I would campaign against that.

Again, as I've said, it's not a literal fight to ban the word "bossy." It is not intended to make the word "bossy" illegal. It is intended to bring awareness and change to the cultural perspective that a women who shows leadership qualities should be put down until she chooses not to lead anymore.
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